https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 11:01:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2664254 Mon, 12 Dec 2016 13:32:45 +0000 snowjewelz 2664254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: We read this book about a new baby and one page is daddy/mommy waving bye and DD1 standing with grandma... It's like the exact scenario haha. She was not very happy whenever we get to that page lol! Let me know what you end up doing and how it goes!! I guess there is no "wrong" way, even if LO1 gets upset since toddlers are just unpredictable afterall! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2664242 Mon, 12 Dec 2016 13:15:48 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 2664242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: that's what I'm thinking for us also. I got some good ideas from this thread though. </p> <p>Starting this morning, I've been talking to DD1 about her baby sister coming out of the tummy soon and mommy and daddy will need to go the hospital. When the time comes we'll tell her "baby sister is coming out of the tummy, and we'll come home with her soon". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2664158 Mon, 12 Dec 2016 11:49:07 +0000 Happygal 2664158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DDs are 20 months apart. I had basically decided NOT to have our DD1 come to the hospital. She was a major mama's girl before I had DD2 (that changed while I was in the hospital!) and I feared she wouldn't understand why she had to leave me and I wasn't going with her. Based on the experiences' of others, I had a feeling she would likely be interested in DD2 for a few minutes, than be more into having my attention, pressing all the buttons on the bed, exploring the hospital room, etc. </p> <p>When I realized I was going to have a csection, I was even more certain of my decision b/c I wanted to have that time to fully relax and recover. I also figured this would be one of the few times DD2 would get to have all my attention! In the end, DD2 had to spend a lot of time in the special care nursery, so the sister meet and greet wouldn't have been possible anyway....I had thought about having my husband bring her before we were discharged so we could all leave together, but I remembered having to wait around for doctors and nurses, etc. before we could go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2664145 Mon, 12 Dec 2016 11:36:47 +0000 snowjewelz 2664145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumpkin Pie: I guess my final decision will rest on what ends up happening! I feel like I can go either way! I think whether the birth happens during the week vs weekend makes a diff for us.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2664076 Mon, 12 Dec 2016 09:27:57 +0000 birdofafeather 2664076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really wanted DD1 to be the first to meet DD2, so my mom brought her over in the morning about 5 hours after DD2 was born. They are almost 3 years apart and DD1 was very excited! It was so sweet and I'm glad we did it because DD2 ended up in NICU for jaundice for 3 days so it would have been a while until they could meet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2664036 Mon, 12 Dec 2016 05:07:04 +0000 LAZB 2664036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just went through this. DD was 20 months when DS was born, and she did not come to the hospital. We decided it would be too hard for her to leave, and I wasn't there all that long anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2664026 Mon, 12 Dec 2016 00:08:01 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 2664026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm due any day now and thinking about not having DD visit. But, we really want DD1 to meet her little sister asap! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2663418 Fri, 09 Dec 2016 11:49:15 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2663418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if we have a third we may not.</p> <p>It was kind of stressful, dd didn't want to leave. (But she was already a clingy kid and preschool was new to her.) And hospitals are yucky. Ugh I just do not like the postpartum hospital stay,all I remember was worrying about my dd!</p> <p>ETA, as for the actual meet though, that was very sweet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2663381 Fri, 09 Dec 2016 10:46:09 +0000 lovehoneybee 2663381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS was older (3.5) when DD was born, but it was super important to us to let him be the first one to meet her, so a few hours after my csection he was brought in to meet her. He's a total mama's boy, and I was worried about not being able to stand up and hug him, or of him seeing the IVs and such, but he didn't care a flying flip about me, lol. He was ALL about meeting Baby Sister. I might as well have not even been there, lol! </p> <p>He did come in with all of his grandparents, and they all took him out for ice cream after to celebrate "becoming a big brother". He came to visit us everyday, and loved being able to help push her bassinet around the maternity ward.</p> <p>It worked out well for us, so you should definitely do whatever you think will work best for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2663320 Fri, 09 Dec 2016 09:27:13 +0000 snowjewelz 2663320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: wow, that was quick! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2663205 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 21:41:40 +0000 Corduroy 2663205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My two are 26 months apart I think. We didn't have LO1 come to the hospital. Things just happened faster than we anticipated. I left for the hospital right when she got home from daycare and got back the next day about 30 min after she was picked up from daycare. She and my mom put together a little welcome home party (which LO1 saw as a big sister party). It was great. However your two meet will be special. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2663203 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 21:38:28 +0000 JCCovi 2663203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our hospital wouldn't allow children visitors during flu season. As a result I was very homesick for my daughter and my husband went home to see her, leaving me lonely again. Given the option I would definitely have had her brought to the hospital for an hour each day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2663199 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 21:31:20 +0000 yerpie110 2663199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dd1 was (and still mostly is) a total mama's girl. My gut told me from the start to not bring her to the hospital because I expected her to have a horrid meltdown when leaving - she has trouble saying bye to me when we FaceTime! She did not visit and I have no regrets about that decision. She met dd2 at home and it was so very sweet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2663092 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 19:46:07 +0000 FaithFertility 2663092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: I know our hospital only allows siblings under 12 in room and no over nights at all regardless of age </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2663082 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 19:32:23 +0000 Foodnerd81 2663082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I loved having my older one come visit me and the baby in the hospital. She was almost 2.5, very very much a mamas girl. I also had an unmedicated vaginal birth and was feeling fine within hours really, no IVs or anything scary for her. </p> <p>DH went home and hung out with c for a little bit then brought her to the hospital a little before dinner time. We ordered dinner for all of us and she ate dinner there and held the baby and snuggled me. Then she and dh went home to bed and stayed with the baby in the hospital. It was lovely. It did suck a little that dh only stayed the first night with me and baby but we thought it was more important for the toddler to be comfortable and we don't have family she would be used to staying with in the area. </p> <p>One thing that was less fun was dh bringing the toddler with him when it was time to leave. It was chaotic and rushed and stressful and I wish we had left her home with bil. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2663076 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 19:24:24 +0000 ShootingStar 2663076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did not have DS come to the hospital. I was pretty sure he was going to get really upset when he realized we weren't leaving with him. </p> <p>We kind of botched our meeting at home though. My parents went to get him from daycare and we were upstairs taking a nap. We heard them come in the house and DS ran up to us as we were coming downstairs. And he got kind of jealous that DH was carrying the baby and wanted to be picked up too. So we're standing on the stairs trying to navigate a 4 day old and an upset toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2663042 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 17:14:48 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2663042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a scheduled C-section, so I knew exactly when I was going with our second. LO1 (who was 3 at the time) came to the hospital every day, and it was really sweet. I loved the family of 4 time that we had during that stay, and since I had to stay a while due to the type of birth, I was really happy to be able to see him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2663000 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 15:39:04 +0000 shellio 2663000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For my 2nd and my 3rd, the older sibs came to the hospital on the first day. I had C sections. I did think it was a bit overwhelming for my 2nd who was 22 mos when the 3rd was born, he's not even really a mommy's boy but he was kind of upset seeing me in the bed with an IV, and he couldn't really climb on me and I couldn't get out of bed. If I have a 4th I will just play it by ear, and bring in the kids if the timing is right but it sounds like not bringing in your son would work well for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2662996 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 15:32:32 +0000 snowjewelz 2662996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: Ohh really! And nice that you don't have to stay the full two nights! I have no idea what my "required" stay is... I know some insurance won't cover you if you don't stay the whole time or something. Also kinda don't mind having everything taken care of at the hospital haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2662928 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 14:18:00 +0000 josina 2662928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think we'll have DS come to the hospital, but I also don't think it will be an option. Mid February will be flu season yet and they usually close the hospital to visitors under 12. Hopefully it's like it was with DS where I can check out 24 hours later, so it will ideally be only one night without seeing him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2662887 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 13:35:54 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2662887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: That sounds really nice! I will probably tell my parents to be sensitive to my son's feelings. He usually knows what he wants, he'll be almost 3.5 by then. If he would rather see Mommy and baby at home, we won't pressure him. I could ask him before going too but I'm afraid he'd decide I shouldn't go at all :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2662865 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 13:02:00 +0000 Mrsbells 2662865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: when i had DS, DD who is 4 came to visit every day. Its great for the older sibling to get to see the baby. Maybe she can have some extra special treat waiting for at home as an incentive to go back? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2662832 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 12:08:49 +0000 Anagram 2662832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't think too hard about it either way. Our oldest has just turned 2 (3 weeks before), but was fully aware mommy was at the hospital having baby sister. My mom was staying with LO at our house, and my mom wanted to come visit, so she brought LO with.</p> <p>Even though we didn't pre-plan it or do "gifts from the baby", or build it up in our minds--it was the sweetest, sweetest meeting. I had an unmedicated vaginal birth, so I was up walking around right after. We had LO come the next morning, so I was dressed, had taken a shower and dried my hair, had on some makeup--just my normal self. I've had a vaginal birth both times, so have never had "strange equipment" around. Just the hospital bed I guess, but I wasn't laying in bed with my gown on, if that is one of your worries. We have it all on video and love watching that video even now.</p> <p>Anyway, my oldest came, fell in love with her baby sister and held her on a pillow for a long while, sang her songs, and then happily left and went out to lunch with my mom. We came home the next morning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2662795 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 11:21:38 +0000 snowjewelz 2662795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: I was going to tag you since I remember G wasn't at the hospital! I think I am leaning towards this way... Thinking what if we don't time it right and DD2 is nursing, or I'm getting checked by a nurse, etc.. My other thing is that K is very concerned about me... We took her to one of my ultrasound appt and she was more worried about me the whole time vs being interested in seeing baby sis on the monitor, etc! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2662787 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 11:13:52 +0000 FaithFertility 2662787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: Agree!!!!!!!!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2662785 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 11:12:59 +0000 coopsmama 2662785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've waited until we were home for our other LO(s) to see the baby the last two times now and I don't regret it one bit! This last time was amazing - both kids were so aware that their new sibling was home and they ran up the stairs into our home and dashed around looking all over until they found her. I will never forget how they both climbed up onto the couch and held her for a LONG time - they just snuggled in like she'd been a part of our home forever. It was priceless that there was no hospital staff around, no weird equipment (to a kid's mind), and we were just in our own home. I would do it that way in the future, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2662781 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 11:04:57 +0000 FaithFertility 2662781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We knew we were not going to have G go to hospital, a normal V birth you are in for 36hrs at our hospital.</p> <p>We planned to just be in and out and have her meet AJ at home, I also knew she probably would be ok visiting but if she cried I knew I wouldn't be able to handle it...I cried driving to hospital/leaving her!</p> <p>As you know AJ ended up in NICU so my/his stay was from Tues night-Saturday<br /> DH did go home every night after his birth to do bedtime/sleep with her and send her to daycare and keep her schedule the same and then he would come spend day with me!</p> <p>We still decided she wouldn't visit as he was in NICU now and that isn't the best scenario!</p> <p>The meeting at home was precious and perfect in my eyes! She was home with my MIL and DH and I came home with AJ she lit up, was able to see him, hold him and be in her environment! ((sounds like introducing 2 dogs....lol))</p> <p>If you do chose to have K visit I read when kids 2 and under visit to have baby in bassinet or in another family members arms so if she just wants to see/hug you, you are 100% available!<br /> just a thought!!<br /> I still followed that coming home to G, I went straight to her telling her I missed her and hugged her before we pushed baby on her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2662764 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 10:43:31 +0000 ksnow 2662764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD was 3 and did visit and I'm glad she did. She would have been upset not getting to be a part of the experience and having to wait that long to meet her brother. She was more than happy to leave with her grandparents when it was time (she was the one who decided it was time to go). I think as long as they are with someone they are comfortable with...and have somewhere fun to go like out to lunch next...probably work out great </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2662760 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 10:40:53 +0000 ValentineMommy 2662760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We definitely did, but I was also in the hospital for 5 days (csec). DS1 was 2.5 and had full awareness of what was going on.</p> <p>This time we will try again, but I'm concerned about how DS2 will do. He will only be 22m.</p> <p>At any rate, my mom brought him and he was only there for 30 minutes tops, just to see me and meet the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-have-los-visit-you-at-the-hospital-post-birth#post-2662754 Thu, 08 Dec 2016 10:24:31 +0000 MamaG 2662754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: We had C come to the hospital, but she was also over 3 and very aware and wanted to see the baby. I'm glad she came. We kept her visit brief and she left with Daddy and Auntie both. Bedtime was the hardest for her. </p>