https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 15 May 2026 18:09:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-able-to-attend-family-events#post-695533 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 21:43:36 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 695533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We miss a ton of stuff because we live a bit away (1.5 hours) and Mr SH works weekends, so unless it's a wedding, we don't usually get there.</p> <p>And as a side note, mid afternoon is the worst time for little kids (well, other than late evening). It always messes naps up. So maybe you'll still be just as annoyed when you have kids :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-able-to-attend-family-events#post-695417 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 20:35:27 +0000 .twist. 695417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Huh, that's unfortunate! I know that when we plan family events everyone tries to make it accommodate everyone... :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-able-to-attend-family-events#post-695403 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 20:15:37 +0000 T.H.O.U. 695403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: wow I could see how that would be really tough. My mom always wants us to drive 5 hours to see her but I always remind her she's the one that doesn't work so its easy for her to come see us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-able-to-attend-family-events#post-695400 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 20:11:24 +0000 Dandelion 695400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That stinks! Hopefully they'll be more inclusive when your lo comes. Maybe they just don't worry about your schedules now cause their activities sound kid-oriented? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-able-to-attend-family-events#post-695359 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 19:48:54 +0000 MrsH 695359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have this. We live an hour from my in laws and they schedule stuff on week nights or don't give us advance notice for events. It is really hurtful to my dh. :( sorry they aren't willing to bend at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-able-to-attend-family-events#post-695354 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 19:46:23 +0000 deerylou 695354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, @ladybee! See, in DH's family, the world revolves around the grandchildren. Understandable, sure, but hopefully they make a point to include *all* the grandchildren, and not just the ones who have moms that stay home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-able-to-attend-family-events#post-695352 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 19:44:52 +0000 heffalump 695352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh and I both have small families (I have one sister that is oot so she rarely gets to come to things and one brother close by, and dh has one brother. So for us it's pretty easy to schedule things, we always make it work so everybody is included, even if that means not celebrating a holiday on the actual day of the holiday. Plus everyone in our families work full time except me, so weekdays at daytime cant happen.</p> <p>Maybe once your lo comes they will make more of an effort to include you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-able-to-attend-family-events#post-695351 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 19:43:53 +0000 ladybee 695351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That stinks! How unfair to assume everyone can attend mid day things during the week. Most people work. I don't think it's rude to express concern that your LO will be left out if events aren't held at a different time or day. I hope it works out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-able-to-attend-family-events#post-695340 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 19:36:25 +0000 deerylou 695340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I live in the same city as both sets of parents, my sister, and most of his siblings (he's from a big family). </p> <p>My family is small, and making plans with them is relatively easy since my mom and I work similar hours, and my dad is retired.</p> <p>However, it's nearly impossible for us to make most events with DH's family. Our LO will be the seventh grandchild on his side, and both of his sisters are SAHMs. Everything from birthday parties to Easter egg coloring to meeting up for a movie is done in the early-mid afternoon hours on weekdays. DH and I both work full-time, and aren't both home until dinner. </p> <p>When we've expressed grief over the scheduling of family events, they say we will understand once we have LO. However, with the exception of my maternity leave, DH and I will still maintain careers outside of the home, so it won't change our availability. Do any of you deal with scheduling troubles in your extended family? Do you think it would be rude to expect some flexibility so our daughter isn't always left out? </p>