https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Jul 2026 19:54:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret/page/2#post-180727 Wed, 06 Jun 2012 13:21:18 +0000 chibee 180727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friends generally know that I want a baby "soon" but when we do start TTC I won't tell anyone. I don't like invasive questions at all. Although my mother in law already knows we are thining about TTC very soon, I don't mind bc she would never make me feel pressured or ask me invasive questions at all. And i think when we do get pregnant, I am going to try holding off on telling everyone until 12 weeks, but it'll be super hard! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret/page/2#post-180711 Wed, 06 Jun 2012 13:13:56 +0000 cyneswith 180711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told our parents, in case it took a while and got frustrating. I got pregnant on cycle five, and my mom got pregnant when she was on cycle six with my older brother (I was a "hey, I think I can get pregnant tonight - let's see if I'm right" in the middle of faithful birth control - so they didn't try long with me.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret/page/2#post-180688 Wed, 06 Jun 2012 12:55:54 +0000 Adira 180688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Charcole2011: haha, yes! I told ALL my girlfriends that we were going to have babies in 2012 (this was back in 2010 and 2011), and now I'm like "Oh my gosh, I hope they don't remember!!! PLEASE don't let them ask me!!!" Now I don't EVER bring it up because it's taken us longer than I thought it would and I don't want to answer the questions! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret/page/2#post-180685 Wed, 06 Jun 2012 12:52:03 +0000 Charcole2011 180685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: that is what I think I am going to be like! we aren't TTC yet, but I feel like I am pretty open with most of my girlfriends about our "expected timeline" (starting in January 2013)...but I totally want to keep it quiet once we are officially trying. Perhaps I should shut up now....lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret/page/2#post-179825 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 18:02:31 +0000 Running Elley 179825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got pregnant the first month we tried and then miscarried. We told our families and close friends about the MC so they assumed that we were trying after that. I got PG again 3 months later and again MC’d but that time only my parents and sister knew since it happened really early. I didn’t get pregnant with this baby until 8 months after starting to try so everyone was expecting it the entire time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret/page/2#post-179814 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 17:54:34 +0000 MrsH 179814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom and two friends know. It will be a secret until week 12 for everyone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret/page/2#post-179238 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 11:36:21 +0000 mrsdoily 179238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are keeping it to ourselves. The only person that knows that there might be a chance that we are pregnant this month is my best friend and my sister, and that is only because they are really good about keeping secrets (I Had to tell SOMEONE!). I know that if I told my mom she would be calling constantly to see if we got a BFP yet and that is just too much stress for me to deal with, especially if it ends up taking a while. I have had three miscarriages in the past from unplanned pregnancies, so I'm also going to try my hardest to wait until we are past 10 weeks to announce our pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-179215 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 11:26:56 +0000 Boogs 179215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We definitely keep things like this to ourselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-179214 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 11:26:50 +0000 Trailmix 179214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was always pretty open about that fact that we'd probably start trying the summer of our two-year wedding anniversary but we ended up starting a little bit earlier and I didn't tell anyone for about 2 months. It actually made the whole experience much harder and I didn't realize how much relief I felt until I finally broke down and told one of my best friends why I was so sad and since then, I've told my two other best friends and I feel a million trillion times better about everything...For me, keeping secrets is stifling and weighs me down so this worked out. I haven't told any family members because I don't talk to my parents about that stuff! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-179195 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 11:19:51 +0000 Smurfette 179195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rachel: The ones that know we are trying don't ask. It is a couple that don't know that are TTC that are asking. But for the most part my friends don't ask. Which is nice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-179190 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 11:16:36 +0000 Shutterbug 179190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I made my friend that I told promise not to ask me if I'm pregnant, ever. In exchange I promised her that I'd tell her as soon as I was. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-179159 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 10:59:16 +0000 Smurfette 179159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: it is so hard to not tell people. I have already told 3 girlfriends, DH thinks I only told one, opps! I just want to tell everyone cause I am so excited but I don't want the questions every month, are you pregnant. The hardest part is when people ask when we are going to try and I have to lie. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-179147 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 10:52:09 +0000 BSB 179147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: Haha. Yup, I'm guilty of giving away too much info and then trying to back pedal to try to change the topic so more questions aren't asked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-179134 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 10:42:48 +0000 Adira 179134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: haha, that's too funny!</p> <p>Before we started TTCing (like a year out from it), I was telling EVERYONE that we were going to start in January 2012 (everyone except family, although SOMEONE spilled the beans to his MOTHER and then I had to lie an tell her he didn't know what he was talking about).</p> <p>But now that we're actually TTC, I keep it a lower profile. Two of my best friends know and that's it. I don't want to tell other people because it's been taking us a while and I'm worried it will continue to take a while and I don't want people asking me about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-179115 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 10:25:49 +0000 Shutterbug 179115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: Haha I know the feeling. My BFF kept pushing, so I eventually caved and told her. So now she's the only person IRL that knows! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-179107 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 10:20:22 +0000 Mrs. Blue 179107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was doing much better when I originally posted on this thread. Now that we are actively TTC, I'm having SUCH a hard time being a secret keeper. A couple of my BFs have asked me if we've talked about when we're going to start...and I keep giving away too much information! I can't be trusted with my own secrets apparently. Fail. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-179101 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 10:14:08 +0000 mrs. bird 179101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH, my doctors, my two best friends and hellobee are the only ones that know what's going on. my SIL knows that we may, just because she is getting married the spring and i'm supposed to be in the wedding and i wanted her to know that there is a possibility i might be pregnant by then and that it's not that we aren't taking her wedding into consideration, it's just that if it's meant to be we aren't going to stop it, but that if it happens and she doesn't want to look for a dress that will work or it's a problem for whatever reason, just to let me know &amp; i'll step aside but still help out however i can. she was happy i gave her a heads up about the possibility. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-179087 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 09:59:39 +0000 BSB 179087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A few people know. Sister and brother know and couple close friends. Otherwise, I'm keeping my lips closed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-179074 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 09:48:52 +0000 wahine08 179074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a hot topic in our households and we are already so pressured so when we begin officially TTC I don't want to tell anyone. Perhaps my sister since she's been through it and I'll need someone to talk to (other then HB Community!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-163149 Fri, 18 May 2012 18:13:32 +0000 WALLAROO 163149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are keeping it a secret right now. The only person that knows is my doctor but even she doesn't know we are TTCing now. She just knows we are planning to sometime this year. I definitely don't want to tell my parents until there is something to tell them because of the added pressure. They are so ready to be grandparents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-145313 Wed, 02 May 2012 19:24:21 +0000 heffalump 145313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually only told one person. She was my bff and we volunteered together. I only told her because I had to get off my meds, which meant more migraines, which meant id be unreliable and miss a lot. I regret telling her because even after I did she got upset with me for having migraines and missing things. </p> <p>Next time nobody will know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-145307 Wed, 02 May 2012 19:16:25 +0000 Rubies 145307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we TTC, we didn't tell anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-145188 Wed, 02 May 2012 17:29:20 +0000 Rosie Girl 145188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We kept it a secret. We didn't want people asking everything month if we pregnant or not, and we didn't want our family to get excited each month putting more pressure on us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-145185 Wed, 02 May 2012 17:28:35 +0000 KT326 145185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since I knew we were going to need fertility treatments we were very open about when we were going to start them. I am very close with our group of friends and knew I would want their support no matter what happened. It took a year and a half of treatments and tests before I got pregnant. It was nice knowing I could talk openly about my feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-145181 Wed, 02 May 2012 17:23:12 +0000 SAllison 145181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We decided we would also keep it to ourselves. One of my best friends knows that we started trying (more or less by accident, this month LOL) but that's it. Everyone else is totally in the dark, parents included. just didn't want the questions about how it's going, if we're pregnant yet or sideways glances when I decide to skip wine with dinner. :) We will tell our parents and sisters when it happens, probably pretty quickly as we know if anything were to happen throughout a pregnancy we would want their support through that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-144918 Wed, 02 May 2012 12:59:09 +0000 heartonastring 144918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're keeping it to ourselves for the most part. I have told two close friends who I know I would turn to if I needed to during the TTC process (one of them has had two MCs and gets how tough it can be). Other than that, I've told no one, but I think my mum is on to us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-144907 Wed, 02 May 2012 12:50:22 +0000 mediagirl 144907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: He told his friends he was trying to impregnate you. Hilarious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-144905 Wed, 02 May 2012 12:49:06 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 144905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We kept it a secret for 10 months and only told our parents after we found out my husband had to have surgery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-144904 Wed, 02 May 2012 12:48:05 +0000 LuLu Mom 144904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We made the mistake of telling a few people that we were going to start trying after our trip to the Bahamas, it was like people were staring at my belly as soon as we got back. We did conceive there so it was pretty hard to keep the pregnancy a secret! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-keeping-ttc-a-secret#post-144903 Wed, 02 May 2012 12:45:37 +0000 looch 144903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told no one, not even parents. I know my MIL would have blabbed to the world and I didn't need that kind of pressure! </p>