https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 14:50:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2538950 Mon, 02 May 2016 13:11:24 +0000 ineebee 2538950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We live far apart, so it was a phone call. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2538850 Mon, 02 May 2016 11:59:46 +0000 chopsuey 2538850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told them over the phone. Both times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2538758 Mon, 02 May 2016 10:39:43 +0000 yin 2538758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just told them in person and showed them the ultrasound. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2538642 Mon, 02 May 2016 09:13:46 +0000 snowjewelz 2538642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just told my parents at dinner.. Didn't do anything special! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537845 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 20:11:44 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2537845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stiletto_mom: from a practical stand point, we had my mom and dad each unwrap gifts which were baby items. My dad got baby oatmeal (he likes oatmeal but was confused why this was baby oatmeal) and my mom got a bottle scrub brush and some baby lotion. It wasn't until they had opened and realized the "baby theme" that we told them we were pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537834 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 19:53:10 +0000 mrsjyw 2537834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm Korean but my parents are both very affectionate. I made them tshirts that said worlds best grandma/pa (in Korean) and we announced at my dads 60th bday dinner we threw for him. They were so happy and my dad said it was the best bday.</p> <p>Second time we just told them. Both w chemical and w ds2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537811 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 18:58:05 +0000 iluvboba637 2537811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stiletto_mom: maybe something for Mother's Day? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537808 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 18:39:38 +0000 sunny 2537808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told my parents in person for our first--nothing cutesy. The second time we had my daughter tell my parents over the phone that she was going to be a big sister. It was a flop!! They had a hard time understanding her and then they asked if she was serious. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537807 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 18:38:11 +0000 stiletto_mom 2537807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for all the advice.</p> <p>My mother lives with us so I can't hide it for very long. But he card plus ultrasound sounds perfect!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537783 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 16:46:39 +0000 catlady 2537783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dad is Chinese, and we took him out to dinner the first time and told him then. For subsequent pregnancies, we just told him. We tried to do something cute for the gender reveal and it was kind of a flop. Simpler was best! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537773 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 16:04:56 +0000 PurplePumps 2537773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just told my mom over the phone. And I didn't really announce it either, I just kind of slipped it into the conversation. I was talking to her about "hang san" a few weeks ago, and I was just like.. so.. it's not like when cousin was pregnant and couldn't go to the cemetery for grandpa's burial? And it took her a second then she started going nuts. So I kind of wish I'd waited to tell them in person, but I didn't have time since we were supposed to go the next day when I found out. But it's been like a month, and we haven't talked about it since at all! My husband says we Asians have a such a odd dynamic, and it's so true lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537760 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 15:36:04 +0000 iluvboba637 2537760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first, we got cards from the dollar store that were supposed to be for baby shower thank you cards but they were blank inside and the outside just had a baby cartoon. On the inside of the card I glued a picture of our ultrasound and wrote congrats you're gonna be a grandma/grandpa/uncle/great-grandma, etc. 23 got our whole family together for a bbq and gave everyone their cards. </p> <p>For the second, we announced on my bday on a cake that said happy bday mommy #/2, happy two and a half bday A #/2 and baby #2 due 5/2. Had dd come on her due date, her, ds, and I would have all had a birthday on the second of different months. 😉 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537758 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 15:29:54 +0000 yoursilverlining 2537758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Neither my husband or I are Asian, but we just told each set of parents. I think you're over-thinking this. You don't have to make an announcement - just tell her she's going to be a grandma. What you get in return in sure will depend on her personality, but you don't have to make it a "thing" - just tell her you're pregnant :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537752 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 15:10:04 +0000 gingerbebe 2537752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I sent my parents a card from the baby (it was near Valentine's Day, so I sent one that was for a Grandma and Grandpa) with the ultrasound picture taped inside and the due date. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537748 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 14:45:46 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2537748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stiletto_mom: @regberadaisy: I'm Spanish so culturally we're more emotive. I told my family without fanfare three times. I wouldn't say any of our announcements were particularly romantic or meaningful. No pink balloons or blue cupcakes.... just "we're having a baby." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537738 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 14:28:43 +0000 regberadaisy 2537738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: what @stiletto_mom: said. My family does not show love verbally. It's just not in our culture. Not to say ALL Asian American parents are like that. But most are.</p> <p>@stillero mom: I think I just told her over FaceTime for my first! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537724 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 13:59:25 +0000 Raspberry 2537724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sure she had already guessed by the time we announced because my Asian mother had already called me out on getting fat!</p> <p>We just took the family out for dinner conveniently on the pretext of Mother's Day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537706 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 13:13:51 +0000 autumnlove 2537706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just told them over the phone. Nothing fancy!</p> <p>My mom does not like baby showers so she didn't attend the shower that my friends threw for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537696 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 12:54:49 +0000 PinkElephant 2537696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stiletto_mom: do you talk to her on the phone? Or see her for a weekly lunch or something? I'd treat it like any other news you'd tell her in a matter of fact way - that you're buying a new house, taking a vacation, got a promotion, etc. Straightforward and to the point. Since you know what to expect about her reaction, it sounds like you won't be disappointed. I probably wouldn't tell her at, like, 8 weeks or something, but would wait til later, as long as someone else won't find out and spill the beans to her. </p> <p>Though grand babies are a different thing, and are certainly celebrated (though maybe less publicly so) in every Asian country I've lived in or visited....perhaps she'll surprise you. 😊 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537695 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 12:53:58 +0000 Ginabean3 2537695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm Asian American and both times I just told my mom and showed her an ultrasound picture! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537694 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 12:49:33 +0000 stiletto_mom 2537694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Culturally, we do not verbally express love. It's mostly shown through action. So faced with writing a card, I'm kind of at a loss. My mom would probably cringe at anything sappy.</p> <p>Similar to "announcing". It's just not a formal event and we do not anticipate romanticized reactions as I will with MIL. </p> <p>So telling my Asian mother presents its own challenges on how to make it meaningful if it even needs to be made meaningful. And what is or isn't appropriate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537686 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 12:20:59 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2537686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>American, non-Asian, just wondering what race has to do with telling one's parents...? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asian-american-mommas-to-be-how-did-you-revealtell-your-parents#post-2537664 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 11:27:43 +0000 stiletto_mom 2537664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see a lot of cute things on pinterest like buying a onesie to that says "grandma" on it, and while that'll be great for my MIL, I am out of ideas on how to tell my practical Asian mom about my pregnancy.</p> <p>I don't want it to be too cheesy, corny... Maybe I should just ... tell her? I bought a card, but is that still too cheesy?</p> <p>What did you do? </p>