https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 20:21:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2097165 Thu, 05 Mar 2015 18:26:08 +0000 Modern Daisy 2097165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With in-laws this is much easier. I care more more about how they treat DH than how they treat me. I don't really take it personal if they say/do something that bothers me. </p> <p>In general if I feel like someone truly feels bad for how they treated me then I can totally forgive. I know how it feels to make a mistake and regret an action, so I have empathy for these situations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2097150 Thu, 05 Mar 2015 18:13:04 +0000 MANGOTANGO 2097150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm the same. I always hold grudges. Had a tiff with SIL and she called me oversensitive when I thought I was trying to stand up for myself and tell her how I felt. That was 2 weeks ago, up to now I still feel upset. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2096265 Thu, 05 Mar 2015 10:22:15 +0000 .twist. 2096265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 months!? Holy shit. No way. </p> <p>I can be forgiving depending on the circumstances and the sincerity of the persons apology. </p> <p>I do like to think I can be pretty laid back but certain things I will not tolerate or forgive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2096256 Thu, 05 Mar 2015 10:14:12 +0000 Jass 2096256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: yes they stayed for 2 months. .treated it like a vacation. ...constantly commented on how tiny my baby was..I had a big fibroid but made me felt like I was one responsible for her being tiny forced me to supplement her...my supply tanked and she went on nursing strike. ..she is going to be our only baby probably. .that's why I am unable to forgive them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2095888 Wed, 04 Mar 2015 22:15:04 +0000 stiletto_mom 2095888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I never forget either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2095857 Wed, 04 Mar 2015 21:53:54 +0000 blackbird 2095857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I forgive people who are apologetic. I don't just forgive people who are assholes on the regular, though. I give benefit of the doubt once or twice, then it's "shame on me"</p> <p>For a situation like this, I'd have clear boundaries. They stay in a hotel, can't disrupt naps or bedtime. Not going to revamp our lives for them </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2095848 Wed, 04 Mar 2015 21:50:53 +0000 MrsRcCar 2095848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't forgive because it can become easy to forget. Instead I try to overcome of they are making an strides too. It is about regaining footing in a relationship for me. I don't take trust lightly, so once broken it never quite goes all back together. There will always be a crack, but perhaps together me and the other person can mend it some. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2095840 Wed, 04 Mar 2015 21:46:58 +0000 jedeve 2095840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry. That sounds really tough. They stayed for two months?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2095830 Wed, 04 Mar 2015 21:42:04 +0000 sarac 2095830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm actually really opposed to the notion of 'forgiveness' as it's glorified these days. If someone has wronged me significantly, I don't just let it go. I try to move on with my life, but the anger remains, and that's ok. I think the societal pressure to basically let people off the hook is really misguided and honestly hurtful. It puts a very unfair burden on people who have been hurt to basically just get over it. If someone close to me wronged me terribly, and they wanted to try to make amends, I'd do my best to move on. But that's it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2095695 Wed, 04 Mar 2015 20:33:25 +0000 MrsMccarthy 2095695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. Someone has to really do something despicable or prove that they just aren't a very good person for me to completely blank them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2095660 Wed, 04 Mar 2015 20:15:20 +0000 Rockies11 2095660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am generally very forgiving, but I think you can be forgiving and still recognize the need for clear boundaries and expect different treatment. I did not have a good experience with my FIL in their visit immediately postpartum, and although I forgive him, I would never allow him to visit as soon as he did after our first was born and I would be much more assertive about what I was okay with and what I wasn't! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2095585 Wed, 04 Mar 2015 19:50:30 +0000 Peasinapod 2095585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a hard time forgiving once I've crossed a certain threshold. It takes a lot to upset me, I let most things go. But once I've hit my limit it's very hard for me to go back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2095577 Wed, 04 Mar 2015 19:47:37 +0000 ShootingStar 2095577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not forgiving. I will dislike you pretty much forever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2095575 Wed, 04 Mar 2015 19:46:13 +0000 pui 2095575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm good at forgiving people who have very directly wronged me. I can easily be like "Whatever" to someone like that and not harbour any ill-will.</p> <p>I have trouble forgiving people who are two-faced... like family who wrong me but then are still my family... Those people I tend to vent to my DH about a lot instead of getting over it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-good-at-forgiving-people#post-2095573 Wed, 04 Mar 2015 19:44:38 +0000 Jass 2095573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not good at forgiving people....I have always taken things to heart...my in laws came when I have birth to dd and stayed for 2 months and were super mean to me and my baby... and I was on verge of PPD, though now when we talk on phone they are nice and are excited to meet dd after 8 months but I am not able to forgive them but at same time dont want to ruin our trip...how do you cope with such situations </p>