https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 25 May 2026 16:33:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2263216 Fri, 14 Aug 2015 04:54:40 +0000 Ash 2263216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: my exact thoughts. :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2263189 Fri, 14 Aug 2015 00:16:14 +0000 LindsayInNY 2263189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ash: Seriously. What was I thinking?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262875 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 16:55:49 +0000 catomd00 2262875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Peasinapod: no you're right that's what it is. I just thought I had heard you couldn't actually do it. Regardless, if you can that's not cool of your doc to do it without your consent! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262874 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 16:55:06 +0000 runnerd 2262874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: I was definitely disappointed with things down there post-delivery. It just doesn't seem the same. I had an episiotomy, but I think the state of things has more to do with what @blackbird: said </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262868 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 16:45:51 +0000 Ash 2262868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: I looked down there once and I'll never do it again. It was like a black hole! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262834 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 15:52:39 +0000 magnolia 2262834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: I haven't really looked but I had an episiotomy and they were stitching for a long time... anyway it took me at least 3 months to feel somewhat back to normal. Give yourself time! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262832 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 15:51:18 +0000 magnolia 2262832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Peasinapod: Yeah I had this too I think. Still feels uncomfortable, I am 8 months pp :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262813 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 15:28:02 +0000 LindsayInNY 2262813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsHangry: I thought kegels helped bladder control... I'm going to do them 24/7 if it makes my vag look less like the Grand Canyon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262812 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 15:27:45 +0000 snowjewelz 2262812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had tears AND they cut me... I don't look down there, lol :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262805 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 15:21:52 +0000 rachiecakes 2262805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Peasinapod: I think the cosmetic ones are when they even up anything on the outside that's uneven so that you don't have a big jagged scar.<br /> I had a mediolateral episiotomy, so it cut through muscle and the cosmetic stitches on the outside were so that the scar was as small and healed as flat as possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262801 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 15:19:47 +0000 MsHangry 2262801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After you've had a baby most vaginas that I've seen (medical student OBGYN rotation) will look different than a woman who hasn't had a vaginal birth. The "tightness" of the surrounding muscles will go back (keep up the Kegels) but 7w pp is early yet.<br /> I don't think this is related to your tear/repair. My tear looked like a little white line at 6w pp if that helps...I straight up had the midwife get a mirror and point it out at my appointment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262796 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 15:16:11 +0000 Peasinapod 2262796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catomd00: oh maybe I misinterpreted what I read. My understanding was just that the husband stitch was when your doctor stitched you up more than they needed to (because it would otherwise heal naturally, but not look the same and perhaps feel less tight?) but maybe it means something else? All I know is I did not care what anything looked like and would prefer not having cosmetic stitches! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262761 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 14:45:24 +0000 catomd00 2262761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: oh you poor thing you shouldn't have looked! I was adamant my doctor forget a few stitches, too lol. It looks much more normal now (18 months later!) </p> <p>@Peasinapod: I thought the husband stitch was a myth because you can't stitch intact parts together? But maybe that's not correct info either! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262664 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 14:05:48 +0000 Peasinapod 2262664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was actually annoyed at my Dr for the opposite reason. At one point while she was sewing me up she commented that she was pretty much done, just doing some 'cosmetic' stitches. </p> <p>Turns out there is something referred to as the husband stitch where a Dr stitches you up tighter than medically necessary so it 'looks good'. In reality it just makes sex more uncomfortable for the first few months! </p> <p>I would have preferred it just looked a bit different than before. But I wasn't asked my opinion at the time.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262652 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 14:00:50 +0000 LindsayInNY 2262652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: It feels normal? Just doesn't look it...</p> <p>@rachiecakes: I hope she has good feedback tomorrow then... I don't know if I'm expecting things to be/look/feel the same or what... :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262629 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:45:17 +0000 rachiecakes 2262629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: the doctor wouldn't tell me either and she said that with the additional episiotomy, they don't even count how many stitches (in the hundreds..). It looked AWFUL for a looong time. Black and blue for months, misshapen, swollen. Then granulation tissue, so it looked like guts spilling out. Really bad.<br /> BUT at 9 months PP it looked brand new! At my annual dr visit, she couldn't tell that I had stitches at all, never mind all the other stuff. It's amazing. Miraculous.<br /> Just be patient, it does take time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262628 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:45:16 +0000 LovelyPlum 2262628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: there is no way I felt normal down there at 7 weeks, even though I felt pretty good. Everything was still swollen and squishy. It's better now, though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262626 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:43:05 +0000 LindsayInNY 2262626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: I can't believe I'm even posting this here!!! I'm still wearing panty liners so maybe you're right... I guess I assumed since I'm not peeing my pants that everything was normal already?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262621 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:40:54 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2262621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: It might take longer than 7 weeks for it to heal enough to recover it's old elasticity, strength, thickness, etc. (I can't believe I am being so descriptive about a vagina :-P ), but IT WILL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262596 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:28:42 +0000 LindsayInNY 2262596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: No, I know... I suppose that could've done it. I just feel like it wasn't sewn up "tight" enough! I've clearly lost my mind...</p> <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: The doctor wouldn't even tell me what degree tear it was! I asked the nurse because I'm nosey. I hope things feel normal... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262594 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:28:00 +0000 Chillybear 2262594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I delivered my doctor told me i had a tear that required dissoluble stitches. When she was done she said everything looks great and should heal normally, but advised to avoid checking anything out with a mirror for awhile. This is the same doctor that at my 6week post partum appointment cleared me for sex but then tells me if i want to wait longer to tell my husband She said to wait 6 more weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262588 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:26:23 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2262588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>7 weeks is still early. I am sure it will go back to normal! </p> <p>I had 32 stitches after my first delivery--I had 3rd degree tears and tore in a star shape. With some time, everything was definitely back into working order. Nothing felt different at all! Not sure about appearance because I never looked. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262584 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:25:42 +0000 Ajsmommy 2262584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a 2nd degree tear and I def looked.. like you I didn't see the stitches (which I thought was odd).... anyway once I was all healed up I don't notice anything different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262581 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:24:36 +0000 blackbird 2262581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You did push a baby out your vagina :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/appearance-after-repair-of-tear#post-2262573 Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:22:04 +0000 LindsayInNY 2262573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't even believe I'm posting this... I should buy gold again just for it!</p> <p>I had a 3rd degree tear that was difficult to repair. At least that's what I was told? There was a lot of blood loss too. Not sure how many stitches. Recovery wasn't bad. After a couple of days, I was sitting fine and walking around fine. Bathroom has been mostly fine too. I'm 7 weeks PP today and have my checkup tomorrow. I looked down below a while back and didn't really see anything alarming (why I'd look at stitches is beyond me but I tried lol). I looked again today and I swear my lady bits look differnet now. Like there's a bigger hole than before. Can that be possible?! I hope I'm just imagining it because I want to cry, if so. I don't even know. Did anyone look different after their repair? Please tell me I'm just losing it... </p>