https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Jul 2026 02:36:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36767 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 03:06:48 +0000 MissKitten 36767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprose: I'm sorry your family gave you so much trouble. I'm glad you don't regret it though and that everything worked out. This is one of the reasons we put our wedding on hold. I can't find work and FI works seasonally so money is tight right now. We figured it would be better to put the money towards a baby than a wedding. I hope everything is going well for you guys now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36762 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 02:18:49 +0000 aprose 36762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Elonwy: we caught so much flack for it from my family. his famiy was great. we were actually living with them for over a year but my family had a cow. they were not too happy that we were living together before being married but add a kid and oh geez. the FI lost his job and i had some pretty gnarly pregnancy complications so instead of half a**ing a wedding and being majorly in debt we put everything on hold and put the saved money to better things. i think by now they have come to accept it but it took some time. im very very glad we did what we did and would not change a thing </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36757 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 02:00:46 +0000 MissKitten 36757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprose: Yay for another engaged bee! Did people say anything when you put plans on hold? Apparently my grandparents weren't too impressed. *laughs* </p> <p>Oh and congratulations on your engagement ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36751 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 01:15:22 +0000 aprose 36751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>im an engaged bee too! i have a great 14 month old soon. we were planning to get engaged/married in around 2010 but when we found out about being pregnant and a bunch of unpleasantness (not DS!!!) at that time all of our plans got put on hold. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36655 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 21:21:57 +0000 Rosie Girl 36655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Elonwy: I'm like that to! You tell me to do something, and I won't just because! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36536 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 17:13:42 +0000 MissKitten 36536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: LOL! </p> <p>Thanks guys! You've all made me feel a lot better. I know in the long run it totally doesn't matter either. As long as SO, LO and I are fine then I'm happy. &gt;.&lt; </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36466 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 14:42:01 +0000 MsMamaBear 36466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Elonwy: I haven't had anyone mention it, except for a guy I used to date, but he was probably just tryingto holla at me.LMBO! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36462 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 14:38:51 +0000 Wondermommy 36462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Elonwy: Nope, not just you. I've been with my SO for 4 1/2 years now, and we have a 3 1/4 y/o--you do the math :) And I have an 11 y/o from a previous relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36428 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 14:03:10 +0000 MissKitten 36428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Miss Adia: Thanks!! &gt;.&lt; </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36414 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 13:36:18 +0000 Miss Adia 36414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Elonwy: Thank you! Good luck and congrats to you too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36410 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 13:32:28 +0000 MissKitten 36410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Miss Adia: Congratulations! Hope the planning is going well. I'm very glad it isn't just me. I feel so much better now! *laughs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36405 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 13:24:28 +0000 Miss Adia 36405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are getting married in September. I have a 5 year old from a previous relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36404 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 13:21:54 +0000 MissKitten 36404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rosie Girl: I'm so glad I don't go to church anymore! I'm not showing yet but I do worry about when I do start showing, what people will think. It shouldn't bother me but it does. I think it would bother me even if I was married but at least then I feel like I can turn around and say "well actually.. I'm married!" I'm tempted to just say that if anyone does say anything anyway! </p> <p>I agree that it is more accepted than it used to be. Plus I'm stubborn. The more people who think we should have a shotgun wedding the more I'll put my foot down and say no. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36379 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 12:53:45 +0000 Rosie Girl 36379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Elonwy: People never said anything, but I got looks at church, one reason I stopped going.</p> <p>I do feel like I get looks at the store walking around with a 4 yr old and being pregnant. I look so young, and people don't always see that I'm married, so I feel like they judge me. But I don't care. I know the situation, and I love my child more than anything!</p> <p>It is a more accepted thing now I think. there are a LOT of unmarried, and some very young, mothers these days. I actually used to work with a girl who has been with her SO for like 9 yrs or something, and they have 2 kids together (first one not planned, second one planned), and they still aren't married! Its just not their thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36377 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 12:47:17 +0000 MissKitten 36377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rosie Girl: N'aww that's very sweet. =D Did people ever say anything to you about it? Did they disapprove or did it not bother them or were they totally okay with it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36374 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 12:42:44 +0000 Rosie Girl 36374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't married when I had DS. I didn't marry his dad either. I married DH when DS was 2 1/2, and now we are expecting our first together. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36318 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 11:29:20 +0000 MissKitten 36318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MegWag: Yes, I think people are more accepting of it here. Or at least, I hope they are and aren't just not saying anything! Mind you, I only know of younger women who have kids so I might have a bias view.</p> <p>I will be entirely honest but I look very young so I'm mentally bracing myself incase someone decides to tell me how awful I am for having kids at my age and "living in sin" *rolls eyes* I think that's a throwback reaction though and not born of any fear of anyone actually saying anything to me. I'm the first one in my family, of all cousins and aunts and uncles to have a child born "out of wedlock". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36305 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 11:10:45 +0000 MegWag 36305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Elonwy: I've noticed that it's also much more common/accepted in places outside the US (I'm in the UK) for people to have "partners" and not be married. Is it the same in Australia? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36304 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 11:10:10 +0000 MissKitten 36304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Wow! 40% is a lot higher than I thought it'd be. I only know one other person who has kids and isn't married and she's 16! I figured that most people came from Weddingbee, but I was still surprised at the poll from the other thread. Still, it's early days, right? :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36299 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 11:06:35 +0000 MissKitten 36299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: It didn't bother me until my mother mentioned that my grandparents were a little put out over it. It just made me think that maybe others are equally upset but just haven't said anything. Lol, maybe I'm just paranoid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36221 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 07:20:58 +0000 mrbee 36221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>40% of babies are born to moms who are not married! It's a huge trend... I think over time, more and more moms on Hellobee will be unmarried!</p> <p>The numbers are probably a bit skewed on Hellobee for now though, since a number of members have come over from a wedding site. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36208 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 05:03:16 +0000 MsMamaBear 36208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LoL! A lot of ppl irl think I'm married too, maybe it's Baby Bear or my age. I understand you, it's the same reason I answered the poll, but didn't comment. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36177 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 01:18:26 +0000 MissKitten 36177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: Oooh. For some reason I totally assumed you were married! *laughs* Cool =) It makes me feel better knowing it's not just me who isn't married. It doesn't bother me usually but seeing "husband" everywhere on the boards made me feel... funny. Does that make sense? XD </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36168 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 00:56:55 +0000 MsMamaBear 36168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would be me who answered in that poll. LOL:) We have a 3 month old daughter. TTC for a yr before we got her. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36072 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 21:48:15 +0000 MissKitten 36072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*laughs* Thank you! The pregnancy was a huge surprise but totally wanted. And I love (but am surprised at) how many people love Aussie accents. It makes me smile. XD </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36068 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 21:39:25 +0000 chopsuey 36068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Elonwy: Eh to being a spinoff! :) Posted the link just in case you didn't see it! Awesome that you're preggers (congrats!) and from Australia! Australian accents are my favorite :) hehe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36066 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 21:37:25 +0000 MissKitten 36066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: I saw that and noticed one person was in a serious relationship and that I was the only one engaged (so far) Everyone else is married! That's what made me start this thread. I wanted to know who the other person/people is/are! </p> <p>Maybe this should've been a spinoff? Oops. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36060 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 21:29:50 +0000 chopsuey 36060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started a marital status thread because I was curious too! :D</p> <p><a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-marital-status#post-36034" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whats-your-marital-status#post-36034</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-not-married#post-36055 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 21:16:23 +0000 MissKitten 36055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know the majority of Bees are married but I was wondering if there's anyone besides me who isn't? My SO and I have been engaged since March and were planning the wedding but postponed it after we found out I was pregnant. </p> <p>It can't just be me, surely. =) </p>