https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Jul 2026 05:00:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-194533 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 20:32:40 +0000 sulli301 194533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't STAND it!!! I debated calling the hair salon last week while I was driving to an appointment to say I *might* be 5 minutes late, but I actually made it on time. I am VERY prompt &amp; can't stand being late. I do like being the first person to get places, but don't like waiting more than 5 minutes ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-194528 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 20:30:35 +0000 Grace 194528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I also think that it says that their time is more important than mine. I remember seeing a Dr Phil once though that explained that late people don't actually see it that way. They actually believe that they can get out of the house in 5 min, for example. It's so weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-194196 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 15:31:22 +0000 pelikila 194196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try to live by the rule of "if you arrive early, you are on time and if you arrive on time, you are late". I have a difficult time tolerating lateness (more than 10 minutes) in others without extenuating circumstances. One of my sisters in law is perpetually late to the extent that we always tell her a start time of 30 minutes before everyone else is told so we have a chance of her being "on time". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-194193 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 15:25:45 +0000 StbHisMrs 194193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hate it. I'm always running about 5 minutes late, but I always let the other person know if I'm going to be later than that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-194171 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 15:12:09 +0000 sslm 194171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is definitely a pet peeve of mine! I friggin hate it when people are late, it's so rude!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-193730 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 11:14:52 +0000 kml636 193730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i hate it too. I have a friend that habitually is late so I started telling her we were leaving earlier then we really were. RIDICULOUS!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-193697 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 10:48:48 +0000 LuLu Mom 193697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is my biggest pet peeve!!! My younger sister is never on time, I hate that when she tells me she will be at my house at 9, I know I can get in theshower at 9 and still be ready before she arrives. I think it's rude and disrespectful, like your time isn't as important as theirs. If you know you need to be somewhere at a certain time make sure you allow yourself as much time as you need to get ready to be there on time, it's not hard! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-193693 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 10:47:36 +0000 MamaMoose 193693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no patience for lateness. Unless there is something completely out of your control (a major accident that closes down the highway) there is just no excuse for it. My husband is constantly running late and it is probably the biggest issue in our marriage. I just think it's so disrespectful. When I am on time and you are late, you are basically saying you believe your time is more valuable than mine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-193679 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 10:43:31 +0000 eeh 193679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on the situation. One of my bridesmaids insisted on picking me up for my bachelorette party even though she lived 40 minutes away from me and then we had to drive 35 minutes to the city we were going to. The whole night was supposed to be a surprise but we ended up being like 45 minutes late for massages the girls had scheduled so we didn't get to have them. I felt so bad because one of my other bridesmaids who is very shy and quiet was already there and getting hounded by the salon about where we were and she didn't want to get her massage without us. I also felt terrible for the salon because that was 3 massages that got bailed on because the one girl couldn't get her act together or just let me drive myself once she realized she was running late. I was pretty ticked about that one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-193556 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 09:30:00 +0000 Modern Daisy 193556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind if someone is late because of a situation that was beyond their control but if I know they were just being lazy and not prioritizing or caring about being on time in the first place then it does upset me. I always feel so bad when I'm late, so I'm good about forgiving someone if I think they feel the same way I would have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-193533 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 09:19:33 +0000 Rubies 193533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Clementine: HAHA, I'm sort of the opposite-ish. Like, even when I was preggo and now with our baby, I STILL make a huge effort to be on time, if not early. So when OTHER people (ESPECIALLY people without kids) are late for me, I get so fuming mad. But yeah, I mean, I'm more understanding towards other moms and their LOs if they're late. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-193528 Mon, 18 Jun 2012 09:16:31 +0000 Clementine 193528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes, but only if they are pregnant or have kids bc to be honest ever since we had the little guy, it's much harder to be one time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-192844 Sun, 17 Jun 2012 08:56:31 +0000 autumnlove 192844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't stand it! I definitely hold grudges and won't make plans with tardy friends for some time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-192836 Sun, 17 Jun 2012 08:27:05 +0000 mrs. bird 192836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry, that was def rude of your friend!</p> <p>I usually can ignore up to 15 mins, depending on the situation. I'm not always the most punctual person, but I'm really trying to work on it! My ILs were 2 hours late for our wedding, I'm still getting over that one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-192835 Sun, 17 Jun 2012 08:26:21 +0000 rawrasaur 192835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can not stand it. Particularly when the person has no real reason to be. I have one friend who does this to me a lot. Luckily, most of our other friends are pretty punctual. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-192833 Sun, 17 Jun 2012 08:21:35 +0000 looch 192833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was super punctual, but now that I have a child, I can't be counted on to be anywhere at a specific time. It's always plus/minus one hour lately. But I do speak to the person in the morning to give an estimated time and always text with progress. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-192768 Sun, 17 Jun 2012 00:06:09 +0000 lovehoneybee 192768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A few minutes doesn't bother me, but if I'm going to be more than 5 minutes later I call and let whoever is waiting for me know, and I appreciate the same consideration. I would be super annoyed if someone was already half an hour late before they called (unless it was something weird, like they were stuck on a broken subway and didn't have phone service--that's definitely happened to me on my way to work before). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-192759 Sat, 16 Jun 2012 23:27:27 +0000 Grace 192759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate it. I have a friend that is constantly late. If you were picking her up, she'd often start getting ready when you got to her house! One time we were supposed to meet to go golfing, and I left after 15 min. She showed up around 30 min late and I was gone! Haha. Now she phones if she's going to be even 5 min late. Whoohoo! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-192694 Sat, 16 Jun 2012 21:27:14 +0000 matador84 192694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate it too....it is really inconsiderate. For my friends/family that are frequently late, I just agree to set a time--example, I want to meet at 6:30, so I tell them to be there at 6...that way it's not 7 by the time they get here. In the long run...I think it's saved me a lot of friendships. I love the quote-if you're early, you're on time, if you're on time you're late, and if you're late...don't even bother showing up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-192580 Sat, 16 Jun 2012 17:51:20 +0000 JessicaMcB 192580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't forgive lateness in myself (and therein am never late) so I'm certainly not going to forgive it in others. Sorry you're waiting on your friend @Rubies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-192578 Sat, 16 Jun 2012 17:45:02 +0000 mrbee 192578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, it really upset me especially if I don't know the person but they're a friend of a friend and asked me for a favor. This just happened to me last week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-192576 Sat, 16 Jun 2012 17:37:59 +0000 Andrea 192576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes I hate it, too! It is not so bad if they are late coming to my house but I can't stand when I spend an hour to go into Manhttan and then have to wait an additional 30 min for someone. I am always early or on time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-192574 Sat, 16 Jun 2012 17:35:13 +0000 chopsuey 192574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh #1 pet peeve<br /> So rude and inconsiderate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-192572 Sat, 16 Jun 2012 17:34:37 +0000 DillonLion 192572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's rude! A few minutes doesn't bother me either. I've been working really hard on improving my timelines over the last year so my patience for other's lateness has been decreasing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-forgiving-towards-people-who-are-late#post-192570 Sat, 16 Jun 2012 17:30:44 +0000 Rubies 192570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cannot STAND IT when people are late. I'm not talking a few minutes. I mean like, 30+ minutes. A friend asked me for a favour tonight and we agreed she would meet at my place for 6pm. It's now 6:30pm and she just called to tell me that she's just leaving her house, which is 30 minutes away.</p> <p>I HATE IT! </p>