https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 14:22:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2706276 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 10:30:03 +0000 bushelandapeck 2706276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have two and are on the fence about a third. Well, I guess I'm on the fence as DH is pretty clear he wants another (he's 1 of 3). I'm 36 and our kiddos are 4.5 and almost 2.5 so the clock is ticking for us to decide. I feel like I could go either way so we shall see! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2706271 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 10:25:48 +0000 SweetiePie 2706271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have one and I feel pretty done (failed IVF rounds for #2 contributed to that). My husband definitely wants another though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2706218 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 09:07:54 +0000 bubblegum 2706218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm loving everyone's posts. It really gives great perspective on what everyone deems as the perfect family, the heartbreak some moms went through and continue to go through to get their family, and in all just how you feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2706130 Sun, 05 Mar 2017 18:26:56 +0000 winniebee 2706130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This will be my last pregnancy, even if god forbid it doesn't end well again. </p> <p>We always wanted 2 for sure, maybe 3. When DS2 was 9m I got pregnant when we were trying to avoid. Lost the pregnancy (as well as four more pregnancies after that, including a late term loss). After that I said I was done. But ultimately we didn't want our story to end with such heartbreak. So, I'm now 23 weeks pregnant with another boy. I'm almost 37 and my body has nothing left to give after this! I'm so looking forward to bringing this baby home with us, but also looking forward to moving past the baby days and all of the adventures that lie ahead! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2706048 Sun, 05 Mar 2017 02:36:35 +0000 mamainthesun 2706048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've always said we wanted three! We both each have three siblings and like the dynamic of a bigger family !<br /> I'm pregnant with ds2 now. So I think we will probably have another one in a few years but I still want to see how well we handle two kids first! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2706001 Sat, 04 Mar 2017 18:28:13 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2706001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This topic honestly stresses me out. I always thought I wanted 3. I was a family with 3 kids and so was my husbands. I like the dynamic of 3 kids. Then we struggled with infertility with my 1st and did IVF and had a little girl. Honestly her alone made me feel complete if we never had another but I didn't want her to be an only child. We miraculously got pregnant naturally with #2. We aren't sure what we are having yet. I want to be done after this. But I always wanted a sister growing up so I would love 2 girls and be done. But I feel like my husband who always wanted 3-4 kids would be more likely to be done if we had a boy this time. He would love another girl but I think he would push for a 3rd if that was the case.</p> <p>Reasons I changed my mind on how many.</p> <p>1. Money- I can thankfully work very part time now and not need daycare but everything else is so expensive. Sports, activities, college, not to mention all my husbands families live across the country as do our best friends and plane tickets are expensive.</p> <p>2. Energy- I am already tired. All the time. 2 kids seems so much more manageable. Errands, play dates, vacations. When I see people out with 3 kids it just looks like too much for me.</p> <p>3. Age- I am going to be 33. If we started younger maybe 3 would have been easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705999 Sat, 04 Mar 2017 17:51:43 +0000 macintosh 2705999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope not. After DS was born I though I'd be ok with one and done, but I had kind of a tough pregnancy with lots of nausea. As time goes by and DS gets older, I can't help but miss my little baby and I want to give him a sibling. I also think about how much more confident I feel now as a mom, I know I can handle it.</p> <p>Of course money is a factor, so nothing can happen until DS is close to kindergarten age so we won't have 2 in daycare. Luckily we have 4 frozen embryos, so age isn't as much of a factor. I'll be 38 when DS is 5, so I better stay in shape so I have enough energy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705998 Sat, 04 Mar 2017 17:15:21 +0000 periwinklebee 2705998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskansas: I'll also confess to having the twins fantasy pop into my mind from time to time, just because it seems the most likely way now to have the family I would have ideally liked, given that I'm old and it's been taking us awhile. Of course, it's not likely and I will very happily take one :goodluck: :goodluck: to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705995 Sat, 04 Mar 2017 17:03:25 +0000 youboots 2705995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not done. Sometimes I look for my other kid that does not exist yet. Like I have this sense they are there, and am sad when I realize this child does not exist. </p> <p>That said we are such a good place with DD and are hoping for a 4-5 year age gap if it did not work out to have another it would be fine. Three is not out of the question but obviously be way down the road. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705994 Sat, 04 Mar 2017 16:48:11 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2705994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: I love that: "having DS made us parents". :heart: For us, our DD has felt like enough blessing as we could expect and absolutely that she has made us a family. We are older (over 40), so are pragmatic about knowing she is likely it, though we'd hoped for 2. More recently I've been leaning towards feeling more done, with occasional longing for a 2nd. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705987 Sat, 04 Mar 2017 16:18:38 +0000 sunnyday 2705987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was totally sure I would never know what done felt like and was absolutely judgey of those that said it because I was sure the "feeling" didn't exist.</p> <p>We had a rough plan for four. On our second date joked we'd have six, after our second kid was six weeks we screamed never again, but four days after our third was born we had a conversation (I sobbed happily, lol) and what I had been feeling since she was born....was done.</p> <p>Done done done and it's so cool. She's a great baby, maybe because she actually is or we've gotten the hang of this a little (or because our second was so terrible our expectations were very low!!). </p> <p>To back up the done feeling, I have zero clue how I would handle another pregnancy physically. Third was tough, lots of new levels of pain and discomfort and not because "I'm chasing around other kids" like everyone says. Delivery scared me. This one came so fast I went into shock. I received three needles into my thighs, and shook for an hour, it was horrific, it reminds me that what if something happened to me or if another baby wasn't healthy that there are already three on the ground that do depend on me and are healthy and I don't want to tempt that fate.</p> <p>Lastly, we know no one that has both parents WOH with four and one not working is not an option. Decided that while we could probably "make it work", for all the reasons above....we won't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705986 Sat, 04 Mar 2017 16:07:58 +0000 JMOM 2705986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're done after 2. After 7 years infertility and 2 miscarriages and some surgeries that would make pregnancy extremely uncomfortable, I have no desire to be pregnant again. Plus I'm over 40 and am not comfortable with the birth defect risk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705972 Sat, 04 Mar 2017 14:46:30 +0000 Miss Ariel 2705972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mfa_lady: that would be my ideal spacing too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705971 Sat, 04 Mar 2017 14:46:00 +0000 Miss Ariel 2705971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to think the perfect number would be 2 girls and 2 boys that way everyone would have a brother and a sister. But dh and I had compromised on a potential 3.</p> <p>Now that Ds is here, dh is sure he's done, but I don't know. I will say life is exhausting now and it's hard to imagine doing it again, but I love the idea of a big family. If we have another I wouldn't want it for another 2 years or so which means I have time to decide/change dh's mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705948 Sat, 04 Mar 2017 12:39:51 +0000 AB810 2705948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm physically done. We have two and DH got a vasectomy after the second was born because I just don't want to ever be pregnant again. However, we're totally open to adoption in the future if/when we decide we want a third. I would actually love to adopt two if finances allowed for it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705883 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 23:56:35 +0000 LindsayLou 2705883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We will most likely be done after the baby I'm pregnant with is born this fall. My husband has an 11 year old son, and we have an 18 month old daughter, plus the new baby on the way. I'm one of 3, always hoped to have 3 and would love to have one more after this one. But realistically, we will most likely be done after this one. We've had 4 losses trying to have our daughter and this baby, and I'm not sure how much more we could handle. Financially it would be a stretch. We'd also need a bigger house, we're pushing it with our 1000 sqft house as it is. My husband feels like he's going to be completely done after this baby is born. I don't think I'll feel that way, but I really hope I'm wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705882 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 23:36:48 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2705882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We want more but don't know if we will have another because of money. Our two are super sweet together so I'm glad I had a second, but I could see it going either way now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705881 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 23:25:33 +0000 birdofafeather 2705881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>not done. we'll have 1 more! (we have two girls now) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705879 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 23:15:25 +0000 wrkbrk 2705879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Done. Someone on here said something I really liked a few weeks ago which I'll repeat: having DS made us parents, which is what we wanted. Now we have a family and feel done. I am sentimental about never having a newborn again and about DS growing up so fast, but as far as whether I truly want additional children .... no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705855 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 21:47:33 +0000 Mae 2705855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pregnant with #2 and I am SUPER DUPER DONE. As soon as this kid is born healthy we're scheduling the big snip. Also if I end up with a RCS I might get my tubes tied. In addition. So done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705851 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 21:26:18 +0000 MissKriss19 2705851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always wanted 2, *maybe* 3. After we had our 2 boys my husband could have been done but I kept thinking we were meant to have another. Now we are expecting a baby girl in the spring and this will for sure be our last :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705832 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 20:47:32 +0000 bloved 2705832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty sure yes. We have two. I always thought I wanted 3 but between my age, infertility and utter exhaustion, I am feeling pretty done (and my husband definitely is feeling finished too). I think I will always want a third, but the desire to stay sane wins out a little more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705825 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 20:35:22 +0000 FaithFertility 2705825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>70-30<br /> 70% more<br /> 30% done<br /> Hahaha I go back and forth </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705754 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 16:44:23 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2705754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. DH had a vasectomy a few months ago after our second was born. We both thought we wanted more (4+) but the transition from 1 to 2 was so difficult for us, that we decided 2 was good. I would still like to adopt another child or two from foster care, but not until our children are in elementary school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705752 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 16:34:45 +0000 jhd 2705752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope not! We are TTC #2. I can't imagine us with more than 2 though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1/page/2#post-2705751 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 16:32:43 +0000 kitty 2705751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am pregnant with number 2 and we always planned for 2, which I'm feeling comfortable with. I have thought a 3rd might be ok if we had tons of money, but imagining my 2 little boys feels pretty perfect 😊 I love my job too so I'm looking forward to when my children are a bit older and I can go back to full time and seek leadership positions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1#post-2705743 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 16:20:39 +0000 arosebyany 2705743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok I'll be the first to say I am one and done! I had PPD and a horrible newborn. 14 months later and I still cringe when I see a newborn lol. Sometimes I wonder if I let DH influence my want for a child. He wanted two and I thought I did too, but now after having DS I've decided I could have been happy with zero children HA! Seriously though I miss sleep and just being alone in general. I also agreed with DH that I would stay home with DS because we didn't want to put him in daycare, so I'm just counting down the years till he's in school and I can go back to work. All this to say DS is definitly all I need. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1#post-2705653 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 14:21:34 +0000 erinbaderin 2705653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. We spent five years trying to have our first. I wasn't prepared to do more fertility treatments so I was basically at peace with only having one when I got pregnant with W. A few months after he was born we decided that we were done at 2 and my husband had a vasectomy. W is almost 1 and I'm feeling a little bit like I want another but really that's just me being sentimental about my baby growing up - even if we could afford daycare for a third I'm not interested in buying a minivan or a bigger house or doing the sleepless nights newborn thing, plus I'm really looking forward to the boys being easier to travel with, able to play together, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1#post-2705636 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 14:15:01 +0000 snowjewelz 2705636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>95%? Haha! We're very happy with two girls, and with our schedules, finances, space, etc we're done. I just leave out 5% for the surprises in life... We're not going to take permanent measures, but I think we will actively prevent. Also, not to say that fostering/adoption is never in our future as I am very open to that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-done-1#post-2705612 Fri, 03 Mar 2017 14:03:51 +0000 catgirl 2705612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope not. We have one DD who is 2. I would really like another but DH isn't sure. We don't live near family, he works a lot of hours with a bizarre schedule, and he's worried about the financial side of things. </p> <p>Today he did admit he wants a second but he's not sure that want trumps his concerns. We are hoping to move closer to our families in the next year or so which I'm hoping will help. We have also always been interested in a larger age gap so who knows what a few years will bring. </p>