https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 04:53:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1888213 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 19:31:37 +0000 Tanjowen 1888213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never wanted to be a SAHM and loved my job and my office. But when the time came to go back, I couldn't do it. I have the best of both worlds to be honest - they put me in a smaller office 2 days a week, so I get to be home most of the time. I always thought I would hate being home so much and feel trapped, and while I have those moments and panic sometimes wondering about my future after baby grows up, I try to tell myself that this is just a short time period of my life and to enjoy it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1887242 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 09:20:29 +0000 Bluebonnet 1887242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was a SAHM, so I always thought I might be one too. But I married and had kids in my 30s (so I had been working professionally for more than a decade) and I wasn't ready to SAH. My plan was to go back to work after LO was born and see how thing went, and I could quit if it wasn't working out. Maternity leave was very hard for me and I was ready to go back to work. I feel more balanced when I'm working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1887229 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 09:13:38 +0000 MrsTiz 1887229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was never my plan so much as it was a dream, I always dreamed I would get married, have a couple of kids that i'd stay home with and once they went to school I'd get a super rewarding job. </p> <p>Well, life is expensive so I wasn't able to stay home. And now that I do work, I can confidently say that I would be a horrible SAHM. I have LO at work with me so I do get the best (and worst!) of both worlds, so that's how I know if I was home alone with LO only all day I would have gone insane by now. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1887207 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 09:04:01 +0000 wheres_c 1887207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always wanted to stay at home and I did for the first year. Unfortunately we were putting ourselves into debt with me being home, so I had to go back to work.<br /> I definitely enjoy many aspects of being at work but miss some of the SAH stuff. Starting Monday I will be WAHM which will be the best of both worlds ( i think) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1887112 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 08:17:19 +0000 blackbird 1887112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JCCovi: that's an impressive situation. especially in a male dominated field </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1887095 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 08:01:51 +0000 DillonLion 1887095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: glad to hear from you, girl!! Missed ya </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1887069 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 07:46:45 +0000 JCCovi 1887069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always assumed I would stay-at-home but when the time came I didn't want to leave my job and now I'm really happy. It's probably a very unique situation because there is a childcare room at my work and I bring my nanny there, so even though I'm working outside the house I'm never farther then a short walk away from my daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1887043 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 07:25:27 +0000 looch 1887043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never planned to stay at home, but I have learned that you can't plan every single moment of your life,I take it as it comes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1887029 Fri, 03 Oct 2014 07:03:21 +0000 PrincessBaby 1887029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a SAHM for about 6 months while we built a house and moved states. I actually went back at first when lo was 3 months, quit around 2.5 months later to start moving. I hated the job I had, or rather, the company, and my husband travels a lot, so I was excited to try SAH and get to be around when he was home too. I'm super grateful for the time I had SAH, but that's easy to say bc I ended up having a dream job pretty much fall in my lap so it really worked out better than I ever expected. If I wouldnt have gotten this job, I would have ended up miserable. It was very isolating and very humbling, and I believe I would have headed into depression if I had stayed home much longer. I struggled with losing my sense of self. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1886845 Thu, 02 Oct 2014 21:42:15 +0000 woodentulip 1886845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am home. And while I try my best, and I love my family, it is not something I feel good about. And I suck at it. That being said, I am realistic about the reality for my family, and my husband travels a LOT, and I don't want to work a 'anything will do' job, so I would go back to work...but it would have to be the right kind of work ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1886838 Thu, 02 Oct 2014 21:33:58 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1886838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a SAHM for the first 1.5 yr. I then transitioned into a WAHM. I realized I'm not cut out to be SAH. I'm currently back in school full-time and although it's difficult to juggle everything, I'm much happier being busy outside the home and not *just* busy at home.</p> <p>Eta: It feels good to finally admit that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1886831 Thu, 02 Oct 2014 21:25:09 +0000 Corduroy 1886831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to be a SAHM and always pictured myself as such. DH wanted me to work and before LO was born I promised to try. It turned out that I'm happy working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1886776 Thu, 02 Oct 2014 20:53:00 +0000 MapleMoose 1886776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had no intention on being a SAHM but an opportunity came up to WAH. The arrangement is great, especially considering DH's intense work schedule. He is glad I am available to raise our child (with another on the way) and run the house. I am too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1886768 Thu, 02 Oct 2014 20:47:15 +0000 Mae 1886768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never wanted to be a SAHM and sort of fell into it. temporarily at least. I really like it (most days) :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1886736 Thu, 02 Oct 2014 20:30:26 +0000 BandDmommy 1886736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never wanted to be a SAHM, but I actually really enjoy it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-plan-to-be-a-sahm-but-wound-up-happy-as-a-wohm-or-vice-versa#post-1886720 Thu, 02 Oct 2014 20:22:27 +0000 DillonLion 1886720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>From about age 20-24 I was dead set on becoming a SAHM once I was married and had kids. </p> <p>But DH encouraged me to go back to work after having LO and Im so glad he did! This arrangement has been the perfect fit for our family. </p>