https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 14:41:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2667454 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 13:22:34 +0000 birdofafeather 2667454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2667440 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 13:05:26 +0000 LulaBee 2667440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, we are politically compatible (I would say even more so now than when we met, as he used to claim to be fiscally conservative and now leans very far left on everything). </p> <p>I could not be married to someone that did not agree with me, as I also feel like my political beliefs are a fundamental part of who I am. I for sure would not raise children with someone who didn't share the same beliefs as me. My morals are too important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2667328 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 11:20:18 +0000 Mrs D 2667328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some what.</p> <p>I am very fiscally conservative but rather socially liberal.</p> <p>DH is also socially liberal. His knowledge of the fiscal side of things has grown drastically over the last 5 years and he leans conservative.</p> <p>That said, we do disagree on things for sure and have nice healthy discussions about those disagreements. We handle our differences well - and I actually think it makes us both better that we have different opinions and can challenge each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2667315 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 11:08:28 +0000 Cherrybee 2667315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. Our views are not always the same - we are both left leaning liberals and usually vote Labour (I guess like your Democrat party), but he's a centrist (I guess like Hilary Clinton) and I'm harder left (more like a Bernice Sanders). Frequently our disagreements are not about ideologies but about what is realistic in the real world. </p> <p>I agree with people who say they would struggle to be in a relationship with someone who's political ideologies are very different. I'm bisexual and I remember a friend of mine grilling me, saying "how can it not matter? How can gender not matter to you?" and my response was that gender it isn't as fundamental to who a person truly is as as their political persuasion is; her husband was often vocal about his belief that we shouldn't help people who he deems "don't help themsrlves", every man for himself etc, where she believes passionately we should- how can you have a meaningful relationship with someone who's ideals clash so fundamentally with yours? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2667294 Mon, 19 Dec 2016 10:47:32 +0000 RainbowMom 2667294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are not. It has created some tension, especially around election time. But I think it's good for us, it helps us see the 'other side' not as the enemy but as people who care and want to help people, just with different ideas about how do do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666753 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 19:31:06 +0000 MrsADS 2666753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining agree. it's more than a simple Dem/Repub thing; it's important core beliefs about the dignity of people and values I hold and I think if we disagreed, it would have been hard for us to end up together. </p> <p>I think it used to be easier to have similar values and vote for different political parties. The last year or two, I think that is less and less the case. 20 years ago, I could have maybe dated a Republican. Not now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666735 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 18:23:42 +0000 Greentea 2666735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For sure. I would argue a lot if he didn't agree :) Or at least have heated debates. My values are important, so I'd be open minded, but my core beliefs are important to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666722 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 17:56:04 +0000 nana87 2666722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm also someone who could not have had a serious relationship with someone who wasn't politically compatible to me, because my core values are tied into my political beliefs (and I work in policy, so also my professionalinterests are tied to politics). I don't even think I could have even made it work with someone who was politically apathetic because the issues are too important to me. I think there are a lot of issues that are also important that don't fit neatly into a Dem/Rep split, and if those issues are what's most important to someone I can see it working, but for me, what's most important (social safety net programs and minority/women's/immigrant rights/equality) is firmly in the Democrats' wheelhouse.</p> <p>Mil actually told a story at our rehearsal dinner about how the first time dh told her about me, she was afraid to pry too much or ask much about me, so she asked dh if I had voted for Bush (we met in 2006). Dh was like "heck no! I'd never!" (he had worked on the Kerry campaign) and mil knew then it'd be a good match, lol....So yeah, dh feels the same way as I do, and it's good we found each other! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666693 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 16:35:08 +0000 Mama Bird 2666693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mostly. Neither of us fit comfortably in either party box, but we think similarly on many issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666681 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 16:27:12 +0000 Boogs 2666681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely. I think it would be hard if we hugely differed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666628 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 15:15:20 +0000 lamariniere 2666628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: same for us. With regard to US politics, we're on the same page. </p> <p>@travellingbee: @yoursilverlining: @meredithNYC: same for me. I couldn't be in a relationship with someone ideologically opposed to my core beliefs. Same for religion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666596 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 14:25:00 +0000 cat620 2666596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, he's a Republican and I'm a Democrat. We always vote opposite of each other, and things can get heated around election time </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666511 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 12:10:37 +0000 meredithNYC 2666511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: same here.</p> <p>My being a Democrat is very central to my identity, so I'm not sure that I could make it work with a Conservative who felt similarly about their political identity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666496 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 11:36:29 +0000 MrsKoala 2666496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Compatible for sure but we are not the same. My views skew much further left than his do. He's a moderate bordering on conservative in terms of economics. We are both progressive on social issues. For the years that we have been together, we have voted the same, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666491 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 11:27:59 +0000 Meowkers 2666491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes very much so. He's a little more fiscally conservative than I am but for the most part we are on the same page on everything. It's definitely something that is important to me in a partner so I'm glad we're on the same page. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666490 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 11:27:47 +0000 yoursilverlining 2666490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: Same for us. Love the way you put it and true for me as well: My political beliefs are fairly fundamental to who I am as a person. </p> <p>Yes; we agree politically. I always got politics right out on the table early in dating anyone because it’s a deal breaker for me. While I theoretically could date/marry someone more economically conservative than I am, issues like being pro-choice (and increasing funding for sex-ed programs, and planned parenthood/health centers), increasing public school funding and support and expanding access to universal healthcare are morality issues for me and frankly, I don’t want to spend my life knowing in the back of my mind that my partner is voting to undermine things I hold most important. Even if they say they agree personally, if that isn’t how they vote then IMO they don’t really agree. “Politics” isn’t some separate thing – it’s intertwined in everything and impacts everyone. </p> <p>I don’t think it’s different really from people who seek out to marry those of their same religion (or people who at least are religious over non-religious) or any other criteria that people deem important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666478 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 11:09:00 +0000 travellingbee 2666478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are very very much in sync politically and I don't think either of us would have been able to make a relationship work if there were significant differences there. My political beliefs are fairly fundamental to who I am as a person. I have lots of friends who differ, but don't think I could handle a spouse who felt so philosophically different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666452 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 10:42:31 +0000 MaryM 2666452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Compatible," I'd say yes. </p> <p>I'm not sure we always agree on politics, but when it comes to issues we really care about, we see eye to eye. </p> <p>No one, not even him, knows which party I identify with. I work with the media and live in DC and like to have friends. So for the most part, I don't talk about any specific party or politician. </p> <p>I'll talk issues and I sway to both sides for that, as does (I think) DH. </p> <p>I would say we're mostly compatible because he doesn't pressure me to tell him who or what I voted for, but we can talk largely about issues and concerns and not end up angry with each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666435 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 10:23:28 +0000 Anagram 2666435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We agree on most things. I think my husband is a little more conservative that I am, and in another world might vote republican. But since he's an immigrant and a non Christian, the republicans haven't 'spoken' for people like him in a long time, so we've been on the same page since we met. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666426 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 10:15:05 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2666426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We agree on pretty much everything. We each know more about certain issues we feel more passionately about but there hasn't been anything we disagree on. We definitely differ in other ways but not politically. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666409 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 09:58:05 +0000 petitenoisette 2666409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes we agree but he is maybe a little more pragmatic about politics than me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666363 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 09:31:14 +0000 LuLu Mom 2666363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, we struggle when it comes to political conversations. He's Republican (although did not vote so in this presidential election) and I'm a very strong Democrat. We know we will never agree so we do our best to not get into debates. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666352 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 09:14:56 +0000 looch 2666352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know how to answer this because we come from different countries with vastly different political systems, but I think we're both the same ideologically. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666328 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 08:35:37 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2666328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. And while we definitely didn't ignore the election or skip out on voting, politics aren't a huge deal to either one of us so it's easy to set aside the majority of our differences. Some still creep in here and there but nothing too major thus far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666318 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 08:08:31 +0000 RonjaL7 2666318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all :-)</p> <p>I'm republican on financial issues and democrat on moral issues, but I tend to vote democrat. My husband is republican through and through. </p> <p>This past election was rough for us and resulted in more fighting than I like to admit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-and-your-so-politically-compatible#post-2666300 Fri, 16 Dec 2016 03:08:51 +0000 mrbee 2666300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>More or less! I'm an Independent, while my wife leans Democrat. We've agreed on the last few elections though, phew.</p> <p>Are you and your SO politically compatible? </p>