https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 10:13:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-262977 Fri, 17 Aug 2012 18:54:12 +0000 Mrs. Mousie 262977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely. I also prefer going home than going out typically, but now that I'm pregnant (and not everyone knows) I get a little stress-y about whether or not what someone is making for dinner will be okay with my food aversions, or is that cheese pasteurized... </p> <p>I'm honestly just really enjoying the time I have with DH (he works long hours, so when he's home, I selfishly want him all to myself!) before the baby comes. I know the time of "just the two of us" is limited, so I'm taking it for all it's worth!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-262966 Fri, 17 Aug 2012 18:37:39 +0000 birdofafeather 262966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jholler25: you know what's funny? i was just thinking about how i should ask you more about what you do to fill your time when DH is gone. my DH is starting school FT 3 hours away and will be gone M-F, so I'm trying to get encouragement about how to fill my time... but I guess I would rather get out of the house and you're more of a home-body! But I'll still be picking your brain in a couple weeks! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-262960 Fri, 17 Aug 2012 18:35:59 +0000 birdofafeather 262960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hm, at 18w, i'm still pretty social, but i've always been a super social person, so i thrive on being around people. being alone actually saps me more (extrovert times 10 here!). </p> <p>That being said, I used to do a lot of housework while leaving the tv on, but I'm thick into a 10-season Friends marathon and I am happy to sit on my couch next to a pile of folded laundry and just lay myself around it. :) but hey, at least it's folded, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-262915 Fri, 17 Aug 2012 17:39:03 +0000 jaguar 262915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So other than my work and visiting my parents, I've not seen ANYONE since we got our BFP. I'm a hermit already. This does not bode well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-260817 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 12:50:11 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 260817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HeatherlovesKenny: I stopped walking around my neighborhood because my neighbors all stop me &amp; ask how baby is doing ....a 15min walk takes me 45 frikkin mins with all the stops.<br /> "I don't know you people and I feel FAT...let me walk in peace, pleeease:) "</p> <p>@Jen: shut it. You are not a bad person for needing your time and space. Think about it: you will not have time to just sit on your behind after baby is born. So be damned if someone tries to take that from you now! And her wedding is in 2013....and you're a BM not MOH so.....you shouldn't feel guilty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-260774 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 12:25:38 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 260774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm anti social all the time. (IRL) online... I'm a chatter box. I much prefer emails, SMS and chatting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-260770 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 12:24:23 +0000 HLK208 260770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was! Our neighborhood had a ladies night but it was right after we moved in so I didn't know anyone. I was just in my "fat" phase of being pregnant at 15 weeks so no one could really tell for sure. I didn't want to introduce myself saying "Hi, I'm Heather and I'm pregnant" haha. I was so drained of energy then that I really didn't feel like being outgoing either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-260739 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 12:10:45 +0000 littlebug 260739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely feel you. Hubs just RSVP'd yes to a housewarming party that I thought we were not going to. The last thing I feel like doing is going to hang out with a bunch of drunk people that I hardly know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-260695 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 11:38:29 +0000 MrsMccarthy 260695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I SO get this. I wonder if maybe it isnt the fact that we are preparing for nesting and enjoying our last gasp of solitude on some level. I dunno but i totally would rather putz around on my own for the most part than see even super close friends, let alone people who are on the periphery. Maybe you should fake pregnancy sickness? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-260416 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 08:23:31 +0000 PrincessBaby 260416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: I feel SO GUILTY, but dude - get the hint! My husband jokes that my BFF is a "Stage 5 Clinger" like they say in Wedding Crashers. I love her, and she is a very good friend, but she likes to be way more in touch than me typically. She just got engaged a couple of months ago (I am a BM for her Sept '13 wedding) and is wild about wedding planning, and I know she also wants to tell me all about the latest wedding plans....So that makes me feel super guilty. But planning a LIFE and growing that life is a lot more more work than planning a wedding, and I'm exhausted and I wish she would just "get it" and be like, "I know you're wiped out, especially during the week. Let's have dinner on the weekend when you're all rested up and catch up!" Instead, she has this mega busy social life and thinks it should be no big deal for me to want to do all this stuff with her that SHE likes to do. I think that's why I get frustrated. She doesn't really consider what's happening for ME right now, or what I might be up for or want to do. She makes plans for herself, and tries to force me to come with her to whatever it is that SHE wants to do. Then she kind of gives me flack for not wanting to do the stuff she wants to do. Like saying I have 3 months to do stuff for the baby. Why not blow my weekend doing all the stuff she wants to do that would wipe me out - go to the beach in August in FL (NO!), then go to a BBQ drunk fest at the home of people I barely know and will have to make small talk with all night while they booze it up. Gah!</p> <p>I am a terrible friend for being resentful that someone wants to hang out so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-260301 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 01:15:21 +0000 MsMini 260301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I made the most of my pregnant social time, because I knew that having a baby would severely limit the time I had to be out and about. I was out with friends at pubs and stuff right until the weekend before Sawyer was born! I am so glad I did, because it is way harder to get out now, especially since Sawyer refuses to take a bottle! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-260299 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 01:02:55 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 260299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jholler25: you could shamelessly act bitchy until she leaves you alone... Sadly, this is what I've resorted to. My friends just leave me alone now and approach with caution. They still love me luckily but they wait for me to text now. O well </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259979 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 18:18:34 +0000 PrincessBaby 259979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You guys, I need to add talking on the phone to my list of anti-social-ness. I don't feel like talking on the phone at the end of the day either. If you need something, just text me and leave me alone. And please don't text me to make small talk. Dear God no. I'm not going to go back and forth small talk texting!</p> <p>The same BFF who wants me to go the BBQ, also wanted me to have dinner tonight, and when I texted her that I am just exhausted today and going to have to raincheck, she texted back ok. But then she called me when she got off work to chat! I guiltily let it go to voicemail.</p> <p>I had asked her in the same text if we could get together for dinner or lunch or something this weekend bc I feel bad, but she's doing all this non-pregnant stuff and just wants me to tag along to things she's already doing that are fun to her. I basically just ended up telling her that I have a lot of stuff to do for the baby and don't really want to go to the beach or big excursions. Just dinner, please, and let me go the hell home! She replied "You've got 3 more months to do baby stuff! We should play this weekend!!!" How do I make Non-Preg Socials realize that Preg Anti-Socials don't want to "play?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259893 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 16:44:32 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 259893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was, especially if everyone around me was going to be drinking... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259886 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 16:33:42 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 259886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jholler25: I'm anti-social in general I guess...or at least a home-body...I prefer just 1 friend instead of a group...and I love to just BBQ at home or go shopping....especially with DH or my mom or my sister. This pregnancy has taken it to an extreme. 1. I'm too damn tired. 2. I am obsessed with "Baby" and none of my friends have any. Sooo...yeah.<br /> When we do go out, we go somewhere to eat...not hangout per say because I don't want to dance, I can't drink and I'm too tired to go on a trip of any sort.<br /> I am kind of like my DH's dream come true...I want take-out, a hilarious movie and to ..smush:). That's a good Saturday night for me while pregnant.</p> <p>I don't blame you...at all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259842 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 15:51:39 +0000 sorrycharlie 259842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm totally antisocial during pregnancy. it doesn't help that I'm young, so my close friends are nowhere near where I am (babies) - they're out drinking and whatnot. so I just stay in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259829 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 15:39:17 +0000 Mrs.B 259829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm anti social even not pregnant. I'm sort of a loner I guess and honestly I prefer it that way. I do enjoy the company of a few people but I really have no desire to go out of my way to do things with them. I enjoy socializing every few months with DH's friends wives. Most of them are so snobish though that I can't handle them for to long. I also don't like having close friends as terrible as that sounds. I just don't have the energy to be a "good friend" right now so I just avoid those types of relationships. I speak to my sister a few times a day on the phone and that's good enough for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259823 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 15:35:47 +0000 MsLipGloss 259823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JHoller25: Totes! And this one really is a no-brainer . . . lemme see . . . hot, humid weather (bloating) + pregnancy (no alcohol) = movie marathon on the couch! Between movies, you could always take the UBV for another spin down the driveway . . . you know, to practice your parallel parking. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259791 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 15:15:26 +0000 aprk 259791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm kind of antisocial these days because I'm really low on energy. Also being new in town, I'd have to be extra peppy and friendly to meet new people, and I'm just not feeling it :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259779 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 15:11:44 +0000 wheres_c 259779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I used to have a packed social schedule and was out 4-5 times a week.<br /> Now I don't have the energy to socialize.<br /> SO has sibling bonding time scheduled for tonight, so as not to be "stuck" at home alone - I scheduled plans with the girls.<br /> Now I'm regretting I made them. We're meeting up for drinks/dinner at 6.30 and I would much rather be at home on the couch. </p> <p>I miss my girls - Haven't seen them since I made my PG announcement, but I just have no energy for socializing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259756 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 14:58:52 +0000 purrpletulips 259756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I prefer to stay at home anytime but I am finding this more while I'm pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259743 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 14:54:16 +0000 LAGS 259743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally was. It was bad. To the point where when the warm weather hit, I was miserable to go even shopping. I hated the fact that I couldn't hide my bump anymore and random people would talk to me/comment. I was a bit of a scrooge. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259718 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 14:42:23 +0000 DillonLion 259718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I might go if it meant a lot to my friend, but I'd drive myself, and leave early. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259711 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 14:40:05 +0000 MrsLMA 259711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm kind of anti-social even not pregnant, and it's no better now:) I just really like hanging out with DH and having "quiet alone" time sometimes. I'll still go out maybe once every other week for dinner with a girlfried or two, but the thought of going out to a bar sounds very unappealing. BBQs would only be a-go if it was good friends that I wanted to catch up with- no obligatory socializing for me:) We do have about 6 wedding in the next 3 months though- ughhh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259708 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 14:37:56 +0000 LuLu Mom 259708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am social when it comes to afternoon/evening get togethers, antyhing after 10 pm is not fun for me. That is when I hit my wall and just want to curl up on couch or go to bed. I also don't enjoy being around "drunk" people or situations where everyone else is drinking but me; so bars, ect. are out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259699 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 14:31:18 +0000 tororojo 259699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YES, I'm horribly antisocial and it's no fun at all! I'm hoping I will feel better soon and be able to spend time with people again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259695 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 14:29:58 +0000 PrincessBaby 259695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: i just went down the driveway with it to see how it did on cement:). It was lovely!!! The neighbors know I'm still pg so I kind of worried how batshit I'd look pushing it down the street! It would probably invite questions and small talk/conversation, which would then force me to be sociable, and so I just turned that puppy around at the end of the driveway- lol</p> <p>@autumnlove: Maybe I'm super anti social bc of my job? I'm in sales and I schmooze and talk and go all week. On the weekends I cannot be bothered to go out of my way!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259676 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 14:22:50 +0000 autumnlove 259676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was very social during my pregnancy! I met up with friends a few times a week! I am antisocial now! :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259675 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 14:22:43 +0000 hilsy85 259675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely am more likely to want to stay home rather than go out to anything more intense than a dinner out. Being the pregnant woman in a bar/around people who are drinking just isn't fun anymore, lol. I don't blame you for wanting to relax by a pool--if I had one, I'd be doing that all the time! PS, have you taken your Vista out for a spin yet or have you resisted? DH won't let me take ours out anywhere except our apt building hallway, lol. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-anti-social-while-pregnant#post-259667 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 14:20:35 +0000 PrincessBaby 259667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My BFF wants me to go to a BBQ on Sat and I feel bad, but I don't want to go. Socializing with people I don't know very well is not something fun to me when my weekend time is so precious. She usually has to work on Sat, and is off this Sat, so she is excited and wants me to go with her and her FI. The people are good friends of their's, but I've only met them a few times. I'd rather relax by my pool or basically do anything other than attend a booze fest and have to do the manual labor of socializing with people. DH is gone for work offshore until Aug 28, but I do a great job of filling my alone time with things that do not involve socializing with groups:)</p> <p>Are you an anti-social preg? </p>