https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 16:25:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asking-to-be-picked-up-early-from-school#post-2312532 Wed, 07 Oct 2015 10:31:42 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2312532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I honestly think this is related to the move. I think that kids have trouble articulating complex feelings and this is just a way of saying he wants to be near you/ feel safe. My son also had some out of the ordinary requests before our latest move- not wanting to go to preschool (which he loved) or asking to go to "our" coffee shop several days in a row. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asking-to-be-picked-up-early-from-school#post-2312529 Wed, 07 Oct 2015 10:28:25 +0000 BadgerMom 2312529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is there a way you could talk to one of the teachers and find out how he acts while he's there? I'd feel a lot better about leaving him if the teacher said he seems to be having a great time, and if he's not, then maybe you can ask him/her to watch and see if she can figure out what the deal is. My first thought when I read your post is that he's having problems with one of his friends or other kids there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asking-to-be-picked-up-early-from-school#post-2312491 Wed, 07 Oct 2015 09:59:54 +0000 mrbee 2312491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Yah totally, normally I'd be weak too! But we only have a few weeks to prep for the move (and get a lot of work done), so feeling like I can't do early pickups all that often right now...</p> <p>The way that his after-school program works logistically, it's kind of tricky to observe. But I'll ask! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asking-to-be-picked-up-early-from-school#post-2312480 Wed, 07 Oct 2015 09:55:53 +0000 looch 2312480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a weakling when it comes to this kind of stuff, so my first, honest reaction would be that I would try to figure out some way to pick him up at the end of school at least twice a week.</p> <p>Have you tried going early to observe (without him seeing you, not sure if that is possible at all) and then talk to him about what you saw? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asking-to-be-picked-up-early-from-school#post-2312465 Wed, 07 Oct 2015 09:48:00 +0000 Modern Daisy 2312465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to ask all the time when I was 7 and had undiagnosed mono. Doctors didn't discover it until years later. My Mom was a SAHM and never believed me that I was sick so it never worked.</p> <p>I find that DS who is 2 gets anxious at dropoff and pickup but truly has a great time at daycare! I think it's hard for him because he usually gets picked up last so he watches all of his friends parents arrive and is left without a play mate for the last half hour. By the time I arrive he is sometimes a little worked up and mad, but he'll get over it quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asking-to-be-picked-up-early-from-school#post-2312433 Wed, 07 Oct 2015 09:12:11 +0000 Mama Ek 2312433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son does but we don't have a choice - he has to go. I pick him up early when we can. I would just point out the positives "you'll score a goal next time!" "do you want me to make sure to tell them you have time for a snack?" Also, it might just be he is tired from school or wants to spend extra time with you which i think is mostly my son's reasoning :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asking-to-be-picked-up-early-from-school#post-2312407 Wed, 07 Oct 2015 08:46:30 +0000 mrbee 2312407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: We considered it, but since we're moving in a few weeks... we figured we'd go with what we knew from last year (especially since we could only offer 1-2 months of employment to a sitter!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asking-to-be-picked-up-early-from-school#post-2312379 Wed, 07 Oct 2015 08:21:54 +0000 daniellemybelle 2312379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's hard! No parental experience but I used to ask to stay home from school or get picked up early all the time. My mom was a SAHM but she still wasn't going to do that, of course! I think a lot of kids go through those phases.</p> <p>Did you and Bee decide against an afternoon sitter? I feel like one of you blogged about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asking-to-be-picked-up-early-from-school#post-2312370 Wed, 07 Oct 2015 08:11:29 +0000 Smurfette 2312370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She asked me this morning to stay home. Was so sad when I told her Mommy had to go to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asking-to-be-picked-up-early-from-school#post-2312363 Wed, 07 Oct 2015 08:07:25 +0000 mrbee 2312363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: He's fine at school during the day... he has more comments/concerns about after-school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asking-to-be-picked-up-early-from-school#post-2312361 Wed, 07 Oct 2015 08:05:31 +0000 Mamaof2 2312361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: how he is at school during the day? Do you think he is getting anxious about the big move and this is spilling over into other areas of life? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asking-to-be-picked-up-early-from-school#post-2312355 Wed, 07 Oct 2015 07:58:47 +0000 mrbee 2312355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: His reason always varies.... he said yesterday that he didn't get to eat a snack or get a drink, and also that he didn't score a goal when he played soccer.</p> <p>It's the same program he went to last year, so I think he knows a lot of kids! But for whatever reason, he's not as into it this year as he was last year. I keep trying to figure out what's up, but he hasn't told me yet... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asking-to-be-picked-up-early-from-school#post-2312352 Wed, 07 Oct 2015 07:56:28 +0000 Mamaof2 2312352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh sorry to hear that! Have you asked him why? no friends? doesn't like the teachers? Doesn't like the activities?</p> <p>My DS hates his before-care program but LOVES after care - they close at 6 and he wants to be picked up at 5:59! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/asking-to-be-picked-up-early-from-school#post-2312349 Wed, 07 Oct 2015 07:54:32 +0000 mrbee 2312349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son seems to be really struggling with his afterschool program this year. He asked me today to pick him directly from school (at 2:50 pm), rather than have him go to his after-school program (pickup from there is 4:45 pm or 5:30 pm). I really wanted to accommodate him... but the problem is, I have to work! I told him that we would build LEGO together after he gets home, but that didn't really pick up his spirits.</p> <p>Do your kids ever ask to be picked up early? How do you handle it? </p>