https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 05:36:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/article-about-giving-up-sex#post-1672705 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 10:55:40 +0000 LuLu Mom 1672705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say this is what we do in our relationship (well what we were doing, now that we are TTC it will be more of an EOD kind of thing.) I won't want it ot be forced though &amp; I want us both to enjoy. I agree with this article. I too know people who "must have sex every other day" and those are ones who have rather rocky relationships. One friend even said "if we don't have sex every other day, my husband would think something was wrong or I was going somewhere else for it." and to me that seems so wrong. When did sex take place of communication? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/article-about-giving-up-sex#post-1672683 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 10:49:43 +0000 lawbee11 1672683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think sex is an important component to any relationship. That being said, I don't think sex that results from feelings of pressure (instead of an actual desire) benefits anyone. If one partner has a higher sex drive than another I think there should be some sort of meeting in the middle; never having sex or having sex all the time is going to result in a lot of resentment (and sex is supposed to bring people closer together, not push them further apart!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/article-about-giving-up-sex#post-1672606 Mon, 02 Jun 2014 10:24:15 +0000 BSB 1672606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I didn't want to say it in my initial post, but I actually found this article comforting. We don't do it as much because the variety of meds that the DH takes for his anxiety and asthma. I know we are TTC and doing IUIs, but the stress of TTC was hard for the DH. Also, because of DH's situation, we do freeze his sample so I can still do an IUI. Even though we don't do it often, I still consider myself in a happy relationship. Sex is not the answer to everything. At least, that's how I think of it. Yeah, good for others who can do it more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/article-about-giving-up-sex#post-1670080 Fri, 30 May 2014 23:00:09 +0000 Kemma 1670080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: yup, I know more than one couple having great sex within a terribly dysfunctional relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/article-about-giving-up-sex#post-1669904 Fri, 30 May 2014 20:37:38 +0000 yoursilverlining 1669904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Ditto; us too. </p> <p>We had our horndog years, and (for right now) that time has passed. We're still intimate and close and in love. My husband would be *horrified* to find out I was giving it up to him because I felt pressured to do so. When sex becomes a chore, it loses its magic. I don't want it to lose its magic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/article-about-giving-up-sex#post-1669883 Fri, 30 May 2014 20:24:05 +0000 lizzywiz 1669883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: +1<br /> sex is great but the amount we have is not reflective of how healthy our relationship is.<br /> ETS that we have been married 13 years so that might have something to do with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/article-about-giving-up-sex#post-1669762 Fri, 30 May 2014 18:59:20 +0000 blackbird 1669762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This so works for us. Forcing it doesn't. We both acknowledge that now is not the sexiest time in our life, but we find other ways to be intimate and spend time together. And there's always wine!</p> <p>I just read this as them being respectful of the fact that they are both tired! If you have to say to your spouse, "I guess we should have sex..."....I don't see how that is ideal </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/article-about-giving-up-sex#post-1669746 Fri, 30 May 2014 18:47:13 +0000 Mrs. Polish 1669746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband would never agree to this, and I'm not sure I'd want him to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/article-about-giving-up-sex#post-1669679 Fri, 30 May 2014 17:36:14 +0000 Adira 1669679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: Yes, I want to read an article about that too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/article-about-giving-up-sex#post-1669442 Fri, 30 May 2014 15:25:48 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1669442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly? I don't think he is saying anything extraordinary.<br /> He's like, "we have sex when the time is right and don't feel pressured." I just feel like it's so obvious; but I'm trying to get how it isn't in so many relationships. Like @adira: said, they seemed mutual. I want to read an article of a couple to came to such a peaceful agreement and we're not mutual on the feelings of pressure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/article-about-giving-up-sex#post-1669188 Fri, 30 May 2014 13:50:02 +0000 Adira 1669188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love this and I wonder if it would work. I'm so tired all the time, but Hubs still wants sex every other day and I just feel pressured to give in even though having sex is the last thing on my mind. But then when we don't do it, he seems hurt and resentful. But it sounds like from the article, they BOTH felt pressured to do it, and I don't think that's the case in my situation. Oh well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/article-about-giving-up-sex#post-1669137 Fri, 30 May 2014 13:34:07 +0000 BSB 1669137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5404766?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000063" rel="nofollow">http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5404766?ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000063</a></p> <p>Interesting read. </p>