https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 04:00:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-struggling#post-1862431 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 22:19:26 +0000 skibobrown 1862431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, oh yes! My daughter is 2.5 now, and if we're going to have another child, we're going to need to do it soon. I had severe PPD after she was born, and it still weighs on me. Those first months were terrifying. They were the biggest challenge I have ever pushed through, and I am beyond scared to do it all again. I absolutely love my daughter now, and I would be thrilled for her to have a sibling. I just with we could skip over the early parts of the baby phase. DH feels similarly, despite not dealing with the depression issues that I did. Those first few months are just so challenging. I think we will eventually get on the baby-making bandwagon again -- probably later this year. However, in our future there are going to be a lot of discussions about having a plan in place to handle the early months. </p> <p>Oh, and I forgot to mention that my daughter has always been very easy, so I can't even imagine having a colicky or otherwise challenging second child.</p> <p>So anyways, I don't really have any advice for you, but wanted to let you know that I understand your worries. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-struggling#post-1862428 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 22:08:15 +0000 ALV91711 1862428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your son is gorgeous. </p> <p>While I may not have gone through everything you have I know the feeling of not being ready for another.</p> <p>Before having DS we definitely wanted 2 and for the to be 2-3 years apart. DS is 18 months now and I'm not even ready to consider being pregnant again. If we do decide on another it will more likely be a 3-4 year age gap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-struggling#post-1862413 Sun, 14 Sep 2014 21:41:39 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 1862413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh your photos are beautiful! I love UP and even did a hot air balloon theme birthday this year for my kids because of it. </p> <p>I didnt want to read and not post but I totally understand where you are coming from with your worries and fears. I struggled a lot when my son was born in 2010 and though we didnt have nearly as many issues as you did (namely colic and PPD) we did suffer through breastfeeding issues relating to an undiagnosed tongue tie that lead to weight loss, falling off the charts, and the worries that stem from that. On top of that my son didnt sleep through the night til 11 1/2 months which made life so much tougher as well. After our first year, as much as I adored him, I simply wasnt ready for another baby...like ever. I just couldnt handle the year I had. When TTC again crept around I was seriously not sure I could do it all again We waited and I was seriously considering waiting even longer when we did get pregnant with my daughter.</p> <p>The bright side of the story is my daughter was a lot easier in many ways than my son. We still struggled with weight issues but she did breastfeed better and eat better as a baby now and she slept through the night around 7 1/2 months which felt like a lifetime difference from her brother so whenever you decided to try again know that it will be ok and you will make it. Good luck for whenever you know you are ready </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-struggling#post-1859387 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 22:34:26 +0000 MrsHoneyC 1859387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: Thank you ! i love love the movie UP. So adorable. So when it came time for a new round of photos that seemed like a good fit. </p> <p>Thanks for the responses ladies. I feel like its something i might have to go talk to my dr. about eventually whenever we decide to start TTC again. You guys bring up good points about every pregnancy being different and every baby being different. There must be a big adjustment that happens when you become a mom of 2. Everyone keeps telling me your heart just grows bigger. &amp; while i've always thought i wanted 2-3 kids and for my son to have siblings somedays i am just not so sure because fear keeps holding me back. I really appreciate the responses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-struggling#post-1859113 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 20:29:08 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1859113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i had a lot of reservations about having a second when #1 was a newborn. i don't think we had as many issues as you did, but i had such a hard time adjusting that i never wanted to do it again. even at 9 months, i was like, yeah i GUESS i can do it again because i do ultimately want 2-3 kids, but i wasn't convinced yet. i think after she turned 1, i felt like i could definitely do it again and around 15 months when she started to turn into this little person, i got crazy baby fever. i think you should just wait and see how you feel....they change a lot in 6 months. unless there is a pressing reason to have them close in age, don't rush it if you are not ready. i think that will just add to the anxiety. you'll know when you are ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-struggling#post-1858606 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 17:08:34 +0000 shopaholic 1858606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww! He is adorable and I LOVE the Up theme pics! Awww mama, I can't understand completely in your situation, but I do struggle back and forth with when I'd want to TTC again. I actually wish I had gotten pregnant maybe before the onset of these toddler tantrums and antics, because then I'd already be all in. Instead, the onset of the Terrible Twos makes me exhausted thinking about starting all over again. We'll see. Like @tequiero21: said, people keep telling me every pregnancy and every child is different. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-struggling#post-1858577 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 16:55:06 +0000 tequiero21 1858577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the thing to go by is that every pregnancy and every baby are different! Hoping the next time is a lot better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-struggling#post-1858557 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 16:49:12 +0000 Radish 1858557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All throughout LOs first year I had major doubts on and off about being able to mentally handle a second anytime soon. Once she turned one something clicked and I was completely ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-else-struggling#post-1858524 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 16:17:11 +0000 MrsHoneyC 1858524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hello Hive! Not to get into too much detail but i feel like my story might be relevant to this thread &amp; give some background info. dec. 10th 2013 i gave birth to a baby boy, he was everything i dreamed of, but things turned pretty dark for us. Weight loss, colic, acid reflux, postpartum depression, breastfeeding issues and the fact that my baby boy didn't start sleeping longer than 2 hours at a time until 2 months ago at 7 months old. (pheww!! now that that is out of the way) </p> <p>This is my buddy, he is 9 months old, his colic is gone, he just got taken off of monthly weigh ins because he was deemed "average!" never has a word sounded sweeter! I am just so pleased at how far he has come and how far i have come! </p> <p>Before his birth we had decided to start TTC again in the spring of 2015. But i am going to be honest, i am TERRIFIED. &amp; not ready, i have already told my husband i'm not sure if i can start trying again this upcoming spring. I feel like as much as i LOVE my son to death, he is my entire world. I am so anxious about having all those issues again, being so depressed for months, having others take care of me... and lastly, well. Becoming a mom that my son cannot recognize because of PPD issues (if it happens again) </p> <p>Sometimes i feel like i am alone in my worries that even though my heart wants to have a home full of children and be pregnant again, that my brain is so anxious I'm not sure when i will be able to try to have a second baby. </p> <p>Is anyone else possibly dealing with some similar feelings? And if so, how do you plan on eventually setting yourself up for TTC success? Any helpful tips from moms of multiple kids who has been where i am? Any help or kind words of wisdom would be welcomed. :heart: </p> [attach=4917/14/nbr9sp.600x428.Ryland-53.jpg] [attach=4917/14/nbr9st.428x600.Ryland-47.jpg]