https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 02:48:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arguments-on-parenting-with-my-parents#post-73478 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 07:34:30 +0000 mediagirl 73478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow... If my mom wanted to know all of our plans for raising our child, I would have serious issue with that. I think you just need to tell them this is your family and your turn to raise the kids. They did a great job and now you look forward to raising yours your way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arguments-on-parenting-with-my-parents#post-73460 Mon, 13 Feb 2012 03:57:55 +0000 looch 73460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MH.Abroad: Okay, understood. My view is basically this: If someone (doesn't matter who) has an opinion on how I raise my son, that's cool, I am open to listening, but it doesn't mean that I will actually apply anything that is suggested. There's too many other things going on for me to really listen and take those kinds of things to heart. I also reserve the right to change my opinion as my son has new experiences, so while I may say I am anti-time out (or whatever), that may change when my son actually does something with mal-intent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arguments-on-parenting-with-my-parents#post-73150 Sun, 12 Feb 2012 12:06:43 +0000 MH.Abroad 73150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Oh, I didn't bring it up. They did. They want to talk about all our plans... I've said before "You had your opportunity to make the best decisions you could for raising your kids. Now it's our turn to make those decisions." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arguments-on-parenting-with-my-parents#post-73113 Sun, 12 Feb 2012 08:57:27 +0000 looch 73113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can I ask why you are discussing it with your parents? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arguments-on-parenting-with-my-parents#post-72925 Sat, 11 Feb 2012 13:30:12 +0000 MegWag 72925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sucks that she's not respecting your right to choose how to raise your children. I think if it's come up multiple times and lead to fights (which sounds like the case). I'd just be really blunt and firm (but polite) and say something like:<br /> "Mom, I realize you don't agree with how DH and I plan to raise our children, but I'm not interested in hearing your thoughts on this topic (you could insert whatever specific one she's bringing up- like spanking). We've made a thoughtful decision about what is right for our family and won't be changing our minds." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/arguments-on-parenting-with-my-parents#post-72916 Sat, 11 Feb 2012 12:43:10 +0000 MH.Abroad 72916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been having a lot of arguments with my parents recently over the decisions my husband and I are making and have made regarding our decisions on parenting and disciplining our children.<br /> My Mom in particular strongly disagrees with our decisions, and has taken it upon herself to change our minds before its "too late".</p> <p>The biggest source of disagreement is our decision not to spank our children. </p> <p>I think that the way she raised my sister and I was not that great, and I don't want to repeat it. While she certainly meant well, and never abused us, she also didn't raise happy, well adjusted kids. </p> <p>She admits she didn't do everything right, but she also thinks that spanking was not one of her mistakes. I believe it was one of her biggest ones. </p> <p>Let me just say right here - I do not believe spanking is wrong. I don't believe it's abuse, when done correctly. But I also don't believe that it is the right choice for our family, and I believe that there are other ways to discipline children that are effective and better for their long term well being.</p> <p>Have any of you had major disagreements with your parents about the way you've chosen to bring up your kids, and how did you deal with that? </p>