https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 18:12:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2016105 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 21:33:13 +0000 kjpugs 2016105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out at 16w but didn't tell family until we were there in person around 24w. Partially to do a fun surprise at the shower and partially to avoid a lot of gender specific gifts. It was very very very hard to not tell people when talking about the baby even just for like two months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2016096 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 21:25:39 +0000 just_ju 2016096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Espion: yes, the getting mad baffles me also. We (mostly I) just said we'd reveal it in our own time and our families (mine more than his) aren't used to not knowing every bit of everyone's information. They'll get over it. :) I wish I had the patience to be TG, but this is our first and I'm a planner, plus husband says we're not great with surprises :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2016066 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 21:16:23 +0000 Espion 2016066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@just_ju: See, I don't get the " getting mad " about it part. To me it's a poor reflection of character on their part, but it all depends on how you present it, I guess. (If you flaunt the *big secret* , I'd be annoyed, but I wouldn't say anything because it is clearly none of my business!) </p> <p>We're TG, but we don't know either. I think everyone's guesses are fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2016000 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 20:45:32 +0000 just_ju 2016000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We plan to find out but not tell right away, and people have definitely made it known to me that this makes them mad. My SIL went as far as calling me a selfish b**** for it. The way I look at it, we did IVF and everyone was up in my business about the entire process, this is one thing we'd like to keep to ourselves and tell people on our terms. It's our child, it's privates shouldn't be that important to other people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2015815 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 18:44:33 +0000 littlejoy 2015815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SerenaSF: Ha! That's what my wink was ... I love that video!! We really didn't care if we had a girl or a boy, and I would always think of this video when people asked. Next time, we really want a girl, and I'm not afraid to say it. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2015806 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 18:39:29 +0000 SerenaSF 2015806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlejoy: oh haha, I'm pregnant now and still find the video hilarious! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2015799 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 18:32:13 +0000 littlejoy 2015799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: I would not be doing a gender reveal. I'm not really into that. </p> <p>@Mrs.Pinecone316: That's so interesting!! I never considered that it might not actually be fun to really hold onto that. Thanks for that perspective. </p> <p>@SerenaSF: I remember watching the video before I got pregnant. I thought it was hilarious. When I was pregnant, not so much! ;) </p> <p>@Keppa: I think it would be a fun secret too! I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. Since we were team green the first time, I'm guessing most of our family would assume we were TG next time too. </p> <p>@lil owl: I love this!! </p> <p>We've talked about the tech writing it down at our anatomy scan and putting in an envelope that we'd open some time during the last trimester. Really, it's kind of a logistical thing: if it's a boy, I'd rather consign and sort through LO #1's girly things BEFORE I'm at home with a newborn. Being team green was amazing last time, but we're only having one more baby, and I just think it would be so great to find out. </p> <p>Okay, onto "we aren't trying for another year, so this doesn't matter now anyways!" ... Thanks for the advice. I'm loving these stories! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2015614 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 16:31:13 +0000 lil owl 2015614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did this. My parents did it when they were pregnant with me, and pretty much everyone in my family did know and not tell. So it was kind of a family tradition. When asked we always said: “we know, but we're not telling anyone, not even the grandparents, no one.” And everyone was respectful. No one thought it was odd. But then, we're living in Germany and things are different here.<br /> Funny thing is, everyone was convinced we're having a girl, even bought pink stuff.... but we had a boy :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2015582 Thu, 08 Jan 2015 16:14:21 +0000 lulu22 2015582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was actually our plan and people were surprisingly respectful about it. We just said up front, "we are going to find out but we will keep it a surprise for friends and family" and no one made any annoyed comments, they were all very understanding. Lots of people even commented that the surprise would be nice. That said, it ended up being too difficult not to let it 'slip out' and talking about the baby became frustrating because we were trying so hard not to say 'he/him/etc". We found out the gender at 12 weeks and in the end we gave up and did a gender reveal at 25 weeks in our holiday cards. Next time we will either do team green or let everyone know as soon as we do, as it was just too tricky to censor ourselves! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2014581 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 23:51:24 +0000 Miss Ariel 2014581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband wanted to know but I didn't, so the compromise was he could find out but not tell anyone. Which he was actually successful on pulling off.<br /> There were definitely people annoyed with him, especially since he tries to tempt me by doing things like leaving the anatomy us in his car cup holder for months, but since I was the one who didn't want to know they couldn't be too upset at him for not telling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2014562 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 23:12:20 +0000 SerenaSF 2014562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: Exactly. Can't stand the "we know but we're not telling" card. If you're going to find out, please lie and act like you don't know! Reminds me of this song (that I think is hilarious): <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LbTB3ASkdOo" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LbTB3ASkdOo</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2014493 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 21:50:41 +0000 Mrs. Oyster 2014493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're currently doing this. We already have a son (who was a surprise) and decided we wanted to find out this time around. However, I really don't want to hear from our families any opinions one way or the other for months before the baby's born.<br /> Just personal preference. I also think it's fun to have a small secret that DH and I are walking around with together :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2014404 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 20:43:05 +0000 Mae 2014404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree-- if you find out and don't tell people please lie and say you don't know lol. I find it incredibly annoying when people pull the "oh we know but we're not telling" card. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2014384 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 20:29:31 +0000 mrsrugbee 2014384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out the gender at the anatomy scan and lied for 4 mo because we didn't want a pink baby shower full of useless girly things. In the end my shower was postponed until post-baby so I had already bought all the useful stuff I was hoping for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2014377 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 20:20:08 +0000 gilmoregirl 2014377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know a couple who chose to do this, and people did get really angry about it. </p> <p>We found out we were having a boy at the NT scan but didn't tell anyone until after we confirmed at the anatomy scan. I just didn't want to un-tell if it turned out to be wrong, but that was a really hard secret to keep.</p> <p>But it seems like some folks get some heat for being Team Green, and I got a bit of push back for finding out ("Don't you want to be surprised??? It's so much more fun this way.") so I guess there's no winning really. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2014354 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 19:52:19 +0000 youboots 2014354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd love to know and not tell, but I just can't lie to family and friends and just say we don't know, even a lie of omission at this point would feel dishonest. But I think it would be really annoying to tell people you know and aren't telling, they don't want to be surprised when baby is born, why not just tell. FWIW I'm not a huge fan of reveals. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2014349 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 19:49:18 +0000 LaughLines 2014349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my favorite parts of knowing is being able to call her "her/she" because it makes it feel real, it would be really hard for me to do that around DH and not anyone else... I know I'd slip up and everyone would figure it out </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2014317 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 19:27:26 +0000 pui 2014317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should do whatever you want to.</p> <p>That said, I agree with PPs, people might be really annoyed if you know and aren't telling, so if you go that route you might want to just pretend you do not know either.</p> <p>Another option is you could do a gender reveal party... so you can build up some "suspense" but still tell them before baby is here. Sort of a compromise option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2014315 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 19:26:07 +0000 MrsKMM 2014315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kind of. We found out on 12/23 weeks via blood test, but DH wants to wait until after our anatomy scan on January 29th. I thought it would be fun to have news between us, but it's so hard to be dishonest with everyone who asks. Some family knew we were finding out via blood test, and it's hard explaining that we're going to wait. It's a pretty big deal to DH that we wait (he actually wants to do a gender reveal party) &amp; almost everyone has been understanding of our decision to wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2014304 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 19:21:00 +0000 Torchwood 2014304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with everything @Mrs.Pinecone316 said. I don't think its the best idea, just because I don't see the fun in it. People were actually kind of rude to us about being team green for a bit last time. And if you go for it, do NOT let people know you know. They'll be super annoying and annoyed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2014288 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 19:07:51 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2014288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out and told people BUT we found out at 15 weeks and didn't tell anyone until 20 weeks because we wanted to share the news at Thanksgiving. We didn't tell anyone we knew the gender until the week of thanksgiving though. I thought it would be fun to have a little secret between just my husband and I but it really wasn't fun! Once you know you just want to tell everyone because you are so excited. I didn't like hiding it. I was afraid I would let it slip on accident. If you do decide to do that I would NOT let anyone know you know because everyone will read into every single thing you say or do to try and figure out what you're having. A few days before we did the gender reveal and people "officially" knew that we knew the gender its all anyone did and it's super annoying. Plus, for me any time my friends were team green it seemed like more fun for the parents then the friends, we were always dying to find out so I think it would be better to either all go team green or to share the news. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-know-babys-sex-but-keep-it-to-yourself#post-2014234 Wed, 07 Jan 2015 18:15:10 +0000 littlejoy 2014234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green for LO1, and I absolutely loved it. It was amazing to surprise everyone once babe was born. BUT, I can totally see the appeal of finding out next time. The thing is, I think we still like the idea of surprising everyone once baby is here. </p> <p>Did anyone find out and keep it to yourself? </p> <p>Did you tell friends/family you knew and wanted to keep it a surprise, or did you act like you didn't know? </p>