https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 18:36:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2701236 Wed, 22 Feb 2017 14:51:40 +0000 mrskansas 2701236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, my husband and I have decided to try Clomid. I believe I had a chemical pregnancy in January which my body didn't recover from. I got to cycle day 40-something before getting confirmation I didn't ovulate, and am now on Provera.</p> <p>I'm feeling optimistic about Clomid, but also terrified of getting pregnant and losing the pregnancy. I'm really hoping my losses were just flukes and not part of a bigger problem. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2686224 Wed, 25 Jan 2017 09:18:34 +0000 catlady 2686224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs. I'm sorry you're going through this. I was in a similar place a year ago after multiple losses and we ended up taking a break to re-assess. I was hesitant to lose time but it ended up being great. It was so nice to not worry about opks or two week wait and my anxiety levels really improved. DH and I were both finally able to step back a bit and really think about what we wanted for our family. We intended to do a 3 month break to start, and by 2 months into it, I think both of us were about 90% of the way towards being ok with being just one and done. Then somehow we had an oops and I ended up pregnant. LO2 is now 8 weeks old. I'll be honest, I love my son so much and while I can't imagine life without him, I do still believe that if things had worked out differently, we would have been at peace with one child. I wasn't fully there when I got pregnant again but I think with time, I would have gotten there. Best of luck to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2686163 Wed, 25 Jan 2017 08:05:32 +0000 mrskansas 2686163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow - thank you all for your replies. I'm sorry that you all have struggled but it is nice to know that I am not the only one going through this. :heart:<br /> I am having a hard time today. Part of me wants to be pregnant and have another baby so badly but the other part of me is terrified to even try. I don't want to open myself up to further pain (if I can even get pregnant again). My cycles are really crazy now and hopefully they go back to normal soon so I can really decide what our next step is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2686158 Wed, 25 Jan 2017 07:47:35 +0000 Cole 2686158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had pretty much decided on this path. I miscarried over the summer, got pregnant again a few months later and when we went in at 6 weeks we were told it was likely I'd miscarry again. We went home and after talking about it and grieving we, well especially me but dh was on board, decided this was it and we were done. I went back in the next week though and everything was perfect. I actually have really struggled with this pregnancy because I had come to terms with losing it and being done. I still maintain that if something happens during this pregnancy I'm definitely still done. </p> <p>I'm so sorry for your losses. I wish you peace. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2686145 Wed, 25 Jan 2017 06:47:32 +0000 ElbieKay 2686145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dealing this now. Been trying for #2 for about a year. Had a miscarriage at 7w and no other pregnancies during that time. I am rapidly approaching 40 and my husband is already 41. Going to try a cycle of clomid+IUI next cycle and see if it helps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2686001 Tue, 24 Jan 2017 18:09:01 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2686001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is pretty much why we stopped at 1. DS was an IVF baby after 2 years of IF and then he was born at 25 weeks. All of that in combo (plus a husband who always wanted one), made me feel ok with not trying for another. DS is 4 now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2685261 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 16:15:07 +0000 delight 2685261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to say I am sorry and that I have been in your shoes. After my DD, we had a loss at 23 weeks followed by another loss at 10 w. It really took a toll on us. We did lots of testing and were signed up for IVF orientation last March. Surprisingly we found out we were pregnant in February and thankfully we have DS now. I think it was the progesterone and baby aspirin that our doctor prescribed that worked for us. It was 18 months of trying for us for number 2, I wasn't quite ready to give up but I was getting there. Best wishes to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2685252 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 16:06:37 +0000 petunia354 2685252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me. I have a 4 year old son and just had my 3rd loss in 14 months a few days before Christmas. As much as I would love another my heart and emotions just can't take any more. My body feels so out of whack and I'm just not up for fertility treatments or invasive testing/procedures. My husband is so done, he feels so helpless and doesn't want to see me go through any of that pain again. Plus the age difference is starting to be an issue. I mean, my sister is 10 yrs older than me and we are best friends so it's not a valid argument but part of me just feels like what's the point? We're starting to look forward to traveling and doing some renovations we might not have done had we had another child. I don't know what's going to happen, I certainly never imagined being 1 and done and I'm having a hard time accepting it but I'm so happy with my little boy I feel like I should just count my blessings.</p> <p>It's so hard. I'm so sorry you're going through this as well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2685229 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 15:48:25 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2685229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm AMA, and had at least one mc while trying for ~1yr for LO. She's 19mos &amp; we keep talking about having a 2nd, but are both concerned it may not happen or we could have another loss. I've pretty well convinced myself I'd be satisfied with just one until I see a pregnant mama, babies or hear from friends they are expecting. Then I realize my pangs of jealousy are telling me I may not want to be done, after all. DH said this weekend he does want a second but is concerned for my safety &amp; a potential baby's due to my/our age, and so he is a little nervous about really trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2685143 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 14:22:32 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2685143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskansas: Im so sorry. When my daughter was about that age, we struggled for a year with two miscarriages. After the first one my cycles were way out of control. </p> <p>We often started questioning giving up trying and being happy with one. I think we really could have been happy with just one. To relieve stress we stopped OPK and tracking and thankfully we managed to somehow get pregnant. </p> <p>We wanted a big family but after the struggles and losses trying for baby #2, I really wasn't sure I was up for that heartache again. We ended up with a surprise for #3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2685130 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 14:10:45 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2685130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskansas: Totally hear that. Mine hasn't pushed the point, which I appreciate, and we're getting up there in age (I'm almost 36), and all those issues we had TTC the first time aren't resolved, so I don't anticipate that changing anything. I can definitely see us fostering when our daughter gets older (she's 3.5 now), but I definitely don't see myself going through the TTC battle again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2685127 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 14:07:59 +0000 mrskansas 2685127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Carrot: Yeah my husband wants one more but he just keeps telling me to "stop paying attention to everything and it will happen." Yeah, nope. It's not in my nature to not track everything and know what's going on with my body.<br /> He will be content with one though if that's what it comes to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2685123 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 14:03:33 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2685123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took me 2 years to get pregnant for a variety of medical issues on my husband's end. Thankfully no losses, but it was such a trying (pun not intended) time that I really don't want to go through it again. Ironically hubby would love to have more kids . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2685119 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 13:55:35 +0000 travellingbee 2685119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dealt with secondary infertility and I just wanted to say I'm so sorry you are having to deal with it. I also had back to back losses and it really took a toll on me both mentally and physically. We had planned on trying IVF once and if it didn't work, we'd accept that we were just going to have one. But I ended up finally getting pregnant with my 2nd (on a medicated cycle) right before starting IVF. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2685103 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 13:36:11 +0000 mrskansas 2685103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I feel like that is what would happen to me. 100% decide on no more kids and then get pregnant with twins or something haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2685098 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 13:30:50 +0000 Ajsmommy 2685098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was me. We tried for #2 and did do some fertility treatments (medicated cycles, TI, IUI's) but it was so draining that we decided to stop. I was over it and I had a heart to heart with a dear friend who made me realize I was perfectly happy with my family of 3. So we stopped.</p> <p>The very next month... my period didn't come. I'm now 35wks pregnant.</p> <p>But I had completely realized I was content with just my DD and our family of 3! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-one-amp-done-because-of-infertilitylosses#post-2685097 Mon, 23 Jan 2017 13:24:57 +0000 mrskansas 2685097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have one amazing daughter who is 21 months. My husband and I started trying again in September and I had an ectopic, followed by a miscarriage, and now just out of whack hormones and weird cycles. I am really over it and so is my husband. If I never took another OPK or HPT again I would be perfectly content. The stress of losses and trying is becoming overwhelming and I just don't know if I have it in me anymore.<br /> I know that I will be perfectly happy with just our daughter. She is a great toddler and we have a nice balance in our family right now. </p> <p>So, my question is, has anyone decided after suffering losses or battling infertility that you're content with just one child? Or even two children when you initially wanted 3+? </p>