https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 14:50:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-point-did-you-decide-to-sleep-train#post-935491 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 11:55:06 +0000 coastmama 935491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Matador84 Sounds so rough! We sleep trained at 6 months after LO started getting up 10-12 times a night. I was a basketcase! I recommend "The Sleep Lady." I feel that it is a good balanced approach to sleep training. For us, I knew there would be some crying, but this way you are there to calm them down. You start out sitting next to the crib (3 nights), then move to the middle of the room (3 nights)...etc. That way I could pat and shhh.... and even pick him up if he got too hysterical, but then put right back down. He was putting himself to sleep on his on within 4 days, and only waking up once to nurse between 2-4. The book gave advice on how to completely wean at night, we just aren't ready for that yet. I can take one night waking and feeding.... just not 10! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-point-did-you-decide-to-sleep-train#post-935480 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 11:49:54 +0000 edelweiss 935480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: for our last nursing session before LO goes to bed, we were having similar issues with latching, pulling off, latching back on, fussing, not seeming satisfied...i could not figure out what it was. it lasted for about a month. i still don't know whether it was that he was exhausted, teething, etc. i know what you mean about nighttime feedings being easy, until they don't nurse to sleep! that wasn't cool! </p> <p>i'm wondering if he's going through some phase right now, whether it be teething, developmental changes, new foods in his diet, etc? </p> <p>i think a lot of people sleep train when the status quo becomes unbearable, and it sounds like you're at or close to that point. i know there are no-cry sleep solutions or other sleep training methods that are more "gentle" than extinction that you've probably read about. however you decide to sleep train, rest assured you are making the right decision for you and your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-point-did-you-decide-to-sleep-train#post-935454 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 11:38:28 +0000 littlek 935454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you are going through this. We sleep trained at 6 months. LO was STTN, but getting him to fall asleep was AWFUL. We choose to go the extinction route and the first two days were ROUGH. BUT, he is a great sleeper now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-point-did-you-decide-to-sleep-train#post-935451 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 11:37:55 +0000 matador84 935451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@edelweiss: when i would nurse him, he used to quickly fall asleep and i'd put him down and head back to bed--it would be easy. i think since i've become pregnant, the taste of my milk has changed and he will pull off and latch back on and cry and it is really weird. last night was super weird because he just had really bad gas, which never happens, and just wanted me to hold him. I'd nurse him, he'd be fine, then fuss, then want to be held, then nurse...I was like oh my goshhhh.</p> <p>I tried CIO a few months ago used to be able to do it and totally can't do it now. He's bled on his sheets before. One night his cry went from like a normal cry to hysterical. I went and checked on him and he had vomited all over the crib. It literally broke my mama heart into pieces...turns out he had a stomach bug but I always think about if I hadn't listened to my gut and checked on him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-point-did-you-decide-to-sleep-train#post-935420 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 11:28:17 +0000 edelweiss 935420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm sorry, that sounds really rough. we decided to sleep train at 11 weeks but it was a different situation than what you're experiencing (it was mainly to get LO to fall asleep on his own)--however what was similar was feeling a bit at the end of my rope in terms of sleep deprivation and lack of options.</p> <p>you mentioned that sometimes when you nurse him, he doesn't nurse to sleep--did i read that right? how long does he cry for after you put him down awake? when i was trying to wean LO off his last night feeding, there were a few times that he didn't nurse to sleep (which he usually did)--his diaper was fine and otherwise he was okay, so i kinda felt like it i couldn't do much else for him. he fussed/cried for about 15-20 minutes and then fell back asleep. if he did go on longer, i'd go back in and nurse him again.</p> <p>do you think ferber checks would help? sounds like straight up CIO may not be great because he injures himself (breaks my heart).</p> <p>i'm sorry i don't have much advice, just wanted to send some hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/at-what-point-did-you-decide-to-sleep-train#post-935377 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 11:08:13 +0000 matador84 935377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wahhhhh. DS is 10.5 months old and has always had wonky sleep. He will do great for a while and then not-so-great. He is breastfeed still and I have always (and his pedi agrees) chalked his wake ups to a sort of reverse cycle where he nurses more frequently at night to make up for what he doesn't nurse during the day. He is a great daytime napper and has a solid bedtime routine and is an overall very happy baby.</p> <p>However, he wakes up nearly down to the exact minute at the same times every night! He goes down typically by 730. He wakes up at 1245, an occasional 145, usually 3, and 530. Most nights it's the 1245 and 3a wakeups. </p> <p>I have tried letting him cry at night but he gets really, really hysterical. He will scratch his head and ear and occasionally will make it bleed. Occasionally he'll have a huge poopy diaper in the middle of the night so I always go check on him at the very least. When I do get up with him, I nurse him for about 10-15 minutes until he calms down and goes back to sleep. Lately, I've been putting him down and he's been crying and then I got to bed, he cries for so long I can't sleep, and then I get back up and nurse him again.</p> <p>I am exhausted. I'm pregnant with number 2 and one of my biggest fears is that I am going to have an awful night time sleeper and a newborn on top of that and solo parenting I can't tend to both. Nursing has become more and more painful and I've been trying to wait for the pain to subside. I've read tons of posts and threads on sleep training and I just can't decide if it's for me or not...but I literally don't know what else to do. </p>