https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 20:35:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256495 Mon, 13 Aug 2012 07:47:26 +0000 blackbird 256495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you're uncomfortable breastfeeding, it might even inhibit your milk flow. Your baby would pick up on your squeamishness. I know I will not be comfortable feeding in front of other dudes, so I will do the same thing! Just because it's normal doesn't mean you don't have to be private about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256481 Mon, 13 Aug 2012 07:35:48 +0000 Lozza 256481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it's something that you'd like to be able to "ease into," maybe next time you could talk to some of your girlfriends about helping see if you can get a table in a more out of the way place, or making sure you're seating at the end or right next to a couple women instead of men?<br /> I'd love it if as a society we were all cool with public breastfeeding, but there were definitely times when I wasn't comfortable doing it myself. I think you just have to do whatever's most comfortable for you and your LO. No need to feel bad about it :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256425 Mon, 13 Aug 2012 01:13:03 +0000 Boogs 256425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't feel bad! If it made you more comfortable that's that matters. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256349 Sun, 12 Aug 2012 21:12:10 +0000 Red 256349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a hard time bf'ing in front of guy friends/relatives too. Not so much because I would feel uncomfortable but because I think it would make them feel uncomfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256335 Sun, 12 Aug 2012 20:48:48 +0000 Freckles 256335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, ladies! I guess "ashamed" was too strong of a word, but i was a bit hard on myself for not being able to just do it. But i am sure my guy friends would've appreciated that i not expose myself to them. Hahaha...or who knows, maybe they would have enjoyed the nip peek! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256287 Sun, 12 Aug 2012 19:53:15 +0000 T.H.O.U. 256287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am all for feeding in public (even restaurants) but there are times that she's super squirmy or I don't have a good seat or something where it is just easier for me to go nurse somewhere else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256278 Sun, 12 Aug 2012 19:45:41 +0000 MamaBehr 256278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was always uncomfortable feeding her in public, but I never let it stop me. That's what they are there for! It is the most normal thing on the face of the plant, but it doesn't mean you won't get funny stares. I just tried to ignore looks (and I have a feeling that it was always worse in my head than anything, my nursing cover looked a lot like a shirt) Don't be ashamed though, it is a rather weird feeling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256253 Sun, 12 Aug 2012 18:47:41 +0000 pastemoo 256253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, it's tough sometimes more than others for no good reason at all! Don't be hard on yourself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256247 Sun, 12 Aug 2012 18:41:18 +0000 photojane 256247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i think the comfort of your friends/guests should also be considered. i don't think i would breastfeed in front of guy friends in our own home, because i know that it can really make a lot of guys uncomfortable. i don't care who sees, and i believe it's beautiful and natural, but i don't want to make any of my friends feel awkward or uncomfortable. i don't see anything wrong with excusing yourself... nothing to be ashamed of! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256238 Sun, 12 Aug 2012 18:20:51 +0000 Rubies 256238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only breastfed in front of male friends if we were in the comfort of someone's home. But in public, I always excused myself to the ladies room or nursing room (if it was available). I'm not sure if I would say that I was embarrassed but it used to just be easier for me to get up than to have LO wiggle around and such. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256234 Sun, 12 Aug 2012 18:16:37 +0000 LAGS 256234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be ashamed at all. I'm all for women who are able to discreetly feed their LOs in public, but its generally not for me. At restaurants I either try to find a quiet area or if none are available, I've done the same and fed her standing in a stall before. The only time I regularly feed my LO in front of others is around friends/family at my/their home with a cover and even then I prefer to find a quiet place by ourselves.</p> <p>I don't think nursing in public is a prerequisite of breastfeeding at all and don't think anyone should be ashamed of nursing their LOs privately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256192 Sun, 12 Aug 2012 17:19:28 +0000 brownie 256192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took me some time to be comfortable breastfeeding in front of male friends without my cover. Now (at 15 months) we are all over it. It's just a nipple. Some of the things that make it a little easier for me is just not to make a big deal out of it. I just pull up my shirt, and pop him on like nothing is happening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256178 Sun, 12 Aug 2012 16:52:18 +0000 meredithNYC 256178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, you really shouldn't be too hard on yourself. I would have a hard time breastfeeding in front of my guy friends, too. If you still feel strongly about being okay with breastfeeding in front of friends, though, just make it your goal that next time you will give it a try. I think if you keep the atmosphere light and maybe make a little joke about it that could ease the awkwardness? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256152 Sun, 12 Aug 2012 15:48:37 +0000 JerricaBenton 256152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not there yet, but I plan on breastfeeding. I don't think you should feel ashamed that you went to find someplace more private. I think some 'public' places and social situations are far more conducive to bf'ing. While I don't think anyone should be made to feel embarrassed wherever they choose to do it, personally I wouldn't be comfortable bf'ing right next to male friends at a restaurant table. You've got to do what feels right! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ashamed-at-being-embarassed#post-256149 Sun, 12 Aug 2012 15:40:19 +0000 Freckles 256149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Today i met up with 9 friends at a pretty nice resto for brunch. We were seated in a high traffic area and i was next to and in front of my male buddies. LO started to fuss and i realized it was around her feeding time. I panicked, and instead of just feeding her at the table, i took her to the (relatively clean) bathroom and fed her in the stall standing...even though i told myself i'd never be shamed into doing that!</p> <p>I felt a little ashamed that i couldnt just use my scarf to cover her while feeding. She is squirmy, so there is a good chance my nipple would pop out and say hello to my guy friends...making them squeamish!</p> <p>Has anyone else ever felt embarassed to just whip out the boob in public? I've fed her on a mall bench, parking lot, park bench...so i dont know why i felt embarassed to do it this time around. </p>