https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 08:30:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-the-end-of-the-day-theyre-not-our-kids#post-250470 Tue, 07 Aug 2012 08:12:25 +0000 MrsTiz 250470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a similar thing happening, because my niece/SIL live across the hall from us. Our niece comes over like every single day now. She's 3 and is almost unbearable to be around (IMO) but she LOVES DH. I don't agree with almost everything SIL teaches her, or doesn't teach her (what bothers me the most) but I just chant in my head "she's not my kid", and take notes on what to do/not to do for our own LO. </p> <p>I would talk to your BIL and tell him how your niece is acting, see if he's noticing it at home, and *gently* talk to him about why you think that is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-the-end-of-the-day-theyre-not-our-kids#post-250433 Tue, 07 Aug 2012 07:31:07 +0000 regberadaisy 250433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you ever find yourself saying that?</p> <p>The blog post about lying got me thinking about our niece from my husband's side. She just turned 5 and if some of you remember a while back I posted about our nieces and nephews. She's quite a chronic liar and like the article said she was 4 when she stayed with us for 2 weeks and I noticed just how bad her lying had gotten. To the point where you will catch her in the lie and she will still refuse to admit that she lied. To the point where she will be crying, get sent to her room and she will still refuse to admit she lied. Or even the next day.</p> <p>Her parent's are separated and quite honestly imo they're not handling it very well for the kids. Less than 9 months later the mom has a new boyfriend moving into the house. And I just learned the other day that the two nieces who love to talk about <i>everything</i> in their life has not once made a peep about their home life since. It's kinda sad.</p> <p>I wish there was more we can do but we're 20+ hours away and the brother doesn't take to "parenting advice" very well. So I stay far away from that subject with him.</p> <p>We love them because they're our nieces but...at the end of the day they're not our kids...</p> <p>I hope like crazy that BIL and his ex-wife's relationship doesn't continue getting sour to the point where we can't be a part of our nieces life. One of them is our god daughter and I would hate to be those god parents that dropped out of their life. And it would not be by choice. </p>