https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 13 May 2026 03:26:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-advice-on-making-your-sodh-be-on-time#post-459153 Thu, 20 Dec 2012 17:31:23 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 459153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@boiledpnut: ok.. going to try that!<br /> @mrs. wagon: good plan.. he always forgets things too! especially his glasses!<br /> @blackbird: I agree! So rude, right? I should have just left, but I wanted him to come with me! I will have to get better at leaving him behind if needed!<br /> @pastemoo: that's cute!!</p> <p>Thanks for all the advice, glad I am not alone in this!! Today he was going in for night shift, and I called on my way home and he said he was just "getting up". It was 20 minutes before he had to leave!! He still had to shower, get ready, eat dinner and make his lunch! He is crazy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-advice-on-making-your-sodh-be-on-time#post-455653 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 13:00:20 +0000 pastemoo 455653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is my parents' biggest marriage issue and they have been otherwise happily married for 30-some years.</p> <p>They read me this poem by Ogden Nash whenever I ask for advice about it.</p> <p>We Don't Need to Leave Yet, Do We? Or, Yes We Do</p> <p>One kind of person when catching a train always wants to allow an hour to cover the ten-block trip to the terminus,<br /> And the other kind looks at them as if they were verminous,<br /> And the second kind says that five minutes is plenty and will even leave one minute over for buying the tickets,<br /> And the first kind looks at them as if they had cerebral rickets.<br /> One kind when theater-bound sups lightly at six and hastens off to the play,<br /> And indeed I know one such person who is so such that it frequently arrives in time for the last act of the matinee,<br /> And the other kind sits down at eight to a meal that is positively sumptuous,<br /> Observing cynically that an eight-thirty curtain never rises till eight-forty, an observation which is less cynical than bumptious.<br /> And what the first kind, sitting uncomfortably in the waiting room while the train is made up in the yards, can never understand,<br /> Is the injustice of the second kind's reaching their scat just as the train moves out, just as they had planned,<br /> And what the second kind cannot understand as they stumble over the first kind's heel just as the footlights flash on at last<br /> Is that the first kind doesn't feel the least bit foolish at having entered the theater before the cast.<br /> Oh, the first kind always wants to start now and the second kind always wants to tarry,<br /> Which wouldn't make any difference, except that each other is what they always marry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-advice-on-making-your-sodh-be-on-time#post-455647 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 12:58:23 +0000 MrsCastro 455647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH was known to show up late to everything, and i am not just taking about a few minutes i am talking hours sometimes...i am the type of person if i am not where i need to be 15 minutes before i am needed i am late...tried to drill it in DH brain when we were dating...he would sometimes try and be on time...the kicker finally came when i started leaving him and telling him that i would just meet him where ever we had to be...that is what finally worked...he is ready for events up to an hour before we have to leave... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-advice-on-making-your-sodh-be-on-time#post-455516 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 12:25:12 +0000 MamaMoose 455516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I knew a solution. My husband's lateness has caused some serious fights for us. I wish I had the balls to just leave him behind but he would throw a fit. It just takes him so long to get out of the house. When he was dragging his feet to get out the door to the hospital when I was in labor I seriously lost my cool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-advice-on-making-your-sodh-be-on-time#post-455510 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 12:24:10 +0000 avivoca 455510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate this about my husband. We'll say we need to leave at 8:30, and at 8:25 he's throwing toys for the dog, then he gets dressed, and at 8:35 he's taking his medications. It's ridiculous, and thank goodness neither of our jobs are sticklers for being in at exactly 9:00. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-advice-on-making-your-sodh-be-on-time#post-455500 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 12:22:26 +0000 mrs. wagon 455500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been standing at the door tapping my foot for 7 years now. Wagon Sr. is constantly running back in and out to get things he's forgotten. Like uh, his wallet. His cell phone. To change from his slippers to actual shoes. Seriously.</p> <p>Now if he's forgotten something I say we're just going to leave anyway. A big thing was he'd always forget to put shoes on Wagon Jr.'s feet on the way out. We'd be halfway to our destination and I'd look back and there would be a sock-footed walking toddler back there. I made him buy Tiny Toms that day because I refused to go back to the house-- "I told you there's no more going back" and he has never forgotten shoes since. Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-advice-on-making-your-sodh-be-on-time#post-455488 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 12:19:46 +0000 blackbird 455488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd leave his slow butt behind. In the shower at 9:55 and an appointment at 10:00am is not acceptable! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-advice-on-making-your-sodh-be-on-time#post-455409 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 11:50:20 +0000 mrbee 455409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What @boiledpnut: said!</p> <p>You could also just leave when you're ready, and leave him behind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-advice-on-making-your-sodh-be-on-time#post-455408 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 11:50:16 +0000 BelugaBean 455408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With people we know who are late, we always tell them an earlier time. It depends on the person though and how late they usually are. We've told friends to be somewhere an hour earlier than they needed to be in order for everyone to be on time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-advice-on-making-your-sodh-be-on-time#post-455401 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 11:48:51 +0000 maybebaby 455401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@boiledpnut: Same here. I feel bad, "lying" but it is the only way. Lateness on his part has caused many a spat. If he is going to make us late, I now have to remove myself from the apartment and wait in the car to cool down and then talk about it after the fact. He HAS gotten better about it. I have explained to him that while HE doesn't see it this way, it shows me and others with whom we have obligations that he doesn't respect their or my time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-advice-on-making-your-sodh-be-on-time#post-455076 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 10:16:09 +0000 SugarplumsMom 455076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @boiledpnut. 30 mins should cover it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-advice-on-making-your-sodh-be-on-time#post-455067 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 10:13:00 +0000 boiledpnut 455067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tell him the meeting time is earlier...however much time you guys need, be it 15 or 30 minutes. I've done this with my DH and it works wonders! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-advice-on-making-your-sodh-be-on-time#post-455065 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 10:12:21 +0000 Alivoo01 455065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My hubby is always "brags" that he gets ready in like 2 minutes, but then he has to shave, wants a quick shower, etc. and it definitely takes more than 2 minutes. I have to start "nagging" at the hubby to start getting ready much earlier, and he'll get a moving sooner. Boys think they have it so easy (and they do), but yet, they always end up being ready last!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-have-advice-on-making-your-sodh-be-on-time#post-455037 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 09:57:07 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 455037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is always, always, always LATE. We are supposed to be at an appointment to bottle our wine we made at 10am. It is 955 and he is still in the shower. He does this ALL the time, and doesn't care who has to wait for him.</p> <p>EXCEPT: when he is going out with friends (especially ones he doesn't know so well) he rushes and tries his best to be on time. It KILLS me that he tries so hard for people he doesn't know that well, but is always late for me.</p> <p>I've asked him about 2937490237 times to try harder, etc but nothing helps!</p> <p>Has anyone done anything that has helped their SO be on time more or start being more appreciative of other peoples time? I am the type of person that is ALWAYS early, but when I go places with DH, he always makes us late. Drives me insane!</p> <p>Help! </p>