https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 04:25:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/argumentative-behavior#post-2680283 Sun, 15 Jan 2017 09:24:04 +0000 Maysprout 2680283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since he has specific goals he probably can get a referral for additional physical or occupational therapy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/argumentative-behavior#post-2680227 Sun, 15 Jan 2017 00:32:57 +0000 808love 2680227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband goes nuts with too many corrections. (To a fault, in my opinion. Truth be told, I tend to correct him a lot but I am working on it.) It is like he has a limit of (some secret low number I don't know a day) and then his fuse goes short. On the other hand I have peaceful relationships with people that I don't ever correct. See if limiting corrections helps. Ask your husband what a good number is. He may appreciate your effort and may work on reframing your help if it is only once in awhile. Sometimes they have to figure it out on their own or hear it from someone else.<br /> ETA: Maybe you also ask someone else to reinforce safety issues or make a written sign of several things to work on so you don't feel compelled to always remind him. It probably is difficult to make such huge multiple changes in his behavior and I'm sure you are doing an amazing thing with all the support you have offered. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/argumentative-behavior#post-2680218 Sat, 14 Jan 2017 23:42:44 +0000 travellingbee 2680218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd think it's probably really frustrating for him to be a grown man that has to be helped like a child. (And as a side note, you're a wonderful partner to be so patient and caring for both your DH and child!) I'd try to give fewer corrections when safe to. With my kids I try to let them try it even if they will mess it up, as long as it's safe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/argumentative-behavior#post-2680217 Sat, 14 Jan 2017 23:35:29 +0000 macintosh 2680217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS isn't old enough to argue yet, but I do have a habitual arguer in my house...my husband! </p> <p>For context, he has a traumatic brain injury and his disability causes him to be very anxious about doing certain physical tasks like standing, walking, and sitting back down. Each night I help him use the bathroom and take a shower. During this routine i give him a lot of directions and correct anything that I think he's doing "wrong". </p> <p>Those of you with older kids, how would you deal with constant arguing while you're trying to help your child and teach a skill? This has been going on for a couple of years now, just about every night and it drives me nuts! I feel like I should give him some space to do some things the "wrong" way, but then I worry about safety. Thoughts? </p>