https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 05:54:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-450622 Sun, 16 Dec 2012 11:07:20 +0000 Beyond2 450622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm actually afraid of having a girl. Obviously I would love her dearly but it scares me to death! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-450614 Sun, 16 Dec 2012 10:51:05 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 450614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH has always said that he wants 4 kids and they all better be boys. Not sure if I would have called him a player in his younger years but he certainly wasn't a saint. I think if we had a daughter his biggest fears are sex &amp; the brattitude. He said a boy can't get pregnant. I explained that the same things that happen to boys happen to girls (minus AF and PMS), they will both be faced with challenges that we faced as kids (and then some) &amp; its up to us as parents to educate our children the best we can so they can make the right decisions. </p> <p>He would be nervous as hell if we had a little girl but I think he would do great! Having my Goddaughter around has proven this fact to me. He goes from the king of the forest to a tiny little kitten when she is around. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-450587 Sun, 16 Dec 2012 10:14:42 +0000 Grace 450587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: How did you deal with boys as a teenager/young adult? Perhaps your hubs needs to be reminded that you didn't fall for all the players and in fact you were smart enough to scoop him up (a nice guy).. Remind him that the two of you are going to raise a daughter that's just as smart as her mama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-450542 Sun, 16 Dec 2012 08:55:11 +0000 lomom 450542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband was honest--he wanted a boy. He honestly would've had ten kids if that's what it took to get a son. He doesn't have anything against girls but he wanted to pass on our last name and he wanted his Junior. If we were having a girl, he'd be happy too, healthy and happy are his main concerns, but he definitely wanted at least one boy. He's getting his Junior and couldn't be more thrilled :) I love how he talks to my stomach now and how he calls our baby Junior and just gets the biggest grin on his face when he talks about our son. It's heart-warming. He realized yesterday that he becomes a Sr. when Jr. arrives and he giggled and grinned and was just SO excited. </p> <p>I hope #2 is a girl though ;) I don't want to be REALLY outnumbered! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-446561 Thu, 13 Dec 2012 03:23:54 +0000 lemondrop 446561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband would love a daddy's girl, I on the other hand am terrified of having a girl. My mom and I had a rocky relationship growing up, I just watched Brave and it really hit home. </p> <p>I love having my boy (despite they grey hairs he gives me already), and would be quite happy with all boys. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-445659 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 19:16:49 +0000 lawbee11 445659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think my DH actually wants a girl! The only thing he is nervous about is me spending more money buying cute things like tutus and bows for a girl than I would spend if it were a boy....and that's a valid concern! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-445566 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 18:59:57 +0000 BabyBear 445566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is hoping for a girl for when the time comes! He's really, really, really wanting one. He has this vision that they're easier to take care of than boys. I'm not sure what gave him that idea though. Daddy's little princess in the near future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-445504 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 18:41:29 +0000 MrsSCB 445504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sea_bass: Agreed.</p> <p>I feel like your husband's outlook is pretty unkind to men and women. Maybe try to remind him that not all men are manipulative and out to use women and not all women need protecting from "big, bad men." We ladies can take care of ourselves! Personally, my experiences with men have been nothing but positive :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-445460 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 18:11:07 +0000 littlehunny 445460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband was worried about having girls because he says if he had a boy he has to worry about one penis, but if he has a girl he has to worry about all the penises... Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-445402 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 17:23:41 +0000 sarac 445402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DigAPony: my husband may have thought that as well, an he is thankfully being proved very wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-445397 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 17:20:33 +0000 sarac 445397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband was open about wanting a boy first. When the ultrasound turned up girl he was a little disappointed for sure. Now he loves our little girl more than anything in the world, and he is such an awesome father. Gender disappointment is real, but you can totally get past it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-445321 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 16:34:57 +0000 DigAPony 445321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sea_bass: +1. I was hoping someone would say this. </p> <p>My husband always said the idea of having a girl made him nervous because a girl wouldn't want to play outdoors and get dirty--I pointed out how ridiculous and old-fashioned that notion was about a million times and he seems to have gotten it out of his head! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-445286 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 16:22:29 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 445286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is the opposite. He'd really like to have a daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-445270 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 16:16:29 +0000 alayaya 445270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My hubs doesn't seem to care one way or another. He mentioned that he would be nervous about a daughter (for some of the reasons mentioned and how he might not know how to relate) but we have away harder time picking boy names...</p> <p>I'm actually really nervous about someday having a boy. I'm a girly girl and I don't really like "boy things" plus as a teacher I have to admit that almost all of my least favorite students have been boys..... Wow that sounded terrible! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-445056 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 14:39:15 +0000 jennylynn 445056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MY DH was absolutely *terrified* of having a daughter, and wanted a boy so badly. Until he heard "girl" at our 16 week u/s. He was texting everyone the news before we were even out of the room. He's still nervous about the boys when she's older, but he has embraced being a daddy to a little girl whole-heartedly and has even said he can't imagine having a little boy now, and wouldn't be mad if we had another girl! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-445054 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 14:37:59 +0000 Bao 445054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My hubby actually wanted a girl! He got one :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-445053 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 14:37:12 +0000 smocks 445053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sea_bass: +1</p> <p>DH is a little nervous about having a girl, but only because he thinks he'll be a total pushover. He doesn't have sisters, and he just thinks she'll wrap him around her little finger, haha. I don't doubt it. He's also concerned about her future attitude as a teen. He's heard stories about bratty teenage girls, but I think that's kind of an age thing, not necessarily a gender thing.</p> <p>ETA he was SUPER excited to find out we are having a girl. I thought for sure it was a boy until the anatomy scan. He confessed that he's actually more excited that we're having a girl. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-445034 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 14:32:19 +0000 prettylizy 445034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is super happy we had a girl even though everyone assumed he'd want a boy. Now that we have a girl I'm terrified of having a boy!!! I don't know how to be a mama to a little boy, my girl is so thoughtful and dainty and cautious. All her little boy friends are raucous and high energy and into everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-445024 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 14:26:50 +0000 Weagle 445024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was actually the one that was a bit afraid to have a girl. I just really hate the drama and cattiness. And I am afraid that some boy is going to use her and break her heart. But, I am more than thrilled that we have a little girl. She is so amazing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-444458 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 10:03:35 +0000 MediaNaranja 444458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only thing DH has mentioned about not having daughters is because he doesn't want to pay for a wedding, ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-444448 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 10:01:33 +0000 autumnlove 444448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH wanted a girl but now that we will have 2 he is a little afraid that our 3rd will be also a girl and it will be 4 against one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-444442 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 09:59:20 +0000 sea_bass 444442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: My DH would like to have a boy at some point (We plan on having more than one child). This is purely as he is a big sports fan/player and would like to be able to share those things with a son (as well as any daughters we have). </p> <p>Your husband's attitude really grates on me. I was not some passive actor in my own sexual life. I enjoyed my sexual experiences and gained a lot from them. I have never felt exploited or abused by men. My parents helped raise me to navigate the complex world of love and sex, (I would argue just as complex for boys as girls..). </p> <p>These kind of paternalistic attitudes get me down. Your daughter will have her own sexual desires, and shock horror she might act on them, just like a man would, just like any human would. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-444325 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 09:03:13 +0000 BSB 444325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: @blackbird: Yeah, I think that's why I don't understand. We will have the similar issues with having a son and we won't be able to control other people's children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-444322 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 09:00:22 +0000 blackbird 444322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>haha, DH made a joke about how she'll never be allowed to date. But I pointed out some of the issues with having boys, too, and he came around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-444318 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 08:54:36 +0000 Adira 444318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe you just need to try to explain to him that it's up to the two of you to teach any daughters you might have to respect themselves and how to say no. And that if your parents could do it with you (assuming that's the case), then the two of you can do it with your kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-444314 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 08:52:29 +0000 Mrsbells 444314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Yeah I say that because one of my good friends was that player type and he says he is terrified of what other guys will do his daughter if he ever has one </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-444311 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 08:49:03 +0000 BSB 444311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: No, he wasn't a 'player' type boy but I think a lot of his friends were. That does make sense, though. One of his other best friends was a major player. I still think his other best friend is an A-hole. I don't fully trust his friend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-444310 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 08:47:44 +0000 chopsuey 444310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dh wanted 2 girls! We're having one of each though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-444303 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 08:44:33 +0000 Mrsbells 444303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I hate to say this but maybe he was a "player type bad boy" when he was younger and he's worried that other guys may be the same way to his daughter in the future? Because otherwise I cant understand his fear, since technically you are a girl and he is happy with you.</p> <p>My husband is very happy with our girl, after we found out her gender he told me he secretly hoped she would be a girl but didnt want to tell me because he didnt want me to think he was disappointed if it was a boy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/anyones-spouse-or-so-afraid-of-having-a-girl#post-444300 Wed, 12 Dec 2012 08:43:03 +0000 Andrea 444300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband does the usual male jokes of answering the door with a gun when she has her 1st date, but I don't think he's ever had any serious concerns. He was so excited to find out that we were having DD1 and he's equally excited about DD2. I think most people just love whatever they end up having even if it takes some time to get used to it. We can't pick and choose anyway! </p>