https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 14:36:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2332863 Sun, 25 Oct 2015 08:47:15 +0000 Mrsbells 2332863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@californiadreams: @Beth24: Thanks for all your input. It really helps to hear other peoples experiences. It puts things into more perspective :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2332714 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 21:51:02 +0000 Beth24 2332714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got pregnant about 6 months after starting a new job. My due date was also during our busy season and I was so scared to tell my boss and coworkers. Everyone was happy for me and I was able to come to work with slightly reduced hours once DD was born. I've built a great relationship with my boss/coworkers so they're really understanding if I rush in late after a crazy morning or need to take time off for ped appointments. Would be more stressful if I was the new person and doing either of those things :) And add in pumping, that would be harder as a brand new employee I think..but maybe that's just because I hated pumping! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2332704 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 21:16:57 +0000 californiadreams 2332704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rocker2014: that was sort of my experience. I saw a posting for my dream job go up a week after my BFP so i knew i had to apply anyway. And the timing worked out that i started 7 months pregnant.....i was hoping to start sooner so i had more time to work before taking time off, but they were really slow on the whole process. I was lucky to work exactly 13 weeks though and qualify for all the maternity benefits the job had to offer. It was kind of crazy (in a good way) how it all worked out. Just very stressful at the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2332702 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 21:13:32 +0000 californiadreams 2332702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: no problem. And let me emphasize that i did not plan either of my pregnancies to coincide with starting the same job, But they did. And I was very stressed out both times with the timing and having to tell my job. But in the end, it's all good and life goes on. That's been my experience anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2332701 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 21:13:02 +0000 Rocker2014 2332701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dream job came up three weeks after my BFP. Because of the nature of the hiring process I knew it was likely that my start date would end up being around my due date. I ended up getting my offer letter for the new job 10 into my maternity leave, and started after 12 weeks. It was really hard, but as @kiddosc: and @Greentea: said, it was good to get all the change over with at once and just settle into a new routine, without having to deal with pregnancy sickness at a new job. </p> <p>It was a particularly good choice for me because I used to basically be a workaholic with terrible work life balance. I was able to start my new job with new habits that worked for my new life with LO. Plus,my new co-workers are mostly all parents and understood the need for me to occasionally flex my schedule for appointments, etc . </p> <p>The thing that really made the change all at once doable was that DH is really involved and has been at the same job for more than 10 years and had lots of flexibly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2332696 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 20:44:51 +0000 Mrsbells 2332696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@californiadreams: thanks for that. I really appreciate hearing your experience and I agree that TTC can't always be on a fixed timetable :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2332695 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 20:41:26 +0000 californiadreams 2332695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: as for what you said about it being awkward to be pregnant before 2 years on the job...that is ideal, but life doesn't always work that way. I started a job at 7 months pregnant, worked for 3 months then took a year long mat leave (and got all my benefits from the job while off). Then i went back to same job and quit after 9 months (crazy manager). Said manager got fired and i wasn't liking the new job i had taken, so i went back to previous job and immediately got pregnant....so i will be working 8.5 months before i am off again for a year. And i hope to extend my leave if possible and go back part time. None of it is how i would have imagined doing things, but my job is protected and i am within my rights so no one can say anything. And i know in the long run once my kids are older and i really establish myself at the job, i will work there for years to come and this on again/off again start will be history.</p> <p>So i would do whatever works for you and your family in terms of when you are ready for a baby and not plan it around the job. Getting pregnant exactly when you want doesn't always go according to plan anyway, so if you are ready to TTC, i would go for it. And if there is a job opportunity for you at the same time, i would also go for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2332687 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 20:29:22 +0000 Mrsbells 2332687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. D: @Greentea: you both make good points!! Looks like DH and I have some deciding to do! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2332668 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 19:49:45 +0000 Greentea 2332668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: I would way rather have the baby first, for a lot of reasons- then you already have the baby and can settle in to your new job and new life, you don't have to deal with pregnancy at a new job, morning sickness, being off for leave, adjusting to baby- hopefully you can do that first, that's what I'd choose! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2332651 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 19:25:37 +0000 Mrs. D 2332651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we had a deal, I had to find a job after we moved before we started trying. I started this job September 8th, and we start baby dancing this week! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2330638 Thu, 22 Oct 2015 16:09:27 +0000 Mrsbells 2330638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone, you all make a really good points. I can see from the votes that more people are leaning towards starting the job first... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2330350 Thu, 22 Oct 2015 12:37:21 +0000 kiddosc 2330350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted to have the baby before starting the new job. New routines really stress me out, and I'd rather shorten the period of new-ness and get it all over with at once. I understand the other point of view too, just not what I would prefer personally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2330288 Thu, 22 Oct 2015 11:52:00 +0000 KT326 2330288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just started a new job in May and we are going to hopefully start our first treatment for #2 in January. So a little bit longer than a few months after starting but I wanted to get settled first and I finally feel like I'm at a good point. And I'm a spring '12 mama too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2330286 Thu, 22 Oct 2015 11:48:43 +0000 Mrs D 2330286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started a new job in April, got pregnant in June. I was very open with my boss (who is a woman) that we planned to have another kid. She has been supportive from day 1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2330278 Thu, 22 Oct 2015 11:38:42 +0000 catomd00 2330278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely would wait! Then you won't feel so guilty about taking time to pump, sick days for baby, etc. I always hate needing to take time off within the first 6 months or so of a new job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2330191 Thu, 22 Oct 2015 10:36:42 +0000 blackbird 2330191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually was offered a job while on leave and decided not to take it. Just felt like a lot of unknowns and i had heard too many negatives about that boss. I am interviewing next week for my old engineering job, part time. Worked out for the best!</p> <p>that being said, I would be ok if it had been the right job. I just don't think it was for me. That being said, i'm at the same company so that colors my view. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2330165 Thu, 22 Oct 2015 10:14:32 +0000 dagret 2330165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was 13 wks pregnant with #2 on my first day at my new job. The timing wasn't ideal, but if you're the right candidate and a good fit an employer will make it work (it will also tell you a lot about what it will be like to be a working mom there.) Though ideally i would have been there at least 12 months to qualify for FMLA/accure leave time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2329938 Thu, 22 Oct 2015 08:18:32 +0000 Mrsbells 2329938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For all those that voted to have the baby before starting the new job, can you share your reasons? DH is really in favor of baby before new job </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2329409 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 19:05:37 +0000 Mrsbells 2329409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ms.line: Thanks for sharing your experience! the more I hear of these, the better it makes me feel</p> <p>@regberadaisy: Hi how are you! I miss reading your posts :) Yeah I know that newbie feeling. I think once it start I will just take the plunge and do it before the 6month mark </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2329371 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 18:43:36 +0000 regberadaisy 2329371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: hi!!!!! Exciting! I would wait until after starting a new job too. I've been at a new job for 3 months and it still feels too soon to start TTC for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2329363 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 18:33:36 +0000 ms.line 2329363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: I took my current job specifically for the health/maternity benefits, and waited 3 months after starting to TTC. It took me 6 months to get pregnant, so I'll be going on maternity leave at my 18 month mark. I've had plenty of time to establish myself at my job, and no one seems to think my pregnancy was too fast/unexpected. I'm looking forward to being able to "get up to speed" for a while after returning to work - I feel like the stakes would be a lot higher if I were just starting a job with a new baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2329358 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 18:32:24 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2329358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: oh and yes on the exciting/nerve-wracking.<br /> I thought I wanted only one bio child, and then DH and I want to adopt a few years down the road... but I have baby fever something fierce! So definitely exciting! But nerve-wracking to not have expected to feel this way haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2329356 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 18:30:40 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2329356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: I will likely stay within the same company, so that helps (I'm in healthcare, getting my RN soon and hoping to score a nursing job in the same company), but I'm very part time right now because of school. I like the point mamabolt made about being established in a job before the whole pregnancy/baby thing. </p> <p>Also, it's nice to see another spring '12 mama who has also waited a "long" time between the first and second child! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2329353 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 18:28:33 +0000 Mrsbells 2329353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: yeah I think most jobs have that year requirement! The thought of baby #2 is exciting but nerve-wracking too </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2329348 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 18:26:39 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2329348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Start TTC after a new job!</p> <p>DH and I have been talking about the possibility of a second baby (!!!!!) and if we did, it would be within the first 3-9 months of a new job for me (if all goes well). I'm nervous! But I would need at least 1 year at full time for benefits and accruing PTO (and FMLA eligibility) for leave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2329347 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 18:25:49 +0000 Mrsbells 2329347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamabolt: Thanks! the more I think about it, I see how it makes more sense that way </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2329345 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 18:22:46 +0000 mamabolt 2329345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>TTC after a few months for sure! It was so nice being established at my job when I came back after maternity leave and was a zombie trying to figure out pumping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2329338 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 18:14:14 +0000 Mrsbells 2329338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@stratosphere: OK thanks for sharing your experience :) That really helps me put some perspective on things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2329330 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 18:05:50 +0000 stratosphere 2329330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started a new job while 7 months pregnant, had the baby early at 8 months, and then went back to work when baby was 3 months. It. sucked. It was so stressful having a brand new baby and what was essentially a brand new job.</p> <p>Having a newborn is stressful enough. Mix that with the inevitable stresses of a new job and proving yourself and it can be really toxic. I think you really hit your stride at a new job at the one year mark. If you start TTC 4-6 months in, that will mean you'll be at the job over a year before going out for maternity leave, which is great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-2-amp-new-job#post-2329325 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 18:02:50 +0000 Mrsbells 2329325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: :grin: True! </p>