https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 18:19:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-26170 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 14:31:48 +0000 Rescuemom10 26170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dealing with this right now with my 8 yr old SD. Last year there was a boy she was having an issue with. Just found out the same boy is back at it again this year. Just glad she did come to us and talk to us about it so we can work through it together and with her school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-26162 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 14:25:55 +0000 heffalump 26162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry. I wasn't bullied but my hubby and I were both band geeks. Chances are my lo will have our geek genes<br /> Hopefully we can teach her to own her uniqueness though, as my mom taught me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-26159 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 14:20:07 +0000 themcmom 26159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm worried about it, but I was never bullied; I hide in the shadows during school. My husband was bullied really badly, so Im' hoping for his help with this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25951 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 09:44:22 +0000 Adira 25951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @Miss Adia as well. I was teased a lot in school (never physically bullied though), and it only made me a stronger person. Having good parental support is definitely helpful, so make sure your LO knows they can come to you with issues. I think it also helped to know that my mom went through similar issues when she was in school and she's such a strong, confident person now. So hopefully my kids will be able to know the same - that teasing in school doesn't really matter and that it's the person doing the teasing/bullying that's the smaller person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25938 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 09:08:03 +0000 Mrs. D 25938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know that there WILL be bullies, just like there are in real life. DH and I just have to teach her how to protect herself from them without Becoming a bully herself, and encourage her to protect those who can't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25937 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 09:06:20 +0000 Mrsbells 25937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @Miss Adia.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25933 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 09:04:27 +0000 mediagirl 25933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yessss. I am so worried that they will run into the same thing I did. I found out recently that my husband was the bully-beater. HA! When he would see someone picking on someone younger or smaller than them - or just picking in general - he would tell them to pick on someone their own size. If they didn't, they seriously set up a time to fight. OMG. I could not believe it! I have never seen my husband as a fighter so to hear this was crazy - but I have to say, it was pretty neat to hear the reason behind it. I hope our children will get a mix of both of us - his stand-up attitude and my fear of fighting. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25866 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 00:24:04 +0000 mrbee 25866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got beat up once when I was a kid. I went straight to the gym and over the next few years, I put on sixty pounds of muscle at the weight room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25861 Fri, 02 Dec 2011 00:20:41 +0000 cupcakemama 25861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work in schools too. The main thing with bullies is that they are usually insecure cowards. You have to stand up to them or they will hound you. I intend to teach LO to stick up for himself - not react to the bully, tell them to go away. If the bully keeps at it then tell the teachers and Mom and Dad. A bully can spot an easy target from a mile away so make sure that's not your kid! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25780 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 22:25:31 +0000 chopsuey 25780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Neither one of us were bullied when we were younger. My hubs and I are a little crazy and think our LO's gonna be super popular. HAHA. Will definitely address bullying when our kids enter school though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25628 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 19:01:05 +0000 ecogirl 25628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry too! With everything you see on the news these days about kids committing suicide from bullying and the like I am scared of it. I will teach them to stand up for themselves but would probably want to pull them out of the situation too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25610 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 18:47:51 +0000 banana 25610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tana_bk: I know what you mean. How do you handle it as a parent? I'd like to think that my child can handle it but I think a lot of kids kind of just shut down and avoid talking about it out of embarassment or fear of getting the bullies in trouble (and in turn making the bullying worse). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25606 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 18:42:09 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 25606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do worry about it some, especially when I see news articles about teen suicide as a result of bullying. I mostly worry about how to handle it as a parent. Do you confront the bully's parents? Talk to the school? Let you child handle it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25605 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 18:41:06 +0000 Rosie Girl 25605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry about my kids getting bullied/picked on. Especially since you hear so much about in now a days, and how mean kids can really be! </p> <p>I think it scares me the most because I don't even want my children to be sad or hurt. I want to protect them forever, and I know that I can't when they are at school or off on their own. </p> <p>Hopefully by talking to my kids and teaching them right and wrong, they won't take bullying. They will know how much they are loved and cared for at home and by so many other people, that bullies won't effect their self-esteem. I would hope they would talk to me too if somebody was being hurtful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25603 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 18:40:08 +0000 Rubies 25603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry about bullying because I see it all the time (I'm a teacher) - parents have to teach their children what bullying it, what a bully does, and what to do if they are being bullied. In Ontario, there is talk of making anti-bullying laws amidst a slew of bullying incidents in schools. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25593 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 18:12:31 +0000 banana 25593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ miss adia: I love your attitude towards bullying. I hope my son is as strong as you daughter and is able to "brush" it off easily. </p> <p>I've seen so many kids get bullied when I was growing up (especially the overweight kids) and they would cry, sit in the corner by themselves, play alone, eat lunch by themselves...that it makes me so sad to think that that could be my son one day. I guess I'm just overly sensitive. All your comments are making me feel better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25590 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 18:06:37 +0000 Miss Adia 25590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not worried about it because I'm raising my daughter to deal with the fact that not everyone will like her and that there are mean spirited people out there. I'm raising her to know that bullies feed off of reactions and if she brushes it off, then they aren't getting fed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25589 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 18:04:40 +0000 Mrs.KMM 25589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: I think having an open dialogue is important. When things started getting bad for my brother, he was completely comfortable coming to my parents and telling them how he felt.</p> <p>They were also proactive about getting him into therapy and finding a therapist he was comfortable with. They also were not afraid of the benefits of medication and were very proactive in getting his dosages right. He still has confidence and moved 1/2 way across the country at age 18 to pursue his passion and is currently completely medication free. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25583 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 17:55:28 +0000 banana 25583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.KMM: Oh wow, I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. That's totally what I'm afraid of. That my kids won't deal with the bullying as well as others ( like you did ). I'll have to figure out how I'm going to deal with it when the time comes. Might need to read some books. Or maybe start a new post when the time comes. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25579 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 17:52:29 +0000 Mrs.KMM 25579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not worried about it but I do know that, unfortunately, it will probably happen. (Which sucks, but what do you do?) I just plan to help my children through the (awful) experience when/if it happens.</p> <p>I was severely bullied in school and suffered no permanent damage from the experience. Yes - I hated it at the time but I was confident enough to know what they would say was wrong. If anything, it made me grow a thicker skin and not be sensitive to stuff. I can just let things roll off my back.</p> <p>My brother was also severely teased and his reaction was the complete opposite. He went into a severe depression (requiring hospitalization at one point). He's completely better now but for a time, it was really bad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25578 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 17:48:34 +0000 HabesBabe 25578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a totally understandable fear (and relate-able! since we were all probably on one end or the other when it came to bullying) and since you're aware of it, you might be able to approach your children about it in a productive way. I don't think I'd consider homeschooling my kids just for the sake of keeping them away from bullies, but I can see how it's such an issue now, especially with all of these stories about kids who have taken their lives due to excessive bullying.</p> <p>I think as long as you are having an open dialogue with your kids about it, you don't have to worry about it becoming a huge issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-afraid-that-your-child-will-deal-with-bullies-in-school#post-25573 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 17:43:31 +0000 banana 25573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both my husband and I had experiences with mean bullies at school. And I know for a fact that it's permanently scarred both of us in some way (maybe self esteem?). The school age years are so influential to building self esteem and confidence and unfortunately bullying/teasing breaks down any confidence that you've built up.</p> <p>There are times when I get so worried about my children experiencing bullying/teasing that I actually consider homeschooling them. LOL. I know that social interaction is important but I don't want my kids to grow up with damaged self-esteems.</p> <p>Anyone else worried about this or am I just an overly paranoid parent? </p>