https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 18:27:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-a-better-friend-than-your-friends-are-to-you#post-70756 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 09:08:32 +0000 Adira 70756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think with my best friend, we're ALMOST equal, though I'm probably a better friend than she is. She has a tendency to swap between friends - she has trouble keeping up with all her friends at a time, so she'll be a really good friend to me for a month, and then not talk to me for another month. When she IS around, she's a wonderful friend, but it's those times that she just drops off the face of the planet that I think makes her not quite as good a friend as I am.</p> <p>And with my ex-bestfriend, I think I'm definitely the better friend. I used to think we were equal, but I've begun to realize just how selfish she can be and how mean she can be if she doesn't get her way, so in that, I'm definitely a better friend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-a-better-friend-than-your-friends-are-to-you#post-70689 Thu, 09 Feb 2012 00:01:52 +0000 calsmom 70689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For my close friends, we are all pretty equal. We will always be there for each other. We don't talk as much as we would like to, but life gets in the way unfortunately. It spoke volumes when my close friends flew half way across the country to attend my wedding last year, and when I had some local people I thought were friends flaked on me. I am no longer in contact with those types of people. It was an expensive trip for my long-distance friends, and it meant the world to me that they could make it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-a-better-friend-than-your-friends-are-to-you#post-70516 Wed, 08 Feb 2012 16:40:54 +0000 LuLu Mom 70516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For hte most part I think my friendships are pretty equally, however I have noticed in recent years my best friend doesn't seem to put as much effort into our relationship as I did. I did not receive a wedding gift/shower gift from her at all, when I spent quite a large sum of money on personal gifts for her that I knew she would love (and did). It did sting a little to not receive a card or anything when she was my maid of honor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-a-better-friend-than-your-friends-are-to-you#post-70475 Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:39:13 +0000 Rubies 70475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I put in more effort than my friends. I'm always the organizer, the initiator, the one to call/email first and it's exhausting. Even now, being the only one with a child, I'm still the one planning coffee dates with friends and I'm starting to resent it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-a-better-friend-than-your-friends-are-to-you#post-70472 Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:36:34 +0000 Clementine 70472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i think i am and definitely there's been some disappointing moments esp. during special times and holidays where i think i put in way more effort. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-a-better-friend-than-your-friends-are-to-you#post-68954 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 13:23:43 +0000 Modern Daisy 68954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friendships are pretty equal thankfully. One of my best friends went through an 'all about me' phase and I called her out on it after a year. I'm so glad I did because she totally changed her tune and it's no longer one-sided. </p> <p>I'm pretty lucky with my group of friends, I feel like I would do anything for anyone of them and they would all do the same for me. I had so much support during my wedding planning and every year on my birthday they always make a big deal. It makes me tear up a little just thinking about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-a-better-friend-than-your-friends-are-to-you#post-68946 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 13:19:08 +0000 lilteacherbee 68946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I am :/ its sad because most of my friends are ones I've had since elementary/middle school, so its hard when they ignore me/blow me off. My closest friends now are 1) a roommate I had before DH and I got married, 2) my friend I met through DH's family (she married his cousin), and 3) a very good friend I've had since 1st grade who always makes an effort to see me.</p> <p>I've noticed that my close friends/bridesmaids/college roommates/friends since 3rd grade are at completely different places in their lives than I am (ahem, one friend keeps telling me NOT to have a baby...), which is fine but I wish they would realize that we all don't have to live our lives the exact same way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-a-better-friend-than-your-friends-are-to-you#post-68936 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 13:14:30 +0000 mrs. wagon 68936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is so sweet! One of my friends sent me a bouquet of chocolate covered strawberries on mother's day while I was pregnant with RJ. That was so touching. </p> <p>BUT for the most part, I'm the one initiating get-togethers, so sometimes I feel like without me we'd never see each other. I think we're all just lazy though... haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-a-better-friend-than-your-friends-are-to-you#post-68923 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 13:10:37 +0000 heffalump 68923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sadly, I'm a better friend to my friends than they are to me. I was just talking about this to hubby because I think I'm ready to drop one of my friends for this reason. We'll have a 30 minute conversation, only about him. His work, his appartment, his relationships. Meanwhile I have a baby, I had surgery, my husband was going to have surgery, etc. He knew this, but didn't ask me about it once. I feel like friendships are supposed to be between two people, and this just seems very one sided. So I think I'm done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-a-better-friend-than-your-friends-are-to-you#post-68913 Tue, 07 Feb 2012 13:07:53 +0000 banana 68913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my old high school friends just recently sent me a care package after she found out I was pregnant and dealing with horrible morning sickness. It was a complete surprise and I was so happy! She wrapped up lemon drops, gum and ginger tea and put in a nice note about how she was thinking of me and hoping that I feel better soon. She's always been the kind of friend that does small but such meaningful things for me. Like sending me cards on my birthday, anniversary and LO's birthday. And I always feel so bad for not being as good of a friend to her as she has been to me. :(</p> <p>Do you think you're a better friend than your friends are to you? </p>