https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 04:34:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1918589 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 23:51:00 +0000 Sapphiresun 1918589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I weaned at 14.5ish months for no real good reason, besides she was down to two times a day on work days and sometimes three on weekends, and really wanted to walk around more than she wanted to nurse, unless she was reeeally in the mood. I sometimes wonder if I should have pushed it a bit more, but decided to call it that she weaned herself and not feel guilty about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1918383 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 20:17:41 +0000 Kemma 1918383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually read somewhere that regardless of whether you wean at two weeks, two months or two years it's still a process filled with emotion and a certain amount of "what if" / guilt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1918360 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 19:57:59 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1918360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I weaned at 14 months for the same reasons and didn't feel guilty at all! Lo didn't ever ask for it while we were weaning so I think she was ready too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1918324 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 19:39:50 +0000 mrsjyw 1918324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also weaned for the same reason a thirteen months and I was happy. Ds was ready too he never asked for it and it was a smooth transition for us both!</p> <p>Great job on 20 months!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1918307 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 19:30:18 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1918307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me! I want to have K weaned by Christmas (she'll be 16 months). She's only nursing once or twice a day, and when I'm not around, she doesn't really care or ask for milk. But since I have no 'real' reason for weaning, I feel bad, because she's so attached to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1918293 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 19:16:15 +0000 jetsa 1918293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Purpledaisy: yep I did/do but he's made it easy and hasn't acted like it was any big deal. We're down to a morning session and that's onky because it normally gets me another hour of sleep ;)</p> <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: I know exactly how you feel! I'm due in May and I'm only stopping so I have time to myself before baby #2 but luckily DS has acted ready he hasn't asked for it at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1918208 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 17:53:04 +0000 mdf106 1918208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt a little guilty about weaning my 14 month old because I wanted my body back. He was fine with weaning, but would have been fine nursing a lot longer. I did not feel guilty about weaning LO down to 1 feeding a day at 12 months, because pumping and never sleeping in were getting old, although that probably affected him more than completely weaning at 14 months did. I don't feel guilty about the nutrients, just that he seemed to enjoy it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1917914 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 15:11:51 +0000 QBbride 1917914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, that's why I'm still nursing my 16.5 month old! I'm sort of over it but he really likes to nurse and I do enjoy that "us" time. Ugh I always feel so conflicted. </p> <p>You should be so proud you've made it 20 months! Plus wanting your body back is totally a valid reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1917876 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 15:00:32 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 1917876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I definitely cried about it. But he ended up losing interest mostly on his own, so it wasn't too bad. I will probably end up nursing the next one forever because I won't want to stop! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1917824 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 14:48:20 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1917824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm struggling with this. I'm currently nursing my 13.5 month old, usually one MOTN waking (about 70% of the time anyway) &amp; right before bed. I'm also 14 weeks pregnant &amp; am so so ready to be done but I have no reason to be done other than I just am &amp; I can't seem to pull the trigger. I have to talk myself into enjoying the time with her but I just can't seem to attempt to wean </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1917816 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 14:43:52 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1917816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I weaned at 15 months because I wanted to see what would happen if I didn't offer one day. What happened was she weaned! I totally didn't think through what I was doing and was bummed when she didn't even seem to miss it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1917807 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 14:42:34 +0000 dagret 1917807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Purpledaisy: I felt like me wanting my boobs and my body back was a "real" reason to wean at 14 months. You did well for so long - don't feel guilty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1917796 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 14:39:11 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1917796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>20 months is an amazing accomplishment!!</p> <p>We weaned at 14 months bc I was "over it" as well. No guilt no regrets. But I did try to make that last nursing session count - just focused on him with no distractions. Anything after 12 months was a bonus! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1917777 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 14:30:17 +0000 catomd00 1917777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like you were both ready! (and that you had a good reason!) Congrats, you should be proud of yourself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1917759 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 14:22:13 +0000 blackbird 1917759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"starting to get a little bite-y, and I was just ready to have my body fully back. " &lt;~Sounds like a "reason" to me :) You don't need a "real" reason. You can just be over it.</p> <p>My 18 month old is MEAN to my boobs, i can't imagine how cruel she'd be if she actually got to use them regularly LOL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1917746 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 14:18:04 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 1917746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Purpledaisy: I weaned at 24 months for no reason other than I was frustrated by still nursing. We had a really really great nursing relationship but it was clear he wasn't going to self-wean soon enough for me and I needed my boobs back. I did feel guilty about cutting him off since he still enjoyed it (and I feel wistful that I can use nursing as an immune booster this season), but I started nursing with the goal to go until one of us wasn't happy anymore and I wasn't happy so I let the guilt go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1917733 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 14:13:12 +0000 JoJoGirl 1917733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>20 months!!!! Hell no! Rock on, sister. I weaned around 16 months because... i didn't feel like either of us really needed to keep going. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1917720 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 14:06:09 +0000 lawbee11 1917720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I made it to 13.5 months and was really proud of that. Anything after 12 months was just a bonus for me.</p> <p>ETA: 20 months is amazing! Good job mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1917708 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 14:01:29 +0000 birdofafeather 1917708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no. i stopped with my 18 month old because we were both getting over it. it ended at just the right time for us both! it was a little bittersweet at first, but i didn't feel guilt! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-feel-guilty-about-weaning-when-there-was-no-real-reason-to-wean#post-1917699 Mon, 27 Oct 2014 13:57:45 +0000 Purpledaisy 1917699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am on day 5 of weaning my almost 20 month old. We had a great nursing relationship and she was EBF. I had no "real" reason to wean but she was nursing for shorter and shorter amounts of time, starting to get a little bite-y, and I was just ready to have my body fully back. </p> <p>I was going to start weaning within the next couple of weeks since we were on vacation last week and I thought she would want to nurse before naps and bedtime for comfort since she was in an unfamiliar place. BUT she actually was distracted and did not want to nurse at all. So I decided to call it quits. </p> <p>I am kind of glad that it happened like it did. It felt natural and I liked that it was not forced. But I still feel kind of guilty that she could still be getting the nutrients. </p>