https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 07:05:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-452610 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 22:19:10 +0000 boiledpnut 452610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely not. The L&amp;D rooms only have a bed and a recliner in them anyway, so it'll be me and DH. My mom wouldn't be so bad I don't think, but I'd kill MIL after about 30 minutes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-452342 Mon, 17 Dec 2012 19:07:22 +0000 lomom 452342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Possibly my mother, but she and I have discussed it at length--my thoughts, fears, expectations, hopes, etc. and she knows exactly where I stand and why I'm so undecided. I don't think she would be upset to not be in the room, if she would be, she's had plenty of opportunity to voice that! </p> <p>We aren't decided yet, my husband doesn't really even want to talk about it (we're not due until May so we have a lot of time!)</p> <p>My dad would never want to be in the delivery room (at least, I think he wouldn't want to be) but I'm not even making that an option. He makes me crazy and would stress me out. He was a terrible labor partner for my mother and there's no reason for him to be in there.</p> <p>My ILs live 12+ hours away so that's a moot point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-11457 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 10:26:55 +0000 Mrsbells 11457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my parents but I dont see why they would want to watch me pushing a baby out </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-11448 Tue, 08 Nov 2011 10:18:51 +0000 Mrs.KMM 11448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Apparently I am in the minority but I want my mom to be in the room. She is one of my biggest supporters, second only to DH, and she'll be able to support me through labor in an entirely different way then DH will. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-11090 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 18:40:02 +0000 cyndistar3 11090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh heck no... I would be weirded out with my dad there and my mom drives me nuts! I am only having DH and of course the midwife and her assistant in the room with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-11084 Mon, 07 Nov 2011 18:37:12 +0000 Mrs. D 11084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-10198 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 19:13:54 +0000 swgal 10198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was there and I loved it! I really wanted someone with me at all times so my husband and mom spelled each other off to go to the washroom and to eat. I definitely want/need her there in the future too!<br /> ETA I wouldn't dream of having MIL in there! No way, no how. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-10151 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 17:04:09 +0000 pelikila 10151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We prepared both our parents that they weren't even welcome at the hospital until after I gave birth. I didn't want to feel pressured like people were waiting on me and there was no way they would be allowed in the room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room/page/2#post-10149 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 16:59:44 +0000 BSB 10149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, not me. My parents live on the east coast so I don't think they would make it on the day that I gave birth. Even if they were close, I wouldn't want them in the room. Oh, I don't think my mom would be offended. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-10143 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 16:47:31 +0000 runsyellowlites 10143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm having a homebirth and would really like my mom to be here. She's incredibly helpful and we've become very close over the last few years. She'd be an incredible coach.</p> <p>Only issue is that I'm not quite sure what to do with DS, who I KNOW will get on my nerves while laboring (he talks constantly)...</p> <p>Sooooo, we'll have to see. Hopefully we'll get it all worked out and she'll get to be here. =)</p> <p>MIL would DEFINITELY NOT BE INVITED... and we probably won't call her or anyone else until quite a few hours after baby is born, to make time for bonding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-9994 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 12:25:59 +0000 MsMini 9994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The plan is for just me and DH to be in the hospital waiting for delivery. Parents and IL's will be invited to come in after the baby is born and we are transferred to maternity. As a nurse, nothing is worse than having to wade through a million people just to be able to do your job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-9986 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 12:12:55 +0000 MH.Abroad 9986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hell. No. x 2.<br /> And my Mom expects and wants to be in there, so I know she's going to get hurt when I tell her no. Actually, I've already told her no, but she keeps thinking I'll change my mind. I won't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-9825 Fri, 04 Nov 2011 22:33:35 +0000 daniellemybelle 9825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know that my mom 100% expects to be in the delivery room with me, and will be disappointed if she isn't invited. My grandmother was in the room when I was born and was the first to hold me! The pros for me are that my mom really does comfort me like no one else, she's been there herself, and it would be mean the world for her. The cons are that, like all mothers, she can stress me out and annoy me sometimes, and I REALLY don't want her seeing me naked! So we'll see what happens :) I am definitely having a doula though, and she will be able to help "manage" my mom somewhat hopefully. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8336 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 16:18:21 +0000 Mrs. Marbles 8336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was in the room along with hubs. Initially, she wasn't going to be there, but decided that she wanted to be. Prior to getting pregnant, I always thought the only person I'd want was my mother in the room because she's been through this and could help me with expectations... but it turns out she stresses me out a lot! It was nice to have both of them in the room, though I would have preferred just the hubs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8319 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 15:53:04 +0000 meaganceleste 8319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely NOT! I would probably not be too uncomfortable with my Mom in the room, but I can't wait to have that special private time with just me and my husband (and some nurses/doctors). After the baby is born, I TOTALLY want my Mom around to take care of us, I'm freaked about the recovery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8306 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 15:41:58 +0000 holdonforonemoreday 8306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was there for my entire labour, until the doctors decided to C-section me. If she had been allowed in with my husband, I would have had her beside me. She was a great support. I know that she was as disappointed as I was I had to have a C. </p> <p>For my next baby, I was thinking that maybe my mom could come in with me for my section, and my husband could wait outside... We'll see what my husband says. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8292 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 15:33:59 +0000 mrsjyw 8292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Red, that actually sounds like a great idea, wish I could pull it off... but, with parents &amp; in-laws being 20 minutes away from us; they'll likely be there before we are! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8208 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 13:52:50 +0000 Adira 8208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mr. Bee - I know you said you never would've thought to invite your parents, but what about Mrs. Bee? I think it tends to be more common for the mother to want HER mother there, though that's not always the case, of course. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8194 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 13:47:03 +0000 PBandBaseball 8194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. I was in the room with my sister because my nephew's father wasn't there. If we weren't having a c-section, I would probably let her and my mom in the room while I was in labor but at push time I would want it to be just me &amp; the hubs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8193 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 13:46:47 +0000 alongfarview 8193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think so. I wouldn't mind having them there for part of the time (depending on my mood), but I can't really imagine having them in the room while I'm actually giving birth. Pretty sure I just want my husband for that. But I really hope that my parents and in-laws will be able to come to the hospital pretty soon after (my parents are close by, but my husband's aren't). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8138 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 12:37:45 +0000 Red 8138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way, too personal! </p> <p>We didn't even want anyone waiting in the waiting room because it was going to create added stress for hubby having to go update them throughout the night. We let everyone know when we left for the hospital and texted updates but told them not to come visit until they get the ok from us since we wanted a few hours alone with the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8122 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 12:11:28 +0000 eeh 8122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I don't really want them there for any part of the labor. I'm sure we'll call them when we head to the hospital and then again once we get settled and figure out exactly where we are. Then they will probably head to the hospital (45 minutes away) and pop in to say hello but then wait in the waiting room. We're lucky that neither set of parents are at all pushy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8113 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 11:41:32 +0000 Rubies 8113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JBHOPS: My MIL wanted to watch me push. I was like, WTF? I went so far as to ban them (parents and in-laws) from seeing me until AFTER the baby was born. To this day, my MIL is still confused as to what my problem was that I didn't allow to her to be in the delivery room. Psh. BTW, my hubs was with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8109 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 11:31:30 +0000 rawrasaur 8109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no idea how I will actually feel when that time comes, but the only other person I would even consider would be my mom, and I feel like that would only be if there were a lot of complications.</p> <p>Most likely it would just be my husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8095 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 10:51:08 +0000 duetletterpress 8095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>absolutely not. just my husband :] </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8085 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 10:43:51 +0000 littleveesmommy 8085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't given birth yet but am determined to only have my husband there. I feel it is a very private moment for only my husband and I to share becoming new parents. I'm sure my mom is waiting for the invitation, but the plan is to not call anyone until after I give birth. We are hoping to have the first few hours to ourselves to bond with the baby before any family / friends visit - not sure how realistic this will be though (!!!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8068 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 10:29:31 +0000 chopsuey 8068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was in the delivery room with me! MIL lives in another state, but if she was around, she would be welcome in the delivery room as well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8059 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 09:59:07 +0000 HabesBabe 8059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'll have my mom in there with myself and my husband. We're very close, I'm an only child, and it was just the two of us for about 20 years (my parents are divorced and live across the country from each other). If anything, I think I mostly want here there because I don't want to upset/hurt her. I think she's always expected to be there.</p> <p>As for the in-laws &amp; my dad-- no way in hell. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8041 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 09:34:44 +0000 themcmom 8041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister was in the room with us, us being hubs and me, because my sister and I are close. It turned out to be a really good thing because my labor started Friday morning and went until Sunday morning (there were some pauses Friday and Saturday); my husband couldn't have handled such a long labor by himself. My sister really jumped right in to really help both of us out during the labor.</p> <p>That said, there is no way I'd have my mom or his parents in the room. Maybe my Dad, but probably not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/are-your-parents-going-to-be-in-the-delivery-room#post-8037 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 09:32:14 +0000 sandsandmore 8037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way in hell! My mom wouldn't want to be there anyway. She did come right after I had the boys, but as soon as I pulled out the hospital pump and told her I need to do that, she bolted out of the room. </p>