https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 14:47:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-156669 Sat, 12 May 2012 12:59:43 +0000 SAHM0811 156669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Red: Agreed! It is the oversexualiation of breasts that causes the issues! </p> <p>@yoursilverlining: i can't speak for other extended BF'ing moms, but I'd like to think their kids are eating more than just breastmilk.... For us, DD is 10 months and we are probably going to BF til at least 18 months, so I guess I will likely fall into the extended Bf'ing category then. But this is because she doesn't take bottles and we've skipped to sippies/straws... but she doesn't take enough from those at this point and I'm not sure she will until 18 months or so. She is eating solids though, since 6 months. At first she hated them, but after her teeth came in she's been doing much better. She does still love nursing though...</p> <p>My first child was formula fed primarily! I don't see myself as a gung-ho AP parent... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-156621 Sat, 12 May 2012 11:42:12 +0000 lemondrop 156621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To each their own. I use some attachment parenting concepts and am fine with breastfeeding until 2 years if it works out. The photo of an older child breastfeeding is not appealing to me, nor is the title of the article. </p> <p>I am concerned about the backlash in publicity against not only attachment parenting, but also breastfeeding. Just because someone plans to breastfeed or use attachment parenting doesn't mean they have to go to these extremes. </p> <p>I haven't read the article yet, but plan to, I do find Dr. Sears' information interesting. I don't plan on purchasing the magazine though- Time knew they would create a wave with this cover, and I don't want to support that financially! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-156618 Sat, 12 May 2012 11:35:27 +0000 Minnie_Girl 156618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's ridiculous. I'm happy to read about different parenting styles, but publishers/media people need to quit jumping the shark with extreme nonsense like that cover. It's not earning them any more attention. It's just obnoxious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-156617 Sat, 12 May 2012 11:32:42 +0000 Red 156617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: I introduced solids @ 6 months but I'm not a gung-ho attachment parent. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-156614 Sat, 12 May 2012 11:30:32 +0000 Red 156614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My original plan was to only BF for 6 months, then I extended it to beyond 1 year when we found out LO was allergic to dairy, soy, nuts, and goat's milk. I literally just weaned her (like 3 days ago) @ 17 months cause I was finally comfortable with the nutrition/variety in her solids diet. </p> <p>I have no issues with moms BF'ing til 3 or 4 but I do have issues with moms who do it because it seems too hard for them to wean their child. But I feel that way about moms that don't set boundaries in general.</p> <p>@NYCaliMama: I also find this backlash disturbing and agree that there are a lot of other things - like extended pacifier use, bottle feeding, or 5 yo's sitting in strollers - that are much less beneficial to kids than something nutritious like breastmilk. The problem is the American obsession with boobs and not breastfeeding itself. If we didn't view boobs so sexually, then there wouldn't be any controversy with breastfeeding at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-156604 Sat, 12 May 2012 10:48:39 +0000 yoursilverlining 156604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Those in favor of extended BFing, or who BF for extended periods...do you still introduce solids to those kids at the same rate as you would if you bottle fed? Or is this 3 year old's main food source breast milk? Just wondering! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-156502 Sat, 12 May 2012 08:11:16 +0000 SAHM0811 156502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hmm honestly, it sort of bothers me that there's a lot of backlash for extended breastfeeding... Whenever it comes up, most of the time I hear how it's bothersome, it's weird, etc... Why all the negativity around something so healthy as breastmilk?</p> <p>So many mothers struggle and work SO hard with their newborns and babies to breastfeed!! Just see the hundreds of blog posts and threads on breastfeeding on this very website... but then at a certain age, all of a sudden "it's just so wrong"? I, myself, hope to stop at 18-24 months as well, but for the moms who go beyond that... good for them... to each their own... doesn't bother me one bit.</p> <p>What about two year olds still taking bottles or three year olds with their paci's? The six year old who still sucks his thumb? I don't mind either... As parents, we ALL have our struggles... But it's funny, those parents with bottle/paci/thumb sucking toddlers don't get as much heat or attention for parenting that way. NOT that they should, I just think it's interesting that they don't, and if they do, it's not at the same level or with the same outright disgust as extended breastfeeding.</p> <p>It's interesting that breastfeeding, of all things... something the medical community, the AAP, WHO, and countless other organizations try to promote and encourage... also is something that gets so much backlash. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-156344 Fri, 11 May 2012 21:05:16 +0000 His Barista 156344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think what weirded me out was how the kid was looking at the camera. I don't have a problem with her choice. But for me if the kid can ask for it, then its probably not gonna happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-156343 Fri, 11 May 2012 21:04:28 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 156343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is her blog :<br /> <a href="http://iamnotthebabysitter.com/" rel="nofollow">http://iamnotthebabysitter.com/</a></p> <p>For those interested. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-156336 Fri, 11 May 2012 20:54:27 +0000 MsMamaBear 156336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no problem with breastfeeding, I tried and wanted to badly. This picture is going to be horrible for him in the future. If I saw a 8 month old breastfeeding, I wouldn't bat an eye, but a kid who is old enough to be in my class (Pre-K is 4yrs old, he'll be 4 in June) it's a little much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-156046 Fri, 11 May 2012 14:48:28 +0000 Nskillet 156046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Apparently the Mom in the article was breastfed by her own mother till she was 6 years of age. Clearly, this woman has no issues with publically nursing her older child. I think you have to have a certain personality type to be comfortable with nursing that long to begin with. </p> <p>Also, Americans aren't the only ones with breastfeeding opinions. A blogger just wrote about how pro-formula Mexico is. I would have assumed the opposite. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-155934 Fri, 11 May 2012 13:26:56 +0000 Downward Dog 155934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even though the photo seems designed to stir controversy, I think it's great that people are talking about BFing their toddlers, and are not ashamed of it. Many mothers do it. If it's right for the family, they shouldn't be stigmatized for their decision, and it's brave to talk about it so publicly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-155772 Fri, 11 May 2012 11:49:27 +0000 Maysprout 155772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like there's some push to get a message out that breastfeeding is more about the mom than the child, which is a message I disagree with. </p> <p>This is just the most obvious covers I've seen with it actually saying 'are you mom enough' to make it seem like breastfeeding has become some sort of competition. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-155742 Fri, 11 May 2012 11:32:09 +0000 meredithNYC 155742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ETA: I'm not even a mom yet (due in June) so I accept that my position on this matter very well may change. But things like the TIME coverage don't help to make me (and possibly others) more receptive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-155740 Fri, 11 May 2012 11:30:52 +0000 meredithNYC 155740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that TIME knew what they were doing by sensationalizing this topic and think, yeah, the cover was really unnecessary. That said, the whole thing does turn me off from attachment parenting (to be honest I was on the fence before). It makes me feel guilty to admit that I kind of value my me-time a little too much. To each his/her own, but I don't want to be tied to breastfeeding for 2 years or more, I don't want to share my bedroom with my baby and I don't want to wear a baby all the time. I just hate this idea that anything less than these (seemingly) impossible standards isn't good enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-155686 Fri, 11 May 2012 10:53:12 +0000 T.H.O.U. 155686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Two reasons I don't like it: </p> <p>1. The shock factor for breastfeeding which isn't want we need. We need to document and show the benefits of breastfeeding. The nurturing side of things. </p> <p>2. The headline, "are you mom enough". Even if I don't breastfeed until the age of 3 I am still "mom enough" unlike what the cover implies. </p> <p>I do believe that there shouldn't be an age limit for breast feeding. There are nutritional benefits at least until the age of 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-155682 Fri, 11 May 2012 10:49:41 +0000 Honeybee 155682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@eiko2010: Awesome blog post. :)</p> <p>I get tired of the whole Mommy Wars thing. I honestly don't care if someone breastfeeds their kid until they're 25, but the implication that in order to be a good mom you HAVE to parent in a certain way really bothers me. And the cover picture has basically nothing to do with the article; it's sensationalism at it's worst. Disappointing since we subscribe to Time magazine and I actually make time to read it every week... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-155667 Fri, 11 May 2012 10:36:45 +0000 Boogs 155667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I don't think I would personally enjoy BFing so long, I'm currently trying to get my 1yo to stop, I say people can do as they please with their bodies. I just wish they wouldn't have made the child look like he's dangling off her boob. Neither of them look all that happy in the photo and if it's something you are doing so long you might as well be happy about it. The headline also leaves a bad taste in my mouth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-155658 Fri, 11 May 2012 10:28:33 +0000 littlebug 155658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm offended by it, but not by the picture. Is the headline "Are you Mom enough?" really necessary?! Way to fan the Mommy Wars flames, TIME. THAT is offensive to me. I don't care about the age of kid or how long anyone else wants to BF. Is BFing longer than a year for me? No. But it doesn't affect my life if you want to. But the idea/insinuation that a woman is less of a mother because she doesn't BF for 2 years (or at all) is disgusting to me.</p> <p>This just about sums it up for me: <a href="http://www.peopleiwanttopunchinthethroat.com/2012/05/time-magazine.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.peopleiwanttopunchinthethroat.com/2012/05/time-magazine.html</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-154246 Thu, 10 May 2012 14:41:36 +0000 obxwife 154246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think @Andrea said it right, it doesn't help that we have to cover up in a corner of a store or hide in our car to BF -- now we have this cover stirring up controversy. I think that's exactly what it was intended to do.</p> <p>I personally don't see myself BFing more than a year and I don't think it's necessary but to each their own! If she wants to BF him til he's 10, that's their deal. LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-154238 Thu, 10 May 2012 14:24:54 +0000 Mrsbells 154238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree the child looks way older than 3. People have differnt ideas of "normal" I personally feel like breast feeding is for babies, rather than children, thats just my opinion </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-154231 Thu, 10 May 2012 14:20:35 +0000 MamaMoose 154231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whether or not extended breastfeeding is normal in many other cultures it isn't normal here. I agree the child looks a lot older than 3. And I'm sorry but some day when he is much older some friend of his is going to find this story and picture and the kid is going to be horribly embarrassed. I wonder if the mother even consider that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-154194 Thu, 10 May 2012 13:50:16 +0000 mediagirl 154194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: @blushink: I agree. When a child can run up to you and say "Mommy, I want some milk", I think it's time to let go.</p> <p>That picture is ridiculous to me because the story isn't even ABOUT breastfeeding your older children. It's to promote Dr. Sears. Meh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-154193 Thu, 10 May 2012 13:49:48 +0000 chopsuey 154193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>WHO recommends 2 years now and I read that there are still lots and lots of nutritional benefits to nursing after a year.<br /> I plan on going for at least 18 months.. possibly longer.<br /> The kid in the cover looks a lot older than 3, but it doesn't bother me! I can see a lot of pervs getting a kick out of it though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-154190 Thu, 10 May 2012 13:47:40 +0000 mrs. wagon 154190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: I can't even imagine. My nephew had a really tough time weaning. He would still reach under his mom's shirt after he was weaned, just to touch her belly, to be comforted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-154186 Thu, 10 May 2012 13:46:24 +0000 Mrs. Pen 154186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: yeah, and for a lot of babies that's just it. But so many have an emotional connection to it and it is nearly impossible to wean. I know the mom had a really hard time trying to explain to her why she could have her "milks" anymore. And now her little brother is nursing and she got kind of sad about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-154182 Thu, 10 May 2012 13:44:10 +0000 mrs. wagon 154182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: yeah, I was going to say, Wagon Jr. nor I ever really had that emotional connection with nursing. It was purely nutritional. He took more comfort in sucking his fingers, hugging his lovey, etc. So you can see why my perspective leans towards the practical, nutritional aspect ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-154177 Thu, 10 May 2012 13:42:40 +0000 Mrs. Pen 154177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: @Hanasu: Exactly. I would be okay with cover photos encouraging breastfeeding in general. But they are just tryin to stir controversy and you can tell. If it had been a picture of a 2 year old cuddling a mom in bed/couch nursing, it would be totally different. </p> <p>@mrs. wagon: Well.. there is the emotional aspect of it as well. I nannyed for a little girl who nursed til she was 3 and had a really difficult time weaning. She mostly did it to be close with her mom, not for the nutritional aspects really. She nursed only at naptime, bedtime or if she was really upset/needed to be comforted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-154157 Thu, 10 May 2012 13:25:12 +0000 mrs. wagon 154157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. this cover makes me not so happy. All I can think about is how the perverts of the world will see it.</p> <p>I'm of the camp of when they don't need it nutritionally anymore, no need to breastfeed anymore. I think the max benefits are the first 3 months, so I was ok with stopping then, but I continued til 7 months. I think the longest I'd go is until a year, since that's when they start with cow's milk and they're eating table foods. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-see-the-latest-cover-of-time-magazine#post-154149 Thu, 10 May 2012 13:18:48 +0000 tequiero21 154149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blushink: I'm w u. Think over 24 is definitely too much.</p> <p>@kml636: Maybe it's normal because of money issues and breastfeeding is cheap?</p> <p>@Andrea: Unfortunately I'm one of those people. Gross! I think they should stop before the kids remember it for life! </p>