https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 12:31:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight/page/2#post-759503 Fri, 03 May 2013 10:39:57 +0000 twinmama 759503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That probably would have sent me into full ppd. I was already so hard on myself about the baby weight at that stage bc it wasn't just coming off, so thankfully I only had people giving me positive feedback instead of vv. I would have been so hurt if dh said something like that. Regardless of whether they 'get' the whole pp weight loss thing, it's a fundamental respect for your wife thing that is unacceptable in my book. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight/page/2#post-759497 Fri, 03 May 2013 10:36:37 +0000 Boheme 759497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh hell no. </p> <p>The most DH will ever say is if I complain about my weight, size, etc is "Well if you want to go swim/walk at the rec center I'll go with you." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight/page/2#post-759485 Fri, 03 May 2013 10:30:48 +0000 regberadaisy 759485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: ohmygod. If my husband said that to me in a serious tone I would bitch slap him. Literally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight/page/2#post-759482 Fri, 03 May 2013 10:28:42 +0000 ShootingStar 759482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would cry if my husband said something like that to me. And if it was in public, I wouldn't be speaking to him. I'm overweight and very sensitive about it. But luckily DH thinks it's cute that I'm getting "rounder" in pregnancy :). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight/page/2#post-759424 Fri, 03 May 2013 10:01:36 +0000 .twist. 759424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is a fitness trainer and incredibly fit. I've always been thin but it's the skinny fat kind of thin. DH definitely notices changes in my body and has made comments about those changes, but he's never, ever done it in a derogatory or insulting way. He continues to compliment me on my pregnant body all the time even when I'm extra hard on myself. </p> <p>Most of his comments stem from my own initial comments. For example, I will pout and say "blah blah my butt is getting flat, poor me". and he will say something like "well, blank blank blank exercise will help with that". He usually always add on something like "But I think your butt is cute anyway" at the end of all comments. hahaha. </p> <p>He's never said anything in public situations though and that is so very totally rude. I'd be pretty upset if I had just had a baby and DH said something like that to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight/page/2#post-759388 Fri, 03 May 2013 09:52:35 +0000 mediagirl 759388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's not okay. my husband does not comment on my weight and v/v. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight/page/2#post-759384 Fri, 03 May 2013 09:51:55 +0000 autumnlove 759384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: he is serious. He told us about the workout routine he wants her to do....3 days of Insanity and 2 days of yoga. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight/page/2#post-759135 Fri, 03 May 2013 08:32:15 +0000 avivoca 759135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Heck no!</p> <p>My husband has been nothing but complimentary to me about my weight. I'm not fat, but I struggle with it and the fact that I'm not as thin as I used to be. DH is very supportive, always tells me I'm beautiful, etc. In return, I treat him the same. Her DH is out of line, especially by doing it in public. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight/page/2#post-759130 Fri, 03 May 2013 08:31:33 +0000 regberadaisy 759130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: is he being serious or joking?</p> <p>Depends on if I'm PMSing. :P If I am I'm uber sensitive if not I don't care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight/page/2#post-759128 Fri, 03 May 2013 08:30:40 +0000 MrsTiz 759128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man, DH would be a dead man if he ever told me to lose weight in the first place but to say it in public...that is just so disrespectful. Imagine what he says to her behind closed doors :(</p> <p>I think DH is going to feel a lot more comfortable with making comments about my body during pregnancy but he isn't stupid enough to say anything negative. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight/page/2#post-759101 Fri, 03 May 2013 08:20:00 +0000 Koolbreeze 759101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG your poor SIL! </p> <p>My SO has never said a negative word about my body/weight. He is always positive about it. If I'm complaining about my tummy fat or something he always just says I'm beautiful. I don't want him to tell me I'm fat and need to lose weight (I'd probably kick his butt if he did lol) but I also don't want him to lie and say my body is just as great as before kids....because it doesn't....yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight/page/2#post-759078 Fri, 03 May 2013 08:10:25 +0000 Alivoo01 759078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no ma'am!! So not right especially with her being so newly postpartum!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight/page/2#post-758972 Fri, 03 May 2013 06:38:57 +0000 mrbee 758972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: complimenting your SO sounds great to me!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight/page/2#post-758964 Fri, 03 May 2013 06:28:35 +0000 SugarplumsMom 758964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wth! Someone seems to smack him down! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758963 Fri, 03 May 2013 06:27:39 +0000 mrs. bird 758963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>never! i'm so sorry for your SIL, that must be very hurtful =( i had an uncle who told his SAHW, in front of her family while she was still pregnant, that he'd increase her allowance when she lost the baby weight &amp; he'd give her bonuses for running =/</p> <p>@mrbee: i am so far away from being fit &amp; i have commented on DH's fitness level in public, but only in a complementary way. is that still bad? is it just a taboo topic for spouses? (he does compete in fitness competitions- bodybuilding/powerlifting, if that makes a difference, so he's open to events where his body &amp; fitness level are judged, but i guess those are by judges &amp; not your SO) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758948 Fri, 03 May 2013 05:55:05 +0000 shopaholic 758948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no no no no!!! Your poor SIL! I'm used to those kinds of comments like @Mrs. Bee from Asian people, but not really used to it or okay with it, but definitely not from DH! He's never said anything except for positives and most definitely not in front of other people! He's actually been really complimentary about body pre and post pregnancy. I'd be demoralized and devastated if he did that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758649 Thu, 02 May 2013 21:24:56 +0000 Mrs. Pen 758649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: ha! my ex-boyfriend was like that. He was naturally very thin and I was always a little self-conscious that we were about the same weight as it was; but when he started commenting on my weight gain saying I looked "pudgy" and needed to exercise and eat better, I was so upset. This coming from a guy who NEVER worked out to maintain weight and look fit. (he seriously had a six pack and never exercised!)</p> <p>Yeah that's not okay :( I mean I understand that he is going through adjusting to his wife's new body but still, NOT OKAY. I have a friend who said something similar once his wife got pregnant - "you're gonna lose the weight after you have the baby, right?" she was so mad and hurt!</p> <p>DH ONLY ever talks about my weight if I'm complaining about it... like if I'm putting myself down he says then do something about it instead of complaining. And I do, I do workout about once a week but I don't think I'll ever be what I was. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758645 Thu, 02 May 2013 21:22:54 +0000 Mrs. Bee 758645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'd beat him up if that were me!</p> <p>but i'm also used to weight comments. it's the asian way. (not by mr. bee.... by my family) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758641 Thu, 02 May 2013 21:20:55 +0000 IRunForFun 758641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's horrible!!!! Especially in public, OMG, I'd kick my SO in the nuts if he said that. </p> <p>I've told my SO that I would want him to tell me if I'm gaining weight or looking unfit (not that I wouldn't be able to tell), but we are both really into fitness, and I know if he did say something, it would be from a health standpoint, as well as a personality change standpoint. Something would have to change for me to start living a different lifestyle (pregnancy is an exception, obviously) and that would and should concern him.</p> <p>So far, though, all he's ever done is compliment me.</p> <p>I'd have a hard time holding my tongue if that was my BIL talking like that. I'd let him have it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758546 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:47:24 +0000 MsLipGloss 758546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: hahaha-too true! when I meet people like that I often think "man, I wish I could borrow your mirror for a day or two." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758545 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:47:14 +0000 Smurfette 758545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As @JoJoGirl: said Oh Hell No!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758532 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:44:30 +0000 mrbee 758532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: True... it's just that I have seen some less than fit people make public comments about their SO 's fitness levels, and it never ceases to amaze me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758510 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:40:04 +0000 MsLipGloss 758510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: but he is to the extent that he didn't just have a baby! Maintaining is so much easier than recovering! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758503 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:38:43 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 758503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be ok if he told me in private in a kind and non-derogatory way, but I'd kill him if he did it in public! That said, he has never said anything negative about my weight!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758501 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:38:29 +0000 DigAPony 758501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is totally unacceptable. My husband would never say anything like that, period. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758498 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:37:58 +0000 immabeetoo 758498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: that is disgusting!</p> <p>DH definitely is 100% positive and complimentary about my physical appearance and I'm thankful for that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758494 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:37:11 +0000 mrbee 758494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: Ah ok, so at least he's not being hypocritical about it.</p> <p>Not a fan of those types of comments at all... even if his SO is ok with it, their LO will be understanding those comments soon enough!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758490 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:35:43 +0000 autumnlove 758490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Yes, very fit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758476 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:32:03 +0000 lawbee11 758476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh helllll no. He never comments on my body or weight (alone or in public) unless it's something positive. He always tells me how proud he is of me for continuing to exercise during pregnancy and how good I look, and that's part of what motivates me to keep doing it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-you-ok-with-your-so-making-comments-about-your-weight#post-758473 Thu, 02 May 2013 20:31:39 +0000 tequiero21 758473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My hubby says I got bigger. But he gained like a heck of a lot more than me so I'm just like whatever! Lol. Also, he's only said that to me, not in front of anyone. Sheesh@ your bil. </p>