https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 11:22:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1810511 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 20:01:33 +0000 Anya 1810511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand why you might want to avoid a cluster.</p> <p>But I say take em when you can get em! :grin: I am due right around my birthday, my husband's, my SIL and my MIL and everyone has said "oh good, baby's birthday will fit right in!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1810456 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 19:36:10 +0000 FaithFertility 1810456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBananaGrabber: Whatever you chose will be best for you and your family! :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1810339 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 18:26:01 +0000 MrsBananaGrabber 1810339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all for your input and for being so nice!!! I'm surprised (and happy) to see how many people seem to enjoy a birthday "clump." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1810052 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 15:21:48 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1810052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While the chances are low that it would happen, I think it's a valid reason if it feels right to you. Our twins birthday is March 11 and my husband's is March 16. When we started talking about another baby, I absolutely wanted to avoid March. Having three birthday in a week is a lot of planning (and money, even though we don't do huge gifts), so I knew it would be less stressful for our next baby's birthday to not fall in that month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1810026 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 15:14:24 +0000 birdofafeather 1810026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my sister, SIL, various friends and family and my own birthday are all in january and i didn't think about avoiding a january due date. ended up that SIL and DD share a birthday! the more the merrier! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809899 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 14:19:21 +0000 Anagram 1809899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family has a ton of July birthday and I was kind of excited my LO was born in July, since it's such a fun month in our family. </p> <p>But I'm also not territorial about these things. I posted pics on here last month, but we had a joint B-day party for all the July Bdays (and it was LOs first Bday) and I thought it was great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809894 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 14:17:09 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1809894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's not a bad idea to try avoiding a clump. We have a clump and while we don't mind the sharing part, it can get expensive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809875 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 14:08:59 +0000 mlm2934 1809875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and LO both have July birthdays, and so do a lot of our family, so I totally get wanting to space the birthdays out. I hope to begin TTC #2 where there is a higher likelihood of hitting a month other than July, but at the same time I won't be able to bring myself to skip a month just for this reason since we did have some issues the first time around. I don't think it's silly at all if it's important to you though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809850 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 13:58:37 +0000 heffalump 1809850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family is full of November birthdays so I was excited when my LO was due in December and would have her own month. And then she came a month early, smack in the middle of family birthdays. You really just can't plan these things, but hopefully she'll have fun sharing her birthday month with family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809821 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 13:43:58 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1809821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally understand the sentiment - we have 3 nephews, me, my mom, and all three of my siblings in Jan/Feb so it is a pretty crazy time, but now that I am older, I love it because we have one big celebration for all of the adults and it is a ton of fun. We chose not to skip any time because it took so long, but we postponed starting TTC to avoid a late winter baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809656 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 12:48:23 +0000 lamariniere 1809656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't worry about it. My 2nd LO was due just 10 days before LO1's birthday, but she ended up being 3 weeks early, and therefore 10 days after my birthday! You just never know where the chips may land. Good luck whatever you decide! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809523 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 12:00:29 +0000 sunny 1809523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its fine to think about it, though we did not. All 3 of us have birthdays within 11 days of each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809516 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 11:58:06 +0000 getjazzy 1809516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are planning our TTC schedule to try and avoid our first LO's birthday but I couldn't see us going as far as trying to avoid any adults birthdays. Definitely do it though if you find it too hectic of a time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809339 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 10:58:55 +0000 Mrs.Panda 1809339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our first LO is due a couple of days before my sisters birthday and Halloween (DH'S FAVORITE holoday) and around a bunch of other people-we-know's birthday. I just wanted a baby! Every one can share :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809282 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 10:38:51 +0000 Mae 1809282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had the same exact birthday as my grandma AND my great grandma. And there were 16 birthdays total in my family in October between cousins and aunts/uncles. I love it! I thought it was really special that I shared a birthday with them. And I always liked that we did a big family birthday party every year to celebrate everyone. My cousins who had birthdays in other months rarely had family birthday parties because there was just too many we'd be doing it all the time. But we tended to do one in october bc it covered so many people :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809273 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 10:35:54 +0000 LalaLove 1809273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt the same way when I was pregnant with DD. She was due end of May and everyone in DH's fam is born in June..like EVERYONE. Plus my bf and most of my cousins, so I'm surrounded by Gemini's! Don't feel bad about taking a month off if you want, but honestly now that she's here it's not a big deal at all. Now that we're trying for #2 , we were hoping they wouldn't have the same bday month but if all works out this month, their bdays would be days apart! May will just be a really awesome month in our house filled with crazy gemini's :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809212 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 10:07:15 +0000 LalaLove 1809212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: I love that you and your daughter will share so many special milestones. Too cute! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809202 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 10:02:35 +0000 ElbieKay 1809202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had my first baby two months before my 37th birthday. If I have a second, I will probably be 39 by the time s/he is born. So, I personally would not bother trying to time things too carefully because I can't "afford" to skip a month.</p> <p>If I was ten years younger then sure why not exercise a preference? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809197 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 09:59:44 +0000 Bluemasonjar 1809197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is fine to skip a month to avoid birthdays, especially since you are just starting to TTC. We are planning to finally start TTC next month (even though I wanted a spring baby) but if we aren't successful we will skip Jan/Feb to avoid the holidays. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809189 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 09:56:25 +0000 LuLu Mom 1809189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't worry about that, it's a blessing regardless of what time a year LO would be born! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809120 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 09:39:31 +0000 snowjewelz 1809120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's totally normal to think about it and take it into consideration! However that would not stop me from TTC just b/c you never know how long it may take. </p> <p>Right now my LO is due the same month where it's also mine, my sister's and my dad's bday! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809010 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 09:04:02 +0000 MrsRoo 1809010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's a silly reason if it's important to you not to have a lot of close birthdays.</p> <p>I will say that as someone who was born the day after my moms birthday, with a cousin who shares my moms birthday, sister birthday a week later, I LOVE my familys birthday season. We all have a lot of fun calling each other and wishing happy birthdays, and I felt really special as a kid having a birthday close to everyone. So it can definitely go both ways :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809006 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 09:02:40 +0000 regberadaisy 1809006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: My oldest was born a week before I turned 30! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1809003 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 09:01:41 +0000 PinkElephant 1809003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's really whatever sounds good to you.</p> <p>My eldest daughter and I share a birthday! Last year we turned 1 and 30 together, and we will turn 21 and 50 in the same day. I love it and am happy to give the main focus of the day to her on years that aren't "big ones". My husband, however, does NOT share my sentiments when it comes to his birthday - he'd prefer to keep his birthday month to himself, and that's fine, too! </p> <p>I think a bigger "clump" could be frustrating though. My two sisters, brother in law, two nieces, father, father in law, mother in law, grandfather in law, grandmother in law, daughter, and myself all have birthdays in June July and August (plus a bunch iof anniversaries in there as well). It leads to a super busy and expensive summer, so if we go for baby #3 I might try to plan for a fall/winter kiddo.....if the baby fever isn't too intense and I can stand to wait :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1808891 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 08:23:23 +0000 Alivoo01 1808891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you don't mind giving up a month of TTC, then go for it!</p> <p>I've thought about this also as I don't really want #2's birthday to be the same month as #1, if possible, but we'll see! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1808739 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 07:31:43 +0000 regberadaisy 1808739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Almost everyone in my family has a birthday in November and December. I thought about avoiding it but it was taking us so long wasn't willing to give up a month. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1808735 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 07:29:17 +0000 Cole 1808735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's silly at all, we thought about avoiding a December baby because of a huge clump of birthdays and because we always travel to see family that time of year and I felt sort of mean jamming a kids birthday in with that mess. That being said, I doubt I would have when the time came (turns out we are due in October instead) just because I wanted a baby so badly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1808663 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 06:44:10 +0000 Synchronicity 1808663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've discussed doing the same thing - skipping TTC in December to avoid a September birthday. I think it's easy for us to talk about now, but I doubt I'd actually be able to do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1808657 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 06:41:33 +0000 knittylady 1808657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I second every thing you said here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/avoiding-birthday-clump-while-ttc#post-1808651 Mon, 11 Aug 2014 06:39:19 +0000 swedishfish 1808651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whatever you decide to do is what's right for your family. I can completely understand wanting to avoid a whole mess of birthdays but I'd probably be too anxious TTC to actually wait. Good luck! :goodluck: </p>