https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Jul 2026 21:25:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-selfish-when-sharing-your-lo#post-86874 Mon, 05 Mar 2012 10:59:30 +0000 sorrycharlie 86874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh gosh..I'm already like this and LO isn't even here yet! I'm already panicking about Thanksgiving and Christmas because I don't want it to become a free-for-all pass the baby with all the germs. ugh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-selfish-when-sharing-your-lo#post-86847 Mon, 05 Mar 2012 10:15:22 +0000 Cchoi4 86847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>anything that lets me enjoy a relaxed meal or adult conversation, i say LO can go to whomever would like to hold and play with him :) (But i'm a SAHM so I have him pretty much 24/7) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-selfish-when-sharing-your-lo#post-86836 Mon, 05 Mar 2012 10:08:07 +0000 mrstilly 86836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was pretty selfish and still am at 11 months. When he was young, it was very hard for me to pass him to anyone but DH. I love napping with him and even if I'm frustrated in the moment, like if he's been fussing for a while, every time I passed him to someone else, I felt like there was a hole inside me and I just wanted my baby back. </p> <p>I was pretty good once DS was 4 or 5 months old. I was much better when people asked or when they didn't and gave me the opportunity to offer. I really prefer choosing to pass DS, rather than having someone take him from me. </p> <p>I've had to get over it, particularly with my inlaws. They HOG him on weekends. I get it - they love him and want to see him - but I went back to work full time and weekends are MY time with him too!</p> <p>This weekend I was so pissed that my MIL was holding DS when he fell asleep, after she swiped him from me, that I had her put him in his pack n play. He really does sleep better there, but I was also jealous. DS is really independent, so I'm very selfish of his cuddly time. Can't say it's very mature of me, but my MIL doesn't seem to get that he is MY son, not hers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-selfish-when-sharing-your-lo#post-86817 Mon, 05 Mar 2012 09:16:55 +0000 heffalump 86817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO doesn't let many other people hold her. Just my husband and my mom. She cries if anybody else tries to take her. Sometimes I like it because then she's always all mine, but then other times I'd like a break. Like if I'm out to eat and my husband or mom aren't there and she doesn't want to be in the high chair and just wants to be held, I'm stuck trying to eat with a baby that's on my lap trying to grab everything on the table. Not easy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-selfish-when-sharing-your-lo#post-86790 Mon, 05 Mar 2012 07:38:55 +0000 Lozza 86790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm selfish now, but I wasn't when LO was little. When I was on maternity leave, I felt like I spent literally half the day with LO attached to a boob, so it was a relief to be able to hand him off. I had no qualms passing him around to anybody.<br /> Now I'm at work all week, plus LO is fun, and gets excited about me- all of which mean that I'm totally like "MY BABY" when I get home at night, and on weekends. I try to ease up for the grandparents because I know they love him too. That was one really nice thing about nursing- being able to say "I'd like to feed him now" was my "gimme my baby back" trump card. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-selfish-when-sharing-your-lo#post-86788 Mon, 05 Mar 2012 07:27:50 +0000 Rubies 86788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When LO was smaller and very fussy, I didn't like it when others held her because it would cause me more stress hearing LO cry as my friends were trying to soothe her - but it would just make LO cry harder. Now, she's good and likes being held so I gladly pass her on! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-selfish-when-sharing-your-lo#post-86786 Mon, 05 Mar 2012 07:16:50 +0000 Andrea 86786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Red: same. haha. </p> <p>I also thought it would help her with future separation anxiety issues. We don't have a ton of friends/family around so her exposure to other people is limited so when the opportunities did come I wanted other people to hold her for practice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-selfish-when-sharing-your-lo#post-86767 Mon, 05 Mar 2012 01:11:28 +0000 autumnlove 86767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I let people hold her but I get antsy when they hold for too long! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-selfish-when-sharing-your-lo#post-86761 Sun, 04 Mar 2012 23:14:02 +0000 Red 86761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually loved it when others wanted to hold my LO 'cause it meant that I could go use the bathroom, eat lunch, shower......you get the point, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-selfish-when-sharing-your-lo#post-86758 Sun, 04 Mar 2012 22:59:10 +0000 Grace 86758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm guessing that's common. I had a few friends admit that- I think they made themselves let people hold the baby though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-selfish-when-sharing-your-lo#post-86750 Sun, 04 Mar 2012 22:46:52 +0000 chopsuey 86750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha. I think since LO was born.. I've been away from her for only 15 hours. She turns a year old this month!<br /> I love love love having her with me 24/7. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-selfish-when-sharing-your-lo#post-86746 Sun, 04 Mar 2012 22:36:22 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 86746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find that I have a hard time letting other people hold my LO because I would rather be holding her. She's 6 weeks old today and her personality is really coming out - I love seeing her smile and coo at me and I don't want to miss a moment of it. </p> <p>So when other people want to hold her, I let them but I would rather tell them "no" and keep all those smiles to myself. </p>