https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Jul 2026 18:18:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup/page/2#post-430489 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 06:01:08 +0000 sea_bass 430489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me and my DH came into our marriage with very, very, very, different amounts of assets (shares, cash, properties). We are Catholic and our marriage preparation was all about preparing for a life long commitment. We felt that planning for a divorce by way of a prenup was contrary to this, so we didn't even look into one. </p> <p>I don't view this as similar to life insurance, which we both have. There is 100% certainty that you and your DH will die eventually and to not prepare for the eventuality is pretty reckless. Particularly if the surviving spouse will have to service a mortgage, care for children etc. </p> <p>Also, to my understanding, prenups are not legally binding in the UK, so should we have signed one, I do not think it could have been enforced. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup/page/2#post-430483 Tue, 04 Dec 2012 05:46:27 +0000 Penny Lane 430483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't sign one, and to be honest I didn't even know what one was until a few months ago. </p> <p>DH has a fair amount of inheritance coming when his parents pass, which I didn't really know about until after we married. If he had explained this, and asked me to sign, I would not have had a problem signing. But he didn't, and as far as I know, his parents didn't make any noise about wanting him to have me sign one either. </p> <p>We've got an 11 year age difference </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup/page/2#post-429700 Mon, 03 Dec 2012 15:27:15 +0000 calsmom 429700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have nothing wrong with a prenup. One of my old bosses didn't sign a prenup, because he and his wife had no money when they got married. Now he is a billionaire and he regrets it big time. It's a sucky situation to be in. Money brings out the evil in many people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup/page/2#post-425216 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 13:57:59 +0000 Mrs. Train 425216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope we were in the dirt poor club. Neither of us have any huge inheritance so it wasn't a big deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-425211 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 13:51:18 +0000 LindsayInNY 425211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ironically, both of us are lawyers but do not have a prenup. We discussed at length a bunch of times. In the end, we have debt and a dog so there wasn't really a need. Nevermind, I know if we ever split and I'm at fault, he will rake me over the coals, LOL!</p> <p>That being said, I *highly* recommend on for anyone with assets or different situations - age, property, debt, etc. My cousin is engaged and I'm trying to recommend it to her - she owns a house, he was previously married, has a son and no house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-425117 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 13:05:06 +0000 Mrs. Blue 425117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't have anything to protect at this point, but we wouldn't have done one anyway. My parents own a lot of land (ranchers), so I guess you could argue that I could have asked for one to "protect" that, but that's just not how we view marriage and God willing, I actually won't own any of that for many, many years. </p> <p>That said, in many situations I would have no issue whatsoever in recommending a prenup, even if I was absolutely convinced they would never get divorced; it's just not for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-425087 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 12:47:25 +0000 MrsSCB 425087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't, and I really believe you shouldn't sign one unless one or both of you come INTO the marriage with significant assets or have family money. To suggest a prenup without either of those conditions, to me, would have been offensive. Anything we make in this marriage belongs to us equally. Since we're both young and neither of us fall into those categories, we didn't even talk about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-425077 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 12:42:59 +0000 shopaholic 425077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but I would not have been offended. I even told my mom if he had asked, we'd just make him sign a pre-nup for me too! lol! But I think he "knew better" than to ask. Definitely in the case of some of our friends and family, it's a no-brainer that some of them really DO need the prenups and even for others, they SHOULD HAVE gotten prenups. It's wise to have a discussion about it either way, in my opinion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-425031 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 12:14:54 +0000 lovehoneybee 425031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, we didn't have anything going in, but DH has a potentially large inheritance coming his way in the not distant future so I would have understood if his family had asked (and I would have signed). </p> <p>Side note: My SIL has a very significant trust fund she can fully access when she turns 40. Her and stepbrother were 18-19 when they got pregnant/married, and against her family's wishes they did not have a pre-nup. They are now in the middle of a messy divorce, and stepbrother is trying to get part of her trust fund in the settlement. Reason number 123958573 I sided with her in the separation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-425013 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 12:04:43 +0000 JoJoGirl 425013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: I totally see it that way too, even though it was his idea. Neither of us has any assets, just debt, but it's no different than buying life insurance.. it's not like "well, I'm expecting to die soon"... more, why not get a policy in order just in case the worst-case scenario strikes that could destroy you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424995 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 11:54:24 +0000 spaniellove 424995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, although now I wish I had some kind of postnup. Not because I actually think we'd get divorced but because I don't want to be kicking myself someday for trusting anyone not to take what is mine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424826 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 10:45:15 +0000 oliviaoblivia 424826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have one. DH has a sizeable inheritance coming his way and it was a family requirement. It's fairly innocuous and didn't bother me at all to sign it.<br /> It protects his family's assets. I think it would be weird if we were to divorce and then I owned part of a house with his sisters.<br /> As far as our own assets they will (god forbid) be split equally like any other couple. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424806 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 10:34:50 +0000 ladyfingers 424806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, there was no need. This makes me think of that Seinfeld episode though where George tries to get Susan to break up with him by suggesting a prenup and she just starts laughing because she has more money than him, and is like, "Sure, give it to me, I'll sign your prenup. HAHAHA." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424778 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 10:25:42 +0000 Mrs.B 424778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@duckduckkristen: I have one to!</p> <p>DH is 16 years older and has his own business. He also has rental houses and property. After 10 years the prenup voids out though so it's not a perminet thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424711 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 09:57:08 +0000 JoJoGirl 424711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Exactly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424624 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 09:25:56 +0000 MrsBrewer 424624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, we were/are broke! Nothing to write a prenup for! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424607 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 09:20:44 +0000 prettylizy 424607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The idea of a prenup doesn't bother me at all, I think they are very smart things to have. I feel it's like life insurance, you don't plan on dieing early but if I do I want all bases covered. That said, we were both broke as a joke when we met at the ripe old age of 18, so there was nothing to 'nup' as it were. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424596 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 09:16:53 +0000 winniebee 424596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't see a prenup as a question of trust.....in certain circumstances, I think it's smart to have them. And the reality is that with the ish hits the fan in a marriage, people do things you never thought possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424584 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 09:12:44 +0000 JoJoGirl 424584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! And I was totally happy and comfortable with it, based on his reasons for wanting one. Surprisingly, I feel like going through that process brought us even closer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424560 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 08:57:12 +0000 Crisark 424560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope and I would have questioned his trust for me had he suggested it but that's just me. I do understand some people's reason for needing one but I know my situation and that wouldn't have gone over well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424546 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 08:46:59 +0000 London Mama 424546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, hubs has a couple of properties and I had some cash but we didnt even discuss a prenup. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424537 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 08:39:50 +0000 winniebee 424537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but we have been together since age 20....I made money and pseudo supported him while he was in medschool/residency and though soon he will make more than me, it will all come out in the wash. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424531 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 08:35:05 +0000 Adira 424531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hubs and I didn't have anything going into the marriage except debt, so we don't have one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424454 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 06:14:13 +0000 Arden 424454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't have had too much of a problem with it, but we didn't do one because we were both dirt poor (we also didn't have any debt though, so we came in with exactly nada).<br /> We also work in a field that isn't lucrative, so there isn't a lot of chance that either of us will bring in anything significant in the future, either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424450 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 05:46:02 +0000 Honeybee 424450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No but we got together when we were young and poor. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-424276 Fri, 30 Nov 2012 00:09:37 +0000 lolabee 424276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are currently working on a post nup, so I'm with you @duckduckkristen: DH is 7 years older, although 95% of it has to do with family stuff, which I am totally fine with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-423997 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 22:17:12 +0000 Alivoo01 423997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-423545 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 20:47:10 +0000 Bao 423545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-423541 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 20:46:14 +0000 banana 423541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. There was nothing for us to "prenup"! haha (so sad) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyone-sign-a-prenup#post-423532 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 20:43:39 +0000 autumnlove 423532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! </p>