https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 12:40:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2910671 Mon, 24 Feb 2020 17:49:15 +0000 MrsSRS 2910671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did not and have no regret </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2910057 Wed, 12 Feb 2020 12:25:42 +0000 graceandjoy 2910057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: ah! thanks for enlightening me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2910053 Wed, 12 Feb 2020 12:10:06 +0000 Sams Mom 2910053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: yeah that's the plastibell, it's one of the common ones. I think everyone in my pediatricians practice does plastibell or Gomco clamp. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2910038 Wed, 12 Feb 2020 10:56:04 +0000 graceandjoy 2910038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sooo my little boy was born 1/22! We decided not to circumcise and we are happy and at peace with our choice! </p> <p>My friend also gave birth to a boy last week and she chose to circumcise. Apparently they now do it where they put a plastic ring/string around the foreskin, and after 5 days the skin just falls off like the umbilical cord, no pain/bleeding? Anyone heard of that? </p> <p>I feel like if I knew this was an option to circumcise vs the good old fashion “surgery”, I might have really considered doing it! Can’t say I wasn’t tempted after hearing about this new to me way of doing it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2907118 Sat, 28 Dec 2019 11:03:53 +0000 Jellyfish 2907118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS was circumcised at the hospital by OB, no issues and no regrets. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2907116 Sat, 28 Dec 2019 09:32:25 +0000 Miss Ariel 2907116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Being Jewish it was important to me to do so. Our mohel was actually a urologist, which dh really appreciated. We did the bris in our house so we were able to be there the whole time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2907110 Sat, 28 Dec 2019 01:23:57 +0000 MenagerieMama 2907110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is not, zero regrets. DH isn’t either. I was trained to do circumcisions in residency and cutting up baby boys made me so sad. I’ve decided to not perform them at my current job and did not want cosmetic surgery on my baby. I’m lucky enough to live in a first world country where the benefits don’t outweigh the risks and no religious reasons for our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2907047 Thu, 26 Dec 2019 23:05:43 +0000 bees_knees 2907047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: @MrsSCB: Same. We have 3 boys, all were circumcised in the hospital by a pediatrician. 2 of them slept through the entire procedure. We had no issues, no regrets. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2907044 Thu, 26 Dec 2019 22:39:20 +0000 jhd 2907044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: you brought up a good point. I didn’t comment on this thread because of the title. We have two boys and both were circumcised with no issues whatsoever and we have no regrets about doing it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2907029 Thu, 26 Dec 2019 16:18:58 +0000 smuckers 2907029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was also super torn about whether or not to circumcise. We ended up doing it for DS, as my husband and his family have a lot of diabetes in their family, so there's a genetic pre-disposition on that. I researched a TON, and a medical study I read that showed that men who have diabetes and are uncircumcised have a much greater chance of needing circumcision as an adult, which made the decision for me. I don't regret it, but I also wouldn't have been terribly devastated if it hadn't worked out. The hospital that we used did plastibell. </p> <p>Anecdotally, one of my best friend's husband is uncircumcised and urged me to do it based on his experience growing up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2907016 Thu, 26 Dec 2019 13:36:38 +0000 MrsSCB 2907016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Umbreon: well, my point was that the questions were “did anyone not circumcise or regret that they did?” I.e. specifically searching for regrets about circumcising. So yes, there were several, but I don’t think that’s an accurate representation overall. At least not that I’ve seen anywhere else unbiased, even on this site 🤷🏻‍♀️ Regardless, I don’t really care what people do one way or another, there are pros and cons to either! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2907015 Thu, 26 Dec 2019 12:59:08 +0000 Umbreon 2907015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsSCB: I dont think anyone who did not circumcise said they regretted it (although I wont go through every response again). Seems more common that people regret circumcising than not based on this thread. Just wanted to point it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906819 Mon, 23 Dec 2019 10:42:29 +0000 MrsSCB 2906819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Umbreon: to be fair, she asked if anyone regrets it, so I think that will tend to skew the comments to people discussing any issues. I don't think they're that common. </p> <p>FWIW, the AAP says benefits outweigh the risks but not enough to recommend it routinely, so it's up to parental discretion. I'd think if they were seeing a lot of issues or complications they would recommend against. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906813 Mon, 23 Dec 2019 09:51:59 +0000 graceandjoy 2906813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: I'm glad! I also, way back then when I never thought I'd actually have a boy, thought that circumcision is just the way it goes. Also really glad everyone kept it together here to be civil to one another :wink: </p> <p>@Umbreon: Yes! I was reading about that and used all the data I found to reassure my friend who has been feeling guilty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906771 Sun, 22 Dec 2019 17:06:32 +0000 Umbreon 2906771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can I just point put all the posts here about reattachment issues, having to have it redone, etc. Are probably MORE common than issues with an uncircumcised baby? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906698 Sat, 21 Dec 2019 07:47:22 +0000 Alba4 2906698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both my boys are. I don’t regret it at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906697 Sat, 21 Dec 2019 07:14:30 +0000 Becky 2906697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to say this conversation has taken me from being “well obviously we will circumcise” to “clearly we need to do more research.” DH is actually invested in reading what I shared which is nice and was really shocked by how big the shift has been in the US even since he was a kid. Thanks OP and everyone for getting us thinking before just jumping in! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906696 Sat, 21 Dec 2019 06:41:56 +0000 Ms. RV 2906696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both of my boys are... one had it done by my OB after birth and the other while under for another surgery (he was transferred to another hospital immediately after birth). The surgeon used a plastibell which seemed a lot less traumatic than he snip method my OB did. Plus the snipped kid refused to nurse for a day and a half after it. I wish my OB would have used a plastibell because I think that day and a half of refusing to nurse was awful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906695 Sat, 21 Dec 2019 05:28:24 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2906695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My bff was uncircumcised as a child and I know he felt really awkward about it growing up. He even considered having it done as an adult because of the awkwardness he felt whenever he started dating someone new.</p> <p>Having said that, I knew of a parent that was worried about her son that was circumcised. We live in a country where circumcision isn't the norm and her son felt bullied because he didn't look like everyone else and even refused to shower after gym class because of it.</p> <p>I think it largely depends on where you live and the level of acceptance people have on anyone different from themselves. My two examples are worlds and generations apart (different counties, different continents even) but unfortunately some things haven't changed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906651 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 16:37:50 +0000 DillonLion 2906651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm Jewish, but even I had mixed feelings about it. It is totally elective and like millions of years of evolution is smarter than a few hundred years of medical data. </p> <p>We skipped a Jewish Bris ceremony and had the OB do it in the hospital. I felt...not great about it but wanted to get it over and done with. </p> <p>LO is 5 months and we are experiencing issues. The skin is reattaching, not enough skin was removed, and it's all off center. We are having to take him to a pediatric urologist for an evaluation. I'm pretty pissed that we have to do this. I refuse to put him under anesthesia as an infant for an elective surgery, so I'm hoping there's a simpler way to get him fixed up without another official surgical procedure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906472 Thu, 19 Dec 2019 11:02:20 +0000 Petitduck 2906472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is. Our boys aren’t. I felt pretty strongly about not doing it and we are fine with the decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906440 Thu, 19 Dec 2019 04:56:35 +0000 turquoisemama 2906440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: I have two daughters but my mom has always said she regretted doing it when she had her first baby. She said she could hear him screaming from the other room and felt awful. I knew I wouldn’t have done it if I had had a son. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906437 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 23:41:28 +0000 Grace 2906437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if my first had been a boy, I would have considered it. But I couldn’t imagine sending my little girl for an elective surgery, so I knew it wasn’t something I could do when my second turned out to be a boy. No regrets. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906436 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 23:15:39 +0000 LCTBQE 2906436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: no, but nor did I watch the varicose vein removal YouTube video my friend sent me before I had that elective procedure done on myself. My OB explained every step in detail before she did it and so did the pediatric urologist who corrected her work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906434 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 22:55:48 +0000 Sams Mom 2906434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@graceandjoy: o I know a lot of it is personal anecdotal experience 😂 but the first penis you've seen at 17 not on a baby is on an 85 year old dude; and it's infected... That'll burn into your brain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906430 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 22:21:07 +0000 graceandjoy 2906430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: ohh that is interesting about what happens during old age. But I also imagine a lot of other things can go wrong with improper care at that point! </p> <p>@MamaBear87: Yes, absolutely to each their own! </p> <p>I do not want anyone to feel like they are being attacked for their choice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906419 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 20:40:13 +0000 MamaBear87 2906419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skiierchck99: my husband also brought this up. But I see it as the same as cutting off any body part because it could have problems. We as a culture have made this seem like how it should be but truly we are altering a functional body part. </p> <p>Not trying to shame anyone who has circumcised. To each their own ♥️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906418 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 20:21:55 +0000 Sams Mom 2906418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skiierchck99: some of it was their own fault kind of, not wanting to clean it or let it be cleaned; so they just got gross. Men with diabetes had retraction and constriction requiring them to be circumcised later in life. (Which general anesthesia at their age has increased risks). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906417 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 19:57:33 +0000 skiierchck99 2906417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: can you elaborate on issues older men face? We are having a boy this time and I think dh and I are both on the fence. And honestly we’re hoping to have another girl so we’d never have to make the choice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-circumcise-or-regret-they-did/page/2#post-2906412 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 19:39:32 +0000 Sams Mom 2906412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We circumcised our son. The hospital wouldn't do it since he would be going on my husband's insurance that was in network at the other hospital in town. So we had the pediatrician do it in office at 8 days old. He slept through the procedure, only fussed a bit at the beginning about them taking his diaper off, and he was absolutely fine when they brought him back. </p> <p>He healed up fairly well, with a couple adhesions developing due to his little "fat pad" as the doctor called it at the base of his penis because he was chunky. Care wasn't anything hard really, and it looks perfectly normal at almost 4. </p> <p>I did leave the final say to my husband, and he wanted to do it. BUT I did feel kind of strongly about it after working in the nursing home when I was younger and seeing some of the issues elderly men dealt with because of it. Particularly if they were diabetic (runs in my family). </p>