https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 04:48:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-244547 Thu, 02 Aug 2012 10:08:29 +0000 kml636 244547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>omg. I hope he gets better soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-244490 Thu, 02 Aug 2012 09:28:53 +0000 Mrs. Pen 244490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><b>UPDATE</b></p> <p>Last night I think DS was sick and in a lot of pain from teething. He cried straight for over an hour and he's NEVER done that before. Normally he's stopped crying either right when I pick him up, or when I nurse him. Nothing soothed him, he wouldn't nurse, swing, be in the ring sling, I tried our bed, his bed etc. It was sooo heart-breaking I was bawling too - which honestly just made it worse. He finally conked out in my arms after 1.5 hours. It was terrible. I just let him sleep in my arms, an hour later I was exhausted so I took him to bed with me until DH got home at 10:45. From then on he was ok, woke to eat at midnight, and again at 4. But it was the hardest night of my life. Pretty sure there will be no sleep-training anytime soon. That was so brutal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243603 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 13:48:41 +0000 Mrs. Pen 243603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: hmm that's interesting... I might try that... the only issue is he is never consistent in WHEN he'll wake up from when I put him down. It could be anywhere from 15 min-1 hour. Generally the first time I put him down it's about an hour though. I could try that.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243596 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 13:44:02 +0000 brownie 243596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: That sounds absolutely perfect. You are amazing for getting there. Hmmmm that makes this all much harder to troubleshoot. </p> <p>Have you tried Wake to Sleep? Go in there before he wakes up. Give him a kiss or snuggle just enough to get out of heavy sleep so that he goes through the transition with you there but in his crib and not awake enough to want you. (wow thats a long run on sentence). If this is a habit and not a need, this would help break the habit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243569 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 13:30:59 +0000 Mrs. Pen 243569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: Yup, he takes all his naps in his crib. So I'm pretty positive he has no issues with his crib. </p> <p>And yes - he does go down within two hours of waking from his last nap.<br /> His schedule is: Awake for day at 8:30 am<br /> Nap at 10:30-1<br /> Nap 3-5</p> <p>So to bed around 7ish.</p> <p>It changes every day though- depending on when he wakes in the morning. He wakes anytime from 7:45-9:30. </p> <p>But he never has more than two hours between naps/sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243567 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 13:30:02 +0000 brownie 243567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: You will get through this. I promise. I swear as parents we seem to deal with 2 things: eating and sleeping. They are pretty much all encompassing. I feel like it is one step forward 10 steps back whenever I deal with either of those. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243562 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 13:27:47 +0000 Mrs. Pen 243562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: Well, sadly it's been going on since about 3 mos of age. He was a great sleeper from 1-3mos which was while we were co-sleeping with him. Then at 3 mos he was waking every hour to eat. That was when we decided it was time to transition him to a crib, so at 3.5 mos his sleep improved. Then right before 4 mos, he started doing this thing where he won't sleep at bedtime - even though he's EXHAUSTED. He will sleep for 15 minutes, then wake up screaming. I have a whole other post on it here: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unhealthy-sleep-problems-need-advice" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/unhealthy-sleep-problems-need-advice</a></p> <p>Lol our townhouse is so small we only have room for a loveseat- I could try to sleep there but it sure wouldn't be comfortable. The floor is a better bet :)</p> <p>I could totally nap during the day, and have sometimes - but most days I have so many other things I want/need to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243551 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 13:24:07 +0000 brownie 243551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: That sounds fantastic for naps. Does he sleep in his crib for naps or the swing? That could be one of the differences. </p> <p>7:30 may be too late to put him down. Have you tried putting him down earlier? about 2 hours after he wakes from his last nap? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243528 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 13:11:34 +0000 Clementine 243528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>the story of my life :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243526 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 13:11:14 +0000 Honeybee 243526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: Can you nap on the couch while he's in his swing at the first part of the night? Then, you wouldn't have to move it into your room for just a few hours? Are you able to nap with your DS during the day at all? Sometimes you just gotta survive for a bit until things start turning around. It will get better, though! Sleep issues are just so tough to work out at this age.</p> <p>We're dealing with some sleep issues with DS, so I can totally understand the exhaustion that comes with a baby who won't go to sleep or stay asleep. Thank goodness for husbands that help out, though! We're lucky to have our guys. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243525 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 13:11:11 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 243525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, at 5 months I think it's OK to attempt CIO. I was a nanny for over 1.5y to a family who had a child who would literally cry for 3 hours straight for no reason. His parents would just tell me...."leave him in his crib and let him cry....and see what magic happens"<br /> So, I would and after 15minutes he'd fall asleep. Even though feeding him, rocking him, soothing him, cradling him and everything didn't work.<br /> Of course when he'd wake up he would start the crying all over but by then I was re-energized and ready to start over with him. I'd say he did this from 6-9m before he SLOWLY got over it and started drifting off to this nap on his own without a fight beforehand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243523 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 13:10:47 +0000 Mrs. Pen 243523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: He is great for naps, he has about two naps that are each 1.5-2.5 hours long. Usually equals a total of 4-ish hours a day. We have NEVER had problems during the day. He is SO happy during the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243516 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 13:07:20 +0000 brownie 243516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: I can't fault you for anything. How much daytime sleep does he get? Is he nap trained? He may have too much daytime sleep and have too much energy. Or vice versa not have enough daytime sleep and think it is a nap. I would definitely work on getting your daytimes straight and get through the night before working on the night time sleep.</p> <p>Mind you, my son was not nap trained until about 11 months old. It's been a long path. We do cosleep but he is now having problems with that too. So, as soon as my 2nd job ends, I will be sleep training (the No-Cry Sleep Solution way). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243504 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 12:58:16 +0000 Mrs. Pen 243504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsdaredevil: Yeah, I just laid him down for his nap, awake. He cried for about 3-4 minutes before I went in, gave him his pacifier and walked out. But I think I actually hurt his feelings, his cry was heart-wrenching!! After a few minutes I just gave in and nursed him to sleep. But I really do think I hurt him and that just leaves me feeling sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243496 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 12:57:02 +0000 Mrs. Pen 243496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: During the first part of the night he will sleep if I put him in his swing, but he goes to bed at 7:30, so obviously I don't go to bed then. He will sleep until 10, or 11 then stay up for 1-2 hours. I could try going to sleep when he falls asleep in the swing, but then I'd have to put his swing in our room which is a hassle. And I'd still have to get up with him.</p> <p>Oh, and my DH is a SAINT. He works until 10:30 3x a week though, so most nights he's not here to help out. But when he is, he does. by the time he gets home from work, I'm usually so emotionally and physically spent that I just hand the baby off to him and tell him to take care of it. He has a great attitude about it and helps a lot, but I know it's just as hard on him. Now we're BOTH staying up past midnight and NEITHER of us are getting sleep. He helps during the night too. But I feel so bad for him that he goes to work for 12 hours on little sleep :( But I really couldn't do it without him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243326 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 11:49:02 +0000 Honeybee 243326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: Is there anything that helps him go to sleep early or keeps him asleep? I know DS will fall asleep and stay asleep for long periods of time in his bouncy seat with the vibrations turned on. If your son has anything like that, maybe try using it for a night or two, just so you can catch up on your sleep. Being exhausted makes everything harder to deal with! Also, does your DH help out? My DH and I split the night shift, which makes it so much easier, since I'm guaranteed at least 3 hours of continuous sleep a night. Those three hours are like heaven!</p> <p>I totally remember these times with DD, and I remember thinking that it was never going to end. I just wanted to reassure you that, no matter what method you choose, he will eventually sleep better. It does get better with time, even if it feels completely overwhelming right at this moment. Hugs, you're not a bad mom; you're just a tired mom who needs a break! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243288 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 11:31:59 +0000 lemondrop 243288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tempted? I've done it. </p> <p>Not CIO technically, because he surprised me and just hung out playing in his crib until he fell asleep. Shocked the heck outta me. Other times I will let him lay there and cry/fuss for a little while- but if he gives me those horrible worked up cries, I go get him. </p> <p>We have similar issues of him staying up super late. I really just play it day to day and see what he will do. If I can catch him, he naturally falls asleep around 9, but if he isn't in his pj's he will wake right back up and not go to bed until 11. </p> <p>Some nights I can just lay him down and he will drift off, other nights he just wants to be held, others I use the swing. Since it isn't a regular pattern I just go with the signs that he gives me each day. Some nights if he goes down earlier, I top him off with a bottle and a dream feed so I can get more sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243260 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 11:14:01 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 243260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: I agree. CIO is very, very hard. My mom is constantly telling me to let my LO cry it out, but at two months I don't feel comfortable letting her do it longer than 5 to 8 minutes or so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243245 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 11:08:38 +0000 Mrs. Pen 243245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsdaredevil: Yeah, a few times. But not much longer than about 5 minutes.</p> <p>For a nap once I let him cry for 5-ish minutes, then went up, soothed him without picking him up, gave him his pacifier and he went right to sleep. It was a few days ago, and I would love for it to happen again!! I will try it for his nap today.</p> <p>I'm sure he would fall asleep after 45 minutes of crying but I don't know if *I* could last that long. </p> <p>@looch: @brownie: that is probably my biggest fear holding me back - I don't want to create a negative sleep/crib association.</p> <p>Thank you SO SO SO much for all your support ladies. I needed it sooo badly. You are all so helpful and it is reassuring just to know I'm not alone!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243238 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 11:04:45 +0000 kokobee 243238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: you are not a terrible mother! you need your rest too. it doesn't hurt to CIO. we sleep trained early on and one time LO cry for 45mins until he finally slept. although i felt so bad, we both needed to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243098 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 10:01:52 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 243098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you tried putting him in his crib and walking away and just seeing what happens? I noticed when LO was fussing in our arms she was actually overtired. When I put her in her crib she would stop crying and just go to sleep. As if she was thinking "mom, put me down so I can go to sleep!"</p> <p>See what happens. You don't have to let him cry for long....he might put himself to sleep after 5 minutes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-243076 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 09:54:30 +0000 Sammyfab 243076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will chime in and say that you are not a terrible mother for wanting both you and your LO to get better sleep at night. Part of motherhood is keeping yourself sane and healthy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-242930 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 08:28:41 +0000 Mrs.B 242930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw you're not a terrible Mother. Maybe try CIO and see how you feel. If done correctly it's not a bad thing. DS has always been a terrible sleeper even at nearly 4 he goes threw spurts of waking 3-4 times a night. I really regret not doing some sort of CIO with him as an infant. Maybe he would sleep better now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-242921 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 08:23:34 +0000 Rubies 242921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are not a terrible mother. YOU NEED REST!</p> <p>We CIO, though, when we sleep-trained. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-242906 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 08:14:11 +0000 autumnlove 242906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She usually sleeps ok at night but I want to do this for naps! She can cry for over a hour!!! :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-242869 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 07:38:22 +0000 purrpletulips 242869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are not a terrible mother for considering it. We did it with DD. We limited the crying to 20min before going back in and checking on her; I think she lasted 20min one time. She quickly (within a day or two) learned to fall asleep on her own. Now at 28m we are dealing with some regression in the falling asleep on her own thing but she is getting her final 4 molars and I am expecting again so things at home are a little chaotic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-242815 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 05:35:16 +0000 Andrea 242815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did and she surprised me by going to sleep right away! So you never know what might happen.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-242801 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 02:59:44 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 242801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did CIO. At 4 months with mavi. And by day 3 he was sleeping through the night. You aren't a horrible mother. You are exhausted. There's a difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-242799 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 02:54:21 +0000 looch 242799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All.the.time! I don't do it because I don't want him to have a negative association with his crib, but there are times when he's just doing it on purpose to get me to come back into his room. That's when I send my DH in if he's home. He's business. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ever-tempted-to-throw-lo-in-crib-and-go-to-bed#post-242781 Wed, 01 Aug 2012 01:26:39 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 242781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel you, it took me three hours to get Wonder Baby asleep for the night. Oy. I'm still not willing to let her CIO though. </p>