https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 16:55:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-249069 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 21:49:45 +0000 Mrs. Pen 249069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsdaredevil: oh dear. I think DH's mom would be like that still if we hadn't moved 1500 miles away. That was the best thing we've ever done for our marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-249066 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 21:47:41 +0000 Mrs. Pen 249066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Money isn't as much a touchy subject for us as it is we just don't like to talk about it. </p> <p>@chopsuey119: I know you guys got married super fast - did he know about your debt before you wed?</p> <p>@ladyfingers: oh my freakin' lanta... ummm... wow. speechless. I would have been sooo upset. and hurt. and probably held it against her for quite the while.</p> <p>The one HUGE touchy subject between us is his mother. It's not that she is mean or bad or anything - but she's just too much for me. And I've tried, I have honestly tried my hardest to keep an open mind, be kind, patient, understanding, keep my mouth shut etc... and I just can't anymore. I think it's funny to crack jokes about her because she does/says some crazy things that are just out there - but DH takes it SOOO personally and offensively. He gets so hurt and upset and one time he actually told me I'm a mean person. After that night (there was a huge fight after he called me mean) I have avoided it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-249065 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 21:47:39 +0000 Arden 249065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dear God, are all of our in-laws nut cases? lol</p> <p>His parents are... wow. Like @TurtleDoves, his parents are unbelievably late for everything. Including our wedding, by almost an hour, even though their hotel was ten minutes away. The brunch the day after our wedding they were two entire hours late.</p> <p>His dad is crazy negative and judgmental (they have like NO friends for this reason) and his mom is very manipulative and whiny. My parents always say they are amazed that DH turned out so well after being raised by these crazies.</p> <p>Sometimes the craziness is obvious to DH and he gets mad at them too, but a lot of the time it just seems normal to him. So when I go insane over something, he's like "What's the big deal? All parents are like that!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-249053 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 21:24:38 +0000 sunny 249053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our families are the touchiest subject for us... Everything else seems so easy compared to that! Particularly who we spend Christmas with. Everyone lives far away from each other and we typically only see each other once a year or two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-249030 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 20:50:18 +0000 ladyfingers 249030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsdaredevil: After the mother son dance at our wedding, she grabbed onto him and yelled at me, "You can't have him, he's mine!" in front of everybody. Supposedly she was kidding. I thought it was so super effing weird. Maybe I"m just overly sensitive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-249027 Sun, 05 Aug 2012 20:48:38 +0000 ladyfingers 249027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Money, just in the sense that I make a little more so I have more spending money available to me and that kinda frustrates him I think. I think secretly too he feels bad when I get bonuses and stuff. We haven't been able to get our schedules together to go to the bank and make everything joint (which is what we finally decided) so I think that will help him feel more like it's "our" money instead of mine and his.</p> <p>Politics and social issues, because he doesn't care at all and goes to great lengths to say so. He doesn't vote or anything. And it really pisses me off. Then I bring up some sort of issue and get myself all worked up when he doesn't give a crap. I step in it every single time... :)</p> <p>And his mom. Sometimes I roll my eyes, she's very protective and overly lovey and stuff and he gets really pissed off at me when I react. Oops! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-248287 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 23:08:09 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 248287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We hate our financial situation so I wish we didn't have to talk about it. But alas. We can't ignore it either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-248271 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 22:14:58 +0000 anonysquire 248271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsdaredevil: Do we have the same mother in law? When me and DH were first dating she wanted to take us out to breakfast. She insisted on driving so me and DH sat in the back of the car. She pouted the whole day saying that DH should have sat up front with her. She always does this kind of stuff though.</p> <p>They seem to have a really weird relationship. We were out at the bar once with her and she kept flashing everyone, she didn't care that her son say her 55 yr old boobs? OMG I could have died!</p> <p>But ya, we don't talk about his family at all lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-248267 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 22:00:24 +0000 mrbee 248267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsdaredevil: I would love to hear more!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-248266 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 21:59:53 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 248266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His family as other PPs have mentioned.</p> <p>His mother is attached to him. It's ridiculous. She acts like a jealous girlfriend. It drives me nuts, but he still thinks it's normal. I could go into so much more detail, but I will spare you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-248261 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 21:57:35 +0000 anonysquire 248261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His family! The fact that they all hate me and treat me poorly. He would rather not talk about it and I want to fight it out I guess lol. We will be visiting the inlaws the end of next month and I will be dropping him off and going to hang out in the city myself :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-248250 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 21:39:36 +0000 SugarplumsMom 248250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His parents. Before I came along, him and his brother's lives revolved around their parents. His mother monopolized all of their free time and fully convinced herself that her sons (both avid gamers and movie addicts) didn't want to do anything else but chop whatever tree she wanted and garden for her all day. To this day, she still convinces herself that they do it because they like it and not because they're merely trying to make her happy. </p> <p>Therein lies my problem and the reason we argue 99% of the time. When a woman is so used to getting exactly her way for years, she becomes incapable of thinking outside herself. Although we don't spend as much time with them anymore, I feel guilty for it, not because DH prefers to, but I know it's what he's used to. I'm conflicted with his parent's expectations of using their kids as entertainment and just living our own lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-248044 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 14:06:06 +0000 loveisstrange 248044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His family. His parents both passed away in the last couple years and his grandparents on his dad's side and his brother are the only family he cares about. His grandma is a psycho control-freak who has no filter left on her mouth and his brother is a 27-year-old deadbeat who has never had a job in his life and lives off of the money their mom left when she died, in her house. I can't say a word against either of them and the subject of his dad is totally off-limits because he has never dealt with his grief properly.</p> <p>Also, DH dawdles. If we need to be somewhere or do something he doesn't want to, he will purposely make us late. It makes me SO MAD. I hate being late. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-248038 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 13:42:08 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 248038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: haha WE DO (so sad we've resorted to this)! I did it once and DH was so nervous that they'd actually show up on time for once. But they didn't and it worked out perfectly.<br /> It doesn't work for things like my baby shower or the birth of their first grandchild (which I am SURE they will completely miss despite living 15m from the hospital) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-248032 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 13:28:28 +0000 matador84 248032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove at least I have him trained enough not to do that...he knows he needs to quit he just won't. We had a discussion the other day about getting on chantix, but idk if it will work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-247931 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 10:32:55 +0000 MamaMoose 247931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is always making us run late and it really frustrates me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-247930 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 10:29:47 +0000 autumnlove 247930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lydg: :-( One of my exes dipped...cups were everywhere!!! And that stupid packed lip...ugh! So sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-247928 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 10:25:48 +0000 matador84 247928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH dips and it drives me totally, totally up the wall. He smokes cigars socially too...so the whole nicotine addiction is a constant touchy subject/source of frustration!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-247906 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 10:03:25 +0000 autumnlove 247906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelingbrit: Yeah, this bro is 38 and lives with my FIL and pays no rent or bills. But he spends all his money on lavish gifts for his GF...new MacBook Pro, puppy, etc. He never has money for food or gas. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-247905 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 10:03:10 +0000 heffalump 247905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Football and college for our lo. We went to rival schools. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-247864 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 08:59:53 +0000 wheres_c 247864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: I get frustrated when he helps out his family too sometimes. If they were in really hard times I would be ok with it.....but I see him help them with money and then his bro out drinking that night. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-247761 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 01:45:18 +0000 mrbee 247761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: Can you guys start telling them a time 1.5 before the event starts? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-247760 Sat, 04 Aug 2012 01:44:26 +0000 leelee 247760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: my in-laws are always late too! Even when parties are at their house we get there before them so nothing is cooked or ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-247739 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 23:19:00 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 247739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His parents are always so.damn.late to everything. I totally click with my in laws but not enough to get after them when they're late. That's his job! But he doesn't do it. I am talking... A good 1.5h late to every BBQ, every birthday and every gathering. In fact, when we go over for dinner at 6...we don't eat until 8 because his mom hasn't cooked yet. So every time we invite them or they invite us: it turns into an argueing battle between me and DH. Ugh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-247660 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 20:52:06 +0000 autumnlove 247660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: Money talks are the worst! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-247652 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 20:42:39 +0000 chopsuey 247652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hurmm.. currently, no!</p> <p>I had a crazy amount of debt when DH married me and he was debt free. HAHA. We had some fun (-.-) convos about my debt when we first got married--especially since he had to pay it off :D ha! So glad those days are over.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-there-any-touchy-subjects-for-you-and-your-so#post-247646 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 20:40:08 +0000 autumnlove 247646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have the majority of of paychecks going into our joint account and we have smaller percentages going into our personal accounts as fun money. </p> <p>DH doesn't care how I spend my fun money and I usually don't care how he spends his money..I'm happy when he splurges on new golf clubs, etc. However, it drives me crazy when he bails his moochy brother out of jams and gives or lends him money! </p> <p>Ugh, I guess I should just let it go!</p> <p>Are there any touchy subjects for you and your SO? </p>