https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 14:59:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it/page/2#post-509326 Thu, 17 Jan 2013 02:10:25 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 509326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband made his appt. a week ago (lo is months). They make him ass first. This is a guy who won't ever go through the trouble of making a doctor's appt. but he can't wait for this one.</p> <p>I'd prefer to wait awhile...just in case. But we've discussed it and are on the same page. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it/page/2#post-454981 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 09:39:12 +0000 blackbird 454981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mr bee, haha, oh I get that, trust me. Nobody likes pain down there! After the woman bears numerous children, I just think it's a relatively small sacrifice in the big scheme of things :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it/page/2#post-454753 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 00:16:56 +0000 StbHisMrs 454753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, he gad me schedule a consultation today, and he'll be scheduling the procedure on Friday after his consult. I didn 't have to push it, we had an "oops" last night and we both agree that 4 kids between the 2 of us is enough ;)<br /> He's always been up to it, his bestfriend had it done last year, and he 'll be using the same dr. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it/page/2#post-454370 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 19:59:23 +0000 luckypenny 454370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's dad had one &amp; he's said he'll get one when were done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it/page/2#post-454311 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 19:11:21 +0000 Mrs. Pen 454311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I would never ask my husband to do that and I KNOW he never would! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it/page/2#post-454302 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 18:56:20 +0000 sarac 454302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Lol. Yeah, I certainly don't think of it as nothing. I'm lucky that my husband appreciates the bs I've had to deal with for us to have kids when we want them. If I'd had an easy time with it he might not be so eager to share the load. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it/page/2#post-454230 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 17:37:52 +0000 Bao 454230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't really discussed it in detail since we just had our first LO and we want one or two more. However, I think he will agree since I'm the one going through pregnancy and birth, and I don't like using birth control, and it's a much more risky surgery for a female. He's a man he can handle that one ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it/page/2#post-454227 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 17:36:10 +0000 Rescuemom10 454227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted "thinking about it" just because its a ways off. DH and I talked about it and only want 2 kids. I am PG with my first but this is his second. I have a daughter who is 9 from his first marriage. So if we have two together that makes three total. We are good with that. So after the NEXT baby I have he wants to have it done and I am totally OK with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it/page/2#post-454225 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 17:35:33 +0000 mrbee 454225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: I would never compare a vasectomy to what women go through! (In general, I try not to compare the plight of each gender.) I was just sharing a male perspective on vasectomies.</p> <p>It's not as cut and dried as it may seem. (Wokka wokka wokka!!!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it/page/2#post-454219 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 17:32:34 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 454219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: We have been told (by the dr and the specialist) that it's fine unless they exert themselves too soon. And that happens a lot because it's not super painful so they think they're just fine and go back to work early or something crazy like that. So maybe your friend did too much too soon?</p> <p>A tubal could throw you into early menopause. Menopause is not pretty in my family, that was enough argument for Mr SH right there. Also his dad had one, so it seems normal to him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it/page/2#post-454207 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 17:22:31 +0000 sarac 454207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I can see why you feel that way, but consider the hell that lots of women go through to deal with hormonal birth control. And then pregnancy and giving birth! A few days of pain doesn't seem like much stacked up against that, imho.</p> <p>My husband is eager to get one when we know we're done. He's seen what I've gone through over the years, and we both hate condoms. And no way are we going to do NFP for another decade. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it/page/2#post-453552 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 12:21:57 +0000 Lozza 453552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I'm appreciative of the fact that DH is 100% on board the vasectomy train, I like to think that I'd be equally cool with finding other options if the idea made him uncomfortable. I'm pretty fervently in favor of women having the right to make decisions about their own bodies (I'd be pissed if DH tried to tell me to get on hormonal contraceptives or to get an IUD or something if I didn't want to), so I feel like DH should have the same right to say no to an option that he's not totally comfortable with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453537 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 12:13:25 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 453537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Maybe TMI.... My BIL had one, and my sister said that it was no big deal to him (no pain or anything). It's just that the semen is really runny now so that's just weird to him. </p> <p>As for my friend's husband, poor guy ended up swelling up like a balloon. They had to relieve the pressure at the ER and he had to sit on icepacks for 3 days. But after that, he was fine.</p> <p>I didn't want to scare anyone, but those are the experiences I have to base our decisions on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453530 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 12:09:55 +0000 mrbee 453530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I guess what's not clear is that many men have a strong physical aversion to pain in that area. I have been reminded of this because my son likes to kick me hard in the crotch constantly when I least expect it, and it is not fun.</p> <p>There are other non-physical reasons why vasectomies aren't as easy as they may seem, but you sound pretty convinced on the "suck it up, it's just a day and an ice pack" perspective so I won't try to sway you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453515 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 12:05:41 +0000 mrbee 453515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: I can't tell what you are referring to, and the ambiguity is scaring the living daylights out of me!</p> <p>I will consults the Google later this evening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453509 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 12:04:12 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 453509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: &amp; @chopsuey119: &amp; @MrsBrewer: Sorry - my phone died when I was in the middle of editing that. What I meant to say was how it changes the ....consistency... of things. Also, my friend's husband had a bad reaction to it and had to take a trip to the ER. I know he's just one of the very few unlucky ones that actually had and issue with it, but it still scares me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453473 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 11:53:57 +0000 sea_bass 453473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH would never agree to this and I would never ask him to. Maybe because we are Catholic, IDK, just not something we would consider. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453463 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 11:51:29 +0000 lavender 453463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's already told me repeatedly that he's not getting one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453433 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 11:44:26 +0000 blackbird 453433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, medically speaking, it is a minor thing. But i still think it is is pretty small apples, comparatively speaking :P And the payoff seems high. No worries about oopsie babies, how you react to hormonal birth control, no condoms, etc. </p> <p>I guess if having my ovaries removed involved ice packs for 24 hours and such a short recovery time, i wouldn't think much of it. Except for the whole throws-you-into-menopause thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453380 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 11:31:48 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 453380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm...there is a "specialist" in this area in my city and I have a friend who had it done. Basically they have some cutting edge technology where you literally feel almost zero pain.<br /> He said he went into the office, stayed standing up, the doctor did something that he said "felt like a rubber band snapping" and then boom. He was done. He walked out ten minutes later and drove himself home. So it's really not much of a procedure anymore at all (although I know not all places practice this type of vasectomy).</p> <p>Only caveat is that he said there needed to be a certain amount of ejaculations before it was effective. I do not know if this is the case with all vasectomies... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453320 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 11:07:02 +0000 Lozza 453320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, DH is set on getting one after we have one more kid (for two total). I'm actually the one who wants him to wait a few years to make absolutely certain we don't want any more, but I feel like he'll be booking that appointment the minute Child #2 is born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453152 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 09:56:25 +0000 ShootingStar 453152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, DH has agreed it's fair that if I go through childbirth, he should have a vasectomy. We're pretty set on the number we want to have, and if we wanted more we'd adopt instead of having more kids of our own. I also do not like being on hormonal birth control and don't want to do that for the rest of my fertile years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453125 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 09:40:59 +0000 Mrsbells 453125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. Neither of us will be having surgery for this reason </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453123 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 09:39:49 +0000 Mrs. Blue 453123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a huge topic of conversation at our house! I really don't think I want to have any more biological children after these two, but I do definitely want to adopt a girl. Therefore, I'm Team Vasectomy, though I'm not ready for him to do it yet. I want to wait until the boys are a year or two old and make sure I feel the same way then about having more biologically. DH keeps trying to call my bluff by saying that if I'm so convinced, I should just get my tubes tied this time if I have to have a c-section. I think he would probably do it eventually, but I think the idea really bothers him right now. </p> <p>Maybe it's like @mrbee: said: It's just not a minor thing to guys, even though it is a less invasive, risky procedure. I guess mentally/emotionally, maybe it would be like us having our ovaries removed or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453113 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 09:35:24 +0000 Alivoo01 453113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I first heard of this procedure, I brought it up to the hubby well before we were even TTC to see what his thoughts are. He wasn't a fan! He says there are other meausres to prevent an oopsie, no need for surgery. This was years ago though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453095 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 09:29:19 +0000 yoursilverlining 453095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We talked about it while I was still pregnant and DH is planning on having a vasectomy. We wanted to wait a bit after LO to make sure we are really one and done, and so far, neither of us want another child so he will be scheduling it soon.</p> <p>I think it helps that one of DH’s good friends had a vas and was very open about the whole procedure so my husband doesn’t think it’s a big deal. </p> <p>Vasectomies are not always reversible; so I definitely wouldn’t think about one unless you are 10000000% sure you don’t want any more bio children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453070 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 09:13:47 +0000 Mrs. Train 453070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband probably would have but I had a tubal ligation during my c section with my daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453056 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 09:05:52 +0000 mrbee 453056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: it's not a minor thing to a guy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453030 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 08:51:07 +0000 Bookish 453030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I brought it up andddd he didn't react well :p It's off the table for now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-so-get-a-vasectomy-or-planning-on-it#post-453024 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 08:49:37 +0000 mrs. wagon 453024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're thinking about it as a safeguard way in the future, but definitely wouldn't do anything for a while. Til then, no glove, no love. </p>