https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 03 Apr 2026 19:34:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-461478 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 10:18:00 +0000 Mrs. Pen 461478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: eh I think it's a realistic fear... I think that subconsciously I'm kind of a shallow person (!!). I really was hoping my son would be cute/good-looking because I knew that if he was an ugly baby, I would readily admit it. I have seen ugly babies and I'm sorry to say that I admit that!! Anyway - I didn't think DS was cute in the first days after birth - he was very rugged looking. I loved him because he's mine of course - but still didn't think he was all that cute. After a few days he all of a sudden became adorable and at 10 mos is sooo pretty - he has the biggest blue eyes and the perfect little nose and lips. I worry that my next child won't be as "pretty" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-461473 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 10:05:08 +0000 Weagle 461473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: I don't have a problem with this either. I love LO so so so much, and more each day, that I can't imagine not loving another of my children just as much. I look forward to being able to love more children! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-461470 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:53:53 +0000 Mrs. Pen 461470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Surprisingly enough, no!</p> <p>I know I will love each of my children just as much. </p> <p>Maybe it's because I came from a family of 6 kids? It was never really a worry in my family whether my parent loved us equally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-461463 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:45:18 +0000 Mrs.M57 461463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I feel the same way, it's hard to imagine but I keep loving dd even more and I get excited for another babe but can't imagine loving another babe as much as Lil! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-458922 Thu, 20 Dec 2012 15:39:26 +0000 purrpletulips 458922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a twin and someone once told my mom that it isn't about loving us equally but about loving us differently since we are different people and will have different needs throughout life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-458661 Thu, 20 Dec 2012 14:02:47 +0000 mrs. wagon 458661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: hehe I'm a super crazy realist so I never thought I'd feel this way... but it just happens, I have no explanation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-458517 Thu, 20 Dec 2012 13:23:36 +0000 winniebee 458517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: HAHAH on a good day ; ) </p> <p>I worry about this. I can't imagine loving another baby as much as I love my son now. But I also couldn't imagine loving him more than I did a week ago....and I feel like I love him even more now (if possible). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-458490 Thu, 20 Dec 2012 13:12:03 +0000 shopaholic 458490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T-Mom: @mrs. wagon: awww! &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3 I'm gonna cry, I love this som much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-458428 Thu, 20 Dec 2012 12:27:26 +0000 mrs. wagon 458428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only thing I can say is that your heart definitely expands IMMEDIATELY, and the love you have for each of your kids (and your spouse) is different. When I look at WJ, I feel like he has my whole heart. When I look at LMW, I feel like she has my whole heart. On a good day, I feel like WS has my whole heart ;) That one's a little harder to feel without work!</p> <p>ETA: oh and when I'm with both kids or the whole family, I feel like my heart is just going to burst because I'm overwhelmed with love. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-458417 Thu, 20 Dec 2012 12:20:35 +0000 mrsmenow 458417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have really been worried about this with number 3 coming. My girls ares so different and I love them both so much. I am having a hard time imagining how this baby is going to fit in and what they will be like. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-458416 Thu, 20 Dec 2012 12:20:25 +0000 sarac 458416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just had a dream where my second child wasn't nearly as cute or interesting as my little girl. I know you don't really feel that way, but I'm scared! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-458385 Thu, 20 Dec 2012 12:06:17 +0000 T-Mom 458385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was a huge fear but after having 2 I realized it's so possible to love both. Your heart just expands to make room, how cheesy is that? These days I notice that I love them differently. I am harder on DD since I view her as being very capable and expect a lot out of her. DS, I just treat like the "silly little boy" and baby of the family. I don't know if that is a good thing or not, it's just the way it naturally comes out. I would love to hear a guest post on family dynamics and healthy ways to show equal love to all children without having to love the "same" way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-458173 Thu, 20 Dec 2012 10:57:20 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 458173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So glad to hear that!</p> <p>I think this is in the back of my mind, but I'm more worried about playing favorites. :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-458165 Thu, 20 Dec 2012 10:53:04 +0000 mrbee 458165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to stress about loving them equally, but then I realized that it's more about each of them feeling loved and secure. So now I do my best to make sure they both feel loved!!</p> <p>That said, I do love them both so much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-458161 Thu, 20 Dec 2012 10:50:19 +0000 Mrsbells 458161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. Right now I love my daughter so much that I wonder if I will have any love left over for my next child and what if I love one more than the other? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-458157 Thu, 20 Dec 2012 10:46:50 +0000 autumnlove 458157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have this worry! Glad you are disproving my fear! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arewere-you-worried-about-loving-your-kids-equally#post-458145 Thu, 20 Dec 2012 10:43:15 +0000 chopsuey 458145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't think I could love my son as much as I love my daughter..<br /> Especially right away. </p> <p>But I love him so much it's craZy! </p>