https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 14:21:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-918104 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 00:15:23 +0000 lemondrop 918104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>GO Mama!!! Good for you! When people do start coming around, start off with a round of hand sanitizer or a good hand washing. Nothing wrong with that. </p> <p>My little guy had a rough start too- huge swelling/bruising on his head from delivery and then that lovely jaundice. It wasn't easy, but all came out fine after those first few speed bumps. Amazing how quickly they recover too. Hang in there, you are doing a great job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-918097 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 00:10:47 +0000 Honeygold89 918097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't sweat it do what you feel is best for your LO I'm only 8w7d and I already been told imma be over protective but so be it I'm like that with my stepdaughter and two nieces already so I know it will be even stronger with my own baby </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-918075 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 23:42:37 +0000 Bookish 918075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks guys :) I appreciate it. Like y'all, I just don't get people sometimes. :p my baby, my rules! She's doing good, right now she's got the hiccups and is keeping us awake haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-917989 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 23:01:08 +0000 googly-eyes 917989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh gosh. I think all newborn moms are "over"protective, at LEAST the first time around. ESPECIALLY if something like that happened. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-917952 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 22:41:29 +0000 Pink Champagne 917952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People are so strange.<br /> Although, it should put your mind at ease a little that its not cold and flu season, so other than people actually being sick, you can probably ease up a bit on the Purell Police ;) a few germs is good for a healthy baby :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-917726 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 21:31:44 +0000 irene 917726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry but this really makes me laugh.... :)</p> <p>Sorry you had to go through this but same as Foodnerd81 I also don't understand why are people so obsessed with holding the baby that's not even yours. I will never understand it. And in terms of germophobe, you should have seen us. I told my mom (and husband told his) to do whooping cough shots because that's what the hospital told us to do in those birth classes. Thinking back it was a bit crazy but I do not want my newborn to be sick at all. Life with a newborn is already hard as is, I do not need challenges. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-917715 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 21:25:47 +0000 Foodnerd81 917715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even before getting pregnant I've never understood people who think their desire to play with someone else's new baby trumps anything that the parents say. Even if you WERE being overprotective, which you aren't, it's your baby! I would do the same thing as you. I'm glad she is getting better and I hope you are feeling on too. If people don't like it they can just wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-917708 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 21:23:47 +0000 Boheme 917708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not overprotective, you're a mama and that's what mamas do - protect their little ones. You did the right thing. I hope you and baby girl are healing and resting up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-917678 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 21:15:54 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 917678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not an a-hole or over protective, you're a reasonable, loving mother! It annoys me when people treat my baby (and, it seems, most babies) as playthings with needs &amp; opinions that come secondary to there own! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-917492 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 20:18:25 +0000 Kemma 917492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally understand how you feel, my wee girl also had a very traumatic delivery and lost skin off her head when the ventouse cup slipped off, she was a very angry and upset baby for the first couple of weeks.</p> <p>My midwife advised me to limit physical contact and overstimulation for my LO, particularly as my milk still wasn't in so she was cranky and hungry, and it upset my SIL, but at the end of the day my baby was more important than her feelings!</p> <p>You're doing awesome so keep on keeping on and forget about what anybody else thinks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-917462 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 20:10:19 +0000 fert 917462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations! Hugs and sanitary kisses! Also, you go momma! You do what you need to do to keep your LO safe and healthy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-917452 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 20:08:57 +0000 avivoca 917452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You guys are doing a great job! You are the parents, and what you say goes. Everyone else's wants can wait. Congratulations on your sweet girl, and I hope both of you are healing well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-917447 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 20:07:16 +0000 bpcmarj 917447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations on your sweet baby. You are Momma and what you say goes. They need to suck it up and keep their mouths shut. She is your daughter and you have every right to shelter and protect her....she's a newborn! Don't let them get to you! Make DH run family interference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-917443 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 20:06:15 +0000 aprk 917443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So annoying. You're doing great, mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-917438 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 20:04:20 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 917438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup! You are protecting your little one, and if that is considered over protective, then so be it. It means you are doing your job as a great mama. </p> <p>I'm so sorry you guys had a rough go of it. You must be pretty sore too.</p> <p>You are doing great. Don't doubt yourself for a second! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-917436 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 20:03:51 +0000 cmomma17 917436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ignore the selfish people and continue doing what you feel is best for your baby. Mama's rules!!<br /> After becoming a mom I have such huge respect for the wishes of other moms. I hope I don't forget that as I get older.<br /> Congrats again on your baby girl. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/apparently-im-an-overprotective-ftm#post-917425 Tue, 09 Jul 2013 19:59:42 +0000 Bookish 917425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our gorgeous, sweet LO was born 5 days ago. I'll write her birth story soon, but the short version is: water broke 6am, got epidural at 2pm, started pushing at around 8pm, at which point they told me it would be a 'tight fit.' Three hours of pushing, position adjustments, and forceps later, I ended up with a C-section and she was born at 11:47pm.</p> <p>SO. She had a really, really rough time of it. All the manhandling and forceps left her with a hugely swollen head, scratches everywhere on her scalp, and obviously, a huge headache. Poor thing would scream her head off if anyone went near it, understandably. It really was horrifying looking. She also developed jaundice and was on light treatments for 2 days. </p> <p>Because of her poor head, DH and I decided it would be best if no one held her for a couple days. People did not take this well. My mom pouted and then tried to argue with me, and then left early to go back to her house when I wouldn't budge. My dad and his wife told me I was being overprotective until the next day when they actually *looked* at her head, and then they were very upset and understanding. *eyeroll*</p> <p>Apparently my MIL was pissed too, because when DH talked to her earlier today, she said "if I come down, will you even let me in the door? Will you let me hold her AT ALL?" </p> <p>UGGHH!! Way to make me feel like an a-hole for protecting my child, people. On top of it, after DH told her I wasn't letting my sister visit until she got over a sinus infection, she said "why don't you get everyone gloves and a mask if you are such germ-a-phobes." OMG lady, I don't want my kid around sick people. Everyone else just wash your dang hands.</p> <p>The whole thing pissed me off. LO is doing so much better, her jaundice is nearly cleared and her head is back to a normal lovely size and healing well. I just don't understand why people thought their needs to hold my baby outweighed LO's need to freaking heal!!</p> <p>:( </p>