https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 12:50:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt/page/2#post-1527264 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 18:16:15 +0000 immabeetoo 1527264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I totally disagree. The critical thinking skills and life experiences you've had benefit your LO as well as the general community (that you have more time to be out in during the day!). I know you had a similar academic path, at least undergrad, to me and I think it made me a better parent (and, of course, will be helpful to re-enter the workforce in the future). Speaking for myself... of course I'll be best suited to organize a playdate since I have a masters in public administration!! (tongue firmly in cheek). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt/page/2#post-1527222 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 18:00:54 +0000 hilsy85 1527222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: ehhh not sure how much good they're doing anyone with me at home with LO :) But I won't be at home with kids forever, so hopefully they'll come in handy in the future! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt/page/2#post-1527218 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 17:59:27 +0000 Greentea 1527218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: those degrees still benefit you and lo and the world! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt/page/2#post-1527187 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 17:47:54 +0000 hilsy85 1527187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: yeah I have some of that too from that perspective (went to an all women's college, and I feel like some of our alumnae would be rolling in their graves at the thought of a woman choosing to be a SAHM and giving up a career path!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt/page/2#post-1527186 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 17:47:53 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1527186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a WAHM and felt tremendous guilt when I was still trying to figure out a schedule and balance. </p> <p>We hired a caregiver so I could have dedicated office hours, which allowed me to have the perfect family-business-wife balance. </p> <p>I don't feel guilty at all anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt/page/2#post-1527179 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 17:46:10 +0000 googly-eyes 1527179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've felt guilty both ways. But looking back I wish I hadn't. I think I mostly only felt guilty bout SAH because I being seen as "just" a SAHM. But I wish I hadn't spent a minute worrying about it, my staying home, even when I didn't love it, really worked for our family. There are a lot of things dh got to do in his job and that we got to do as a family because I wasn't working. I still think the ideal situation (for me!) would have been a part time job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt/page/2#post-1527174 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 17:44:32 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1527174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No guilt here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt/page/2#post-1527159 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 17:38:14 +0000 BeachMama 1527159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't feel guilt over working and DD going to daycare. It's what's better for me, mentally, which makes me a better mom. I stayed home for the first 5 months with her, and granted she was colicky, but I was going crazy. I often lost my patience with her, and overall I just wasn't happy. I think I'd feel a little guilty if she had to go to daycare 5 days/week, but luckily my parents help out 2 days.</p> <p>I feel guilty when she gets hurt. Like this past week, she face planted out of the stroller onto the street and now has a big ole nasty scrape on her nose and upper lip. Totally preventable and I feel like an awful mom for not buckling her in but we were only walking a block home from the park. But, I also know that she'll heal up just fine and probably won't remember it at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt/page/2#post-1527128 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 17:23:39 +0000 DillonLion 1527128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very little guilt as a WOHM. I would feel more guilty if i stayed home since that wasnt the best choice for our family </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt/page/2#post-1527083 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 16:56:57 +0000 Cherrybee 1527083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no, I'm in the minority here because I feel TERRIBLE that I love WOH , especially since I hated my job before maternity leave! Its just that... SAH with a baby sucks so much!!! So.much.guilt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt/page/2#post-1527066 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 16:44:53 +0000 photojane 1527066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No guilt here! Love my SAHM job. So proud of my SAHM job. Wouldn't want it any other way! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt/page/2#post-1527032 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 16:26:46 +0000 Greentea 1527032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No guilt. I feel right about it. However, I think about my work 24/7 because it is a part of who I am and I have taken lo around town on shoots. So, I guess I am not really a sahm but I am not not one either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1527018 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 16:21:33 +0000 immabeetoo 1527018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I feel a bit conflicted about my identity in terms of enjoying and fulfilling stereotypical housewife duties with a women's studies type background, but the two degrees at home doesn't bother me one bit! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1527011 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 16:20:16 +0000 immabeetoo 1527011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So glad to hear it. Also I don't want to downplay how thankful I am that I have a choice and I know many parents don't!@yoursilverlining: I agree that it's a societal thing but it bothers me more when moms seem to be internalizing that expectation and almost embracing it if that makes sense. </p> <p>I'm surprised how many people are offering they're not feeling guilt while including defending words about their choice! No one needs to defend or explain themselves in this thread at least! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526982 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 16:06:21 +0000 mrsjyw 1526982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No guilt about my wohm/wahm status! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526977 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 16:03:47 +0000 Running Elley 1526977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I have all sorts of guilt. About everything lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526926 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:52:24 +0000 hilsy85 1526926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No guilt in terms of Lo--I think he is really happy staying at home with me. And generally I don't feel guilty regarding him--I know I do the best I can and I think I do a pretty good job as a mama! The only guilt I have is feeling like I'm not using my two degrees as a sahm :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526924 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:52:16 +0000 Andrea 1526924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have zero guilt SAH. I am glad you posted this because I have seen some comments along those lines, too, and didn't understand the generalization. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526923 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:51:07 +0000 mamimami 1526923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel guilty about a ton of things parenting related, mostly my lack of patience with my kids, but working is not really up there. In fact, I think I'd feel worse if I stayed home because I'd probably totally lose it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526912 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:48:28 +0000 pinkcupcake 1526912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was definitely scary to quit my job and I had more than a few moments when I second guessed my decision. But now, almost 1.5 years later, I know I made the right decision for us and our family, and I feel no guilt over it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526841 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:31:03 +0000 Kimberlybee 1526841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilteacherbee: That is the ideal setup for me! Grandma care would be awesome, my mom is retired and living overseas at the moment but she said she would love to babysit if we have #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526836 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:28:37 +0000 lilteacherbee 1526836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really WANT to be a SAHM, but it just isn't in the cards right now. That being said, I don't feel guilty about working. My mom watches LO when I'm at work and I love that they both enjoy it so much. My grandmother (who lives with my mom) has so much fun with LO as well and they really look forward to keeping him, so I know that he is being cared for and loved when I'm gone. I've found that I also value the time I do have with him and I'm more "present." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526820 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:24:48 +0000 Rockies11 1526820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a PT WAHM/PT WOHM and I don't full time between the two and I have 0 guilt! I feel like I have a really good balance. I feel somewhat defensive about it because people are really judgey of my short (Canadian wise) mat leave, but, but I don't feel guilty for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526811 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:22:33 +0000 Silva 1526811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I stay at home and don't feel guilty about it. I'm planning to go back part time, and I don't feel guilty about that, either.</p> <p>I feel scared about how I will balance it all- but I'm excited for lots of reasons too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526800 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:20:39 +0000 Kimberlybee 1526800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have zero guilt about staying at home with baby for a year or longer if we can make it work. I love being her primary care provider and was able to document all of her milestones for DH through pictures and journaling so he didn't feel left out either. Hopefully, I can find a daycare center that I absolutely love when I return back to work because we really need 2 incomes to do all of the things we want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526775 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:11:48 +0000 JerricaBenton 1526775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I SAH. No guilt whatsoever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526771 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:09:50 +0000 autumnlove 1526771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe a little the first week or two back at work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526768 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:08:22 +0000 yerpie110 1526768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Zero guilt. I'm a pt wohm and I truly believe I have the best of both worlds! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526746 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:01:39 +0000 ShootingStar 1526746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No guilt here either. I'm a better mom as a WOH. I'm more patient and more present in the hours I'm with my son. It's also pretty normal here for most moms to work. Maybe because it's an expensive area. In my case I think I'd feel more guilty for choosing to stay at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-any-guilt#post-1526742 Thu, 27 Mar 2014 15:00:55 +0000 lovehoneybee 1526742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh gosh. E is starting daycare on Monday and I go back to work a week after that and I've been feeling waves of guilt because I DON'T feel guilty about it! </p> <p>I was thrilled to stay home with him at first, but then I started feeling guilty because I didn't enjoy being home with him. I can't escape it! I'm trying to shake it off--it'll be a great new chapter for all of us, and I think he and I will both be happy and thrive. </p>