https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 11:54:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-age-did-you-start-disciplining#post-2044405 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 19:13:01 +0000 pinkb 2044405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We used redirection and correction until 18 months. Then it was timeouts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-age-did-you-start-disciplining#post-2044388 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 19:03:04 +0000 hilsy85 2044388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started using re-direction as soon as he was getting into stuff he shouldn't. But we didn't start time outs until around 21 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-age-did-you-start-disciplining#post-2044387 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 19:02:08 +0000 blackbird 2044387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely at 16 months. I would discipline things like the throwing of cat food. Normal or not, I didn't want to encourage the behavior. Hitting, too. I would remove myself from that situation so she eventually put together that hitting equals no mommy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-age-did-you-start-disciplining#post-2044379 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 18:57:50 +0000 jedeve 2044379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>10 months on hair pulling and biting while nursing got to be a real problem with lo1. So I would tell him no and stop him from doing it. Which is kind of how I think of discipline - teaching your children. So if I want to teach him not to do something, I start when that behavior starts. Like throwing food. I don't remember when that starts. A year? If he did it we would tell him no and take whatever he was throwing away. (We would still feed him and all, though!) It wasn't a big deal, like yelling and punishing. Or even making him feel bad, because at that age he is obviously just exploring his world (physical and social/emotional worlds both.) But I don't want to confuse him by letting him do something one day and then not the next. </p> <p>So it's kind of the same with my seven month old. I've been thinking about this a lot lately because he is "allowed" to do things my two year old isn't. Like chew on our fingers or pull the table cloth or yell through dinner. I don't want to confuse my toddler as to why I am yelling and punishing him. And at the same time I don't want to baby my baby (well when he is a baby, sure! But not make the excuse "oh he is just a baby" forever. So for both of them I will ask them not to do something, and try to give them an alternative. So like with yelling through dinner. I will say, "oh lo2, please don't yell". And then pick him up because he is probably hungry or tired or bored. If lo1 does it I would be more like, "lo1, please don't yell. Use your words instead." And if he keeps doing it, I try to recognize he is also probably hungry, tired or bored too. But I want him to learn how to control those feelings and behave appropriately too. </p> <p>Sorry for the tangent. There has been a lot of yelling at dinner lately! I think lo1 gets hungry and wound up waiting for daddy to come home. And then lo2 is tired and so he starts to yell. Then lo1 wants to be heard over that. Which stresses lo2 out......</p> <p>It's just a phase. It's just a phase. It's just a phase. :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-age-did-you-start-disciplining#post-2044328 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 18:27:32 +0000 Maysprout 2044328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been telling her no about dangerous things for a while. She just turned 15 months and just went to her room this week.I was trying to help her big sister and she kept coming over and pushing her. I told her no a few times and then finally took her on my lap too because I have two arms. But then she started kicking and hitting her big sister because she didn't want to share mommy's lap. So she went to her room while I finished helping her big sister. I felt bad because she is so little but she was being ridiculous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-age-did-you-start-disciplining#post-2044302 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 18:09:05 +0000 PinkElephant 2044302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm doing something like what @Danizaur: does with my almost 9 month old. I can absolutely tell she knows what no means (oh, the look she gives me when I tell her no!), so I remove her from the situation by picking her up and placing her away from whatever she's doing that she isn't supposed to do.</p> <p>By 1.5/2 yrs, I was definitely giving my older daughter very short time outs in her crib (with all toys removed) when she deliberately disobeyed. That stopped working, so at 2.5 I'm putting specific items in time out instead (i.e. you throw the baby doll, it goes in time out for the afternoon. you won't pick up your blocks after repeated requests? Fine, they're mommy's blocks for the rest of the day). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-age-did-you-start-disciplining#post-2044298 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 18:05:15 +0000 artsyfartsy 2044298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it counts yet but T knows what "No no" means at 11 months, so if he's about to get into something he shouldn't I say "No no don't do that please. That's naughty". He doesn't always listen but he gets the point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-age-did-you-start-disciplining#post-2044292 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 17:59:12 +0000 .twist. 2044292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depending on what it is, I do a variety of things. Sometimes I ignore it because drawing any attention to it will just make him keep doing it. </p> <p>If it's something I ask him not to do, and he does it, and then I ask again and he does it again, etc. Then we do little time outs. I pick him up and plop him on his bum away from toys or playing, away from me (but still in view) and he has to sit there for 1 min. Which he surprisingly does! Unhappily, but he does it and then I tell him he can go play and he'll go do something else.</p> <p> So far it's been totally successful and we haven't had to do anything more extreme! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-age-did-you-start-disciplining#post-2044281 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 17:51:36 +0000 illumina 2044281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Spin off from @mae:'s thread about misbehaving. I think we are at that point now at 16 months where she is testing boundaries...so I'm wondering at what point we need to think about discipline (I.e time out).</p> <p>What did you do and when? Should we be disciplining for repeat offenses of testing a particular boundary yet? </p>