https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 31 May 2026 18:52:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166984 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 18:35:47 +0000 AprilFool 1166984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not afraid but since we and two and though there will be a small part of me that is disappointed no matter what. If it is another girl that means I will never have a boy and if it is a boy it means LO will never have a sister. </p> <p>I will be happy no matter what gender but it will be the finality of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166982 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 18:31:36 +0000 babycanuck 1166982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes - and this is one of the reasons I won't find out the gender. When that baby is born, healthy and beautiful regardless of gender, I won't care. I worry if I find out I will have gender disappointment if it's not what I (or DH) is hoping for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166977 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 18:29:59 +0000 PEAPIE 1166977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all. I have no expectations for our overall family plan. Just raising (probably 2) happy kids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166957 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 18:22:11 +0000 chopsuey 1166957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted 2 girls and had some disappointment, but you know how much I adore my son!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166946 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 18:17:04 +0000 artsyfartsy 1166946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I experienced a small dose of gender disappointment when I found out this baby was a boy honestly. I've always wanted all girls. Even though I was really super excited when I found out it was a boy, it still took me a while to warm up to the idea. I have quite a few friends pregnant and due around the same time as me and I got super jealous to see them planning for a baby girl or announce they were expecting a baby girl. I have no boys in my immediate family so I honestly didn't know how (still don't) to handle raising a boy. I was going to miss out con helping my daughter get ready for her wedding day, or pick out a dress for prom, or be there when she gave birth one day...that's the only side of big events I had ever seen.</p> <p>But I bonded with my son pretty quickly, especially after naming him. I'm getting excited for all the mother-son events I get to experience and seeing DH teach him how to be a man. Now I can't wait for him to get here!</p> <p>I always said if I was going to have a boy instead of all girls, I would want him to be my first born so he could be the big brother. Now honestly, even though I'm still hoping for a little girl one day, I really don't think I'll care either way for future LO's.</p> <p>Before I found out the gender I wasn't afraid of gender disappointment. I couldn't believe people actually got disappointed! I thought I would still be in love with my baby even if he was a boy. I was shocked to find myself feeling disappointment after finding out and that it took me a while to warm up to the idea. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166909 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 18:00:40 +0000 SAHM0811 1166909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: If the first two are the same gender, the chances are higher for #3 to be the same gender too? I didn't know that. I thought they were all separate, random events, for the most part! </p> <p>I think part of why I went TG with #2 was to ease off any gender disappointment that may have occurred. Turns out I got my 2nd girl, so it was an unforgettable surprise. </p> <p>By the time #3 comes around, we really are ready for either sex. A third girl would be as equally awesome as our first boy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166893 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 17:51:14 +0000 lemondrop 1166893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I got my boy the first time around, so I was good. I totally wanted a little brother for C, but wouldn't have minded one of each. Since #2 is a boy, we're thrilled! We are going for one more after this, and would love to cap it off with a little girl, but I would be entirely happy with all boys (for my husband's sake, I really hopes he gets his princess). </p> <p>As my husband said- just another wedding I don't have to pay for when we found out about #2 ;) I am super jealous of all of the fun girl clothes though :/</p> <p>I don't think there's anything wrong with initial disappointment, but once the baby arrives it becomes impossible to imagine having it any other way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166891 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 17:49:06 +0000 anonysquire 1166891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm scared I will a tiny bit. I mean really I don't care what it is. But everyone is saying its a boy and now I'm starting to think boy and I'm afraid if its a girl I will be sad. Even though I wanted a girl from the beginning. People are making my mind play tricks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166886 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 17:43:30 +0000 coopsmama 1166886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With our LO, I was more concerned about DH and my dad being disappointed than me! He was so convinced that C was a boy that he only referred to him as a boy, talked about all the "guy" things they'd do, etc. Additionally, my dad had two daughters so he was really invested in C being a boy and bought him boy clothes before the ultrasound and everything! Obviously, it worked out and they are thrilled to have a guy in the family. In the future I don't think anyone (myself included) will care. I :heart: being a mama to my boy and would love another son but I also think having a daughter would be a sweet experience -- and I can't walk by the baby/toddler clothing section of stores without looking at the girl clothes a bit wistfully. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166844 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 17:21:16 +0000 mrsmate 1166844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do not have a good relationship with my mom, so I never thought of myself as a mom of girls. And now it looks like we'll have 2! With DD1 we were team green so there was no time to be disappointed. With this pregnancy I mostly got over it in a day, bc I love my sister and I'm excited that DD1 will have one too. But I still have my moments when I think, gosh I'll never get my mini-DH. And then I feel ashamed bc DD2 is an IUI baby and I know I should feel lucky to be having another baby at all. Oh well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166163 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 12:57:02 +0000 shinymama 1166163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 boy mama here. With my first I didn't have a preference because it was our first, but DH wanted a boy. We were team green for our second because everybody {including DH} wanted a girl, but my oldest wanted a baby brother. I truly didn't have a preference, and suspected a boy all along because I've have always envisioned myself with all boys. The baby factory is now closed, so it turned out to be true. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166063 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 12:21:19 +0000 petunia354 1166063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKoala: This was me!! When I woke up from my C-section and DH told me we had a boy, I didn't have a single disappointing thought. I really think having a sweet baby to snuggle is all that will really matter in that moment. Can't wait to find out what BabyKoala is :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166051 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 12:16:43 +0000 Pirouette 1166051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm already scared of this, and we don't have our little girl yet! I really only want 2, and we both really wanted at least one boy. Now that we know i'm having a girl, we are both SO excited, but both of us were kinda leaning boy, and i know we'll be really nervous next time around (DH is ok with having 3, but he doesn't have to carry them!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166044 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 12:12:48 +0000 LovelyPlum 1166044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKoala: bingo! Can't be disappointed (or *as* disappointed) when there's a squishy baby face looking back at you :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1166032 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 12:07:14 +0000 banana 1166032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We really didn't care if LO#1 was a boy or girl. We truly just wanted a healthy baby. When we found out he was a HE, we were both thrilled (we would've been either way). With LO#2, I sorta wanted a girl but I wouldn't have minded having another boy. My DH actually wanted another boy but he was very very happy when he found it was a girl. So basically, no.... we didn't experience gender disappointment because we didn't put any expectations on it. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1165959 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 11:39:11 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1165959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't disappointed, but I was surprised. I had a feeling I was having a boy and was so shocked when I was told girl. </p> <p>We would both be thrilled to have another baby, regardless of the gender. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1165958 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 11:38:48 +0000 Running Elley 1165958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was really nervous about this with #2 but I was scared that I'd be disappointed no matter which way it came out! I REALLY wanted to have a daughter someday. I can just picture myself as a mom to a girl. But I LOVE having a boy and I wanted him to have a brother who he could be close with so badly. So I was really torn. I was/am super excited that #2 is a girl and I know that I'll have a little girl but, at the same time, I'm more worried about E adjusting to a little sister (partly how everyone is going to be ALL over her) than I would be if I was having a boy. What makes it easier I think is that we're planning on having more children so there will be more chances for me to have another boy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment/page/2#post-1165949 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 11:35:37 +0000 Dandelion 1165949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so scared of gender disappointment. And, it's a stupid reason...I just want to be able to use all of S's clothes and things I had bought for her. I had all these plans for a girl and they were crushed. I know I will love a boy as much as a girl, but I do worry once I know the truth about what this baby is, I will be disappointed...even though I've been talking myself up about having a boy.</p> <p>I will love whomever his baby is, but I do worry there will be a let down about it, if it is a boy. I also worry about what others will say along the same lines. (others=my mom and MIL) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment#post-1165941 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 11:30:41 +0000 MCD919 1165941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As much as this baby was wanted, I did have gender disappointment for a few weeks because I've always wanted a daughter. I am in love with this little guy already, and he won't even be here til January! But, I think I will feel the pressure for LO #2 to be a girl, because I don't know if 3 is in the cards for us :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment#post-1165931 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 11:23:40 +0000 lovehoneybee 1165931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We really, really wanted a girl. Like...DH would jump on me in a heartbeat if I could guarantee that a second child would be a girl. I was convinced E was a girl, and part of the reason I agreed to be team green was that I figured it he was a boy than I'd immediately be faced with "BUT HERE'S YOUR BABY!" (and that's how it happened...I didn't have time/care to be disappointed. I thought about it for all of 2 seconds.)</p> <p>I will add that both of my SsIL have 2 boys and they LOVE it. They both say they feel like queens of the castle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment#post-1165925 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 11:21:33 +0000 looch 1165925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted a boy deep down, but I would have been overjoyed if we had a girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment#post-1165924 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 11:21:26 +0000 runsyellowlites 1165924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, which is why we were team green. Just about everything I've found on gender disappointment occurring was in cases where the sex was found out mid pregnancy with most cases dissipating upon the baby's birth. Occasionally the disappointment stayed around after the birth but almost all went away pretty immediately.</p> <p>I don't want any unnecessary disappointed feelings so we just wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment#post-1165913 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 11:18:26 +0000 Mrsbells 1165913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no I don't care about the gender at all, we already have one girl and I would be thrilled either way no matter if number two is a girl or boy. I just really really want a smooth pregnancy, delivery and healthy baby </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment#post-1165896 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 11:14:55 +0000 littlek 1165896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: hahahhaha.. DH from a money aspect probably hopes for another little boy. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment#post-1165865 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 11:06:43 +0000 ShootingStar 1165865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a little worried about when we get to #2. I really really wanted a girl and when I found out we were having a boy I cried :(. I love him and I'm thrilled to have him, but someday I'd like to be mom to a girl too. I'm also not sure I can handle two boys. I'm not an outdoorsy, sportsy, guy things kind of girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment#post-1165856 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 11:02:23 +0000 Boheme 1165856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I absolutely adore my sweet boy... I'm not sure how DH and I would feel if #2 is a girl. The thought of raising a pre-teen girl someday absolutely strikes fear into my heart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment#post-1165854 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 11:01:07 +0000 googly-eyes 1165854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kind of want another girl whenever we have #2 (and last.) But I can see lots of good points about having a boy so I don't think I'll have gender disappointment next time...I want to be team green. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment#post-1165788 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 10:41:52 +0000 sorrycharlie 1165788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We aren't even talking about ttc, but I worry about this. I have no idea what to do with a boy..no experience with them. I secretly would love another girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment#post-1165778 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 10:39:59 +0000 nana87 1165778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I'll be disappointed either way with this first lo--I just want to know already! With the second I might be, because we only want 2 and we want one of each... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-of-gender-disappointment#post-1165651 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 10:11:00 +0000 Smurfette 1165651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: I can't even imagine the cuteness in outfits if you have a girl! </p>