https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 10:04:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143848 Tue, 01 May 2012 14:21:18 +0000 banana 143848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I listen to my mom a lot, especially as it relates to child rearing. I take most of her suggestions but not all of them. But she's great at not pushing her opinions on me though, which helps a lot. It's hard sometimes because she watches my son and has a lot of opinions about how to raise him. Thankfully we're very similar in our child-rearing styles so we usually see eye to eye on most things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143754 Tue, 01 May 2012 13:30:18 +0000 MsLipGloss 143754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At several points in my life, I have made decisions that my mom did not support, or at least openly questioned, because (at the time) she didn't know all the facts driving the decision (like the decision to leave my last long-term relationship before I met DH). It was really hard to stand my ground, and eventually, when--and if!--I felt it was appropriate, I would give her the background deets. Otherwise, I was calling the shots, and that was that.</p> <p>Like @MrsWagon, my relationship with my mom was difficult during my teenage/ early adult years (and I was not a rebellious kid at all!), and it took a long time for me to forge a friendship with my mom. I do ask for her advice, but there are just some times that we can't agree (although she doesn't always know when those times are), and I have learned to rely on myself (and DH) during those times. </p> <p>Like @WinnieBee wrote, knowing all your options is always a good idea. But if you feel good about you and your OB's plan for your delivery (and it sounds like you do), then trust your gut and do what you both think is best for you and your LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143744 Tue, 01 May 2012 13:23:52 +0000 LuLu Mom 143744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I listen to her a lot, her opinion means a lot to me and I know her advice is knowledgeable and thought out. There are things I disagree with but for the most part she knows what is right for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143718 Tue, 01 May 2012 13:12:47 +0000 googly-eyes 143718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I listen to my mom a lot, but it doesn't hurt that I agree with her on most things. Sometimes I don't listen to her but I just don't say anything about whatever it is.. She understands! Hope everything works out for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143679 Tue, 01 May 2012 12:50:50 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 143679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone for the responses.<br /> nothing has happened previously to make her distrust my doctor, she is just very into natural methods of medicine (she thought I could cure my endo by changing my diet). she doesn't believe in immunizations, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143166 Tue, 01 May 2012 08:17:42 +0000 Andrea 143166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends ... if she felt really strongly that I was getting bad medical advice, then I would look into it further for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143162 Tue, 01 May 2012 08:15:51 +0000 Mrs. Bee 143162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it depends on what it is. i do listen to her for life advice, but not when it comes to little things like running the household. i don't have the energy to do all things she did! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143159 Tue, 01 May 2012 08:13:52 +0000 eeh 143159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I take my mom's (and dad's) advice more often than not. My parents are very logical and really good at knowing whether or not they should be giving advice in a particular area. A lot of times there advice will consist of something like "You know who would be good to ask about this is _____" which shows me they are interested in helping me but don't give me advice on something they know nothing about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143157 Tue, 01 May 2012 08:12:27 +0000 mrs. wagon 143157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I spent my entire life growing up following my very dominant mom's pushy orders...!! We went through a big, rough transition during late high school and college, and now we are friends. We discuss things like peers and she does give me advice, but doesn't fully expect me to follow it-- it's just discussion. She really trusts me now as an adult... it was rough getting here, but I love our relationship now. It has its negatives too-- she doesn't shield me from things or take care of me so carefully like she used to-- but I love it all the same. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143151 Tue, 01 May 2012 08:09:27 +0000 mrsjyw 143151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She says that it's her turn to be the child now... :) I try to listen to most of her mama/baby advice, there's been one or two things where I know things are different now than when she had us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143127 Tue, 01 May 2012 07:47:28 +0000 heffalump 143127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I listen to her, but I don't always agree with her and go with what she wants. I respect her opinion but I'm an adult and I can make my own decisions now.</p> <p>Although I wish I listened to her more as a kid.... 7 1/2 years wasted with a loser boyfriend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143122 Tue, 01 May 2012 07:43:08 +0000 winniebee 143122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I trust and respect my mom and always consider her opinion, but make my own decision (with my husband if it's something that impacts him).</p> <p>Moms never want to see their kids in distress! With something like this, unless your mom knows the medicine, I would say "thanks mom that's definitely something to consider." But I guess in my view, OBs are the ones who deal with this stuff every day and have been trained for many many many years. While it's good to ask probing questions of your OB and to know what your options are, I would follow the OB's recommendation since it's not just your health the OB has to look out for, but also the health of your baby. Maybe she is concerned about lawsuits, but it could be because she knows the medicine enough to know what possible complications exist if you don't induce by X date. Of course, calling around for a second opinion won't hurt. </p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143089 Tue, 01 May 2012 07:17:50 +0000 chopsuey 143089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I trust my mom's judgment and know she only wants the best for me. If she feels strongly about somEthing I always listen to her.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143079 Tue, 01 May 2012 07:06:25 +0000 meredithNYC 143079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I listen to mine most of the time, but I think that's because she's very good at keeping her opinion to herself unless it's regarding something that really matters.</p> <p>It sounds like in your case you need to stand your ground as long as you agree with your doctor's recommendation. Have you had a good relationship with him/her so far or are there other reasons for your mom to believe that you're not getting the best possible care? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/as-an-adult-how-much-do-you-listen-to-your-mom#post-143008 Tue, 01 May 2012 00:43:19 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 143008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Although I consider my mom and I to be extremely close, sometimes I have a hard time deciding whether or not to "listen" to her. I am a married grownup now, and sometimes I don't agree with what she is telling me to do. Other times I just want to respect her and do what she suggests that I do.</p> <p>Earlier today she was telling me that I really need to push back with this possible induction and "fight" my doctor. She says that the doctor is just worried about preventing potential lawsuits and isn't really concerned about my own health. She even gave me numbers to other OBGYNs and a midwife so that I can get "other opinions" on whether or not I need to be induced.<br /> I was just so frustrated I didn't even know what to say or what to do.</p> <p>How much do you listen to your mom? </p>