https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 15:18:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2889986 Wed, 03 Jul 2019 19:02:35 +0000 pachamama 2889986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paigeface: how are you feeling? 💜 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887493 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 14:23:56 +0000 paigeface 2887493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: Ok that is so informative! Thank you! I am glad I am starting to realize it is very normal to go through this. You are absolutely right, it's a BIG deal and needs to be addressed more. My mom really pushed me to call my doctor today and I am glad she did because I really want to start feeling like myself again soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887462 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 12:43:26 +0000 pachamama 2887462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paigeface: OK, I'm glad work isn't like some stressful 9-6 bullshit and that you can bring your babe :-) and yes, definitely good to get out of the house and have some purpose!<br /> Now, please please do not feel embarrassed talking to your doctor! From all the moms I talk to (and I talk to A LOT Of mom b/c I'm super open and annoyingly honest), it seems like EVERYONE has a touch of PPD. Some worse than others. For some, it is delayed (like mine was, kicked in about 6 weeks). It's so, so, normal and honestly, biologically speaking, it's part of the process...<br /> I once read the hormonal disruption (bc it is a MASSIVE) disruption) is equivalent to what teens go through- and there's so much public awareness of teens and how hard it is for them to adjust to their new body and minds, etc etc And moms go through that and society is just like oh NBD, you have a baby! It's astonishing how different you are on a biological and even chemical level- this one researcher looks at MRIs and has found the post-partum brain undergoes some incredible changes, mainly ones that make us more anxious/ worried/paranoid, with the very important purpose of being more vigilant caretakers of our babies. It's nuts!!<br /> Can you tell I am fascinated by postpartum issues? It's a big fucking deal and people underestimate it.<br /> I am here if you ever want to talk. I have been there twice and can tell you it's so normal and it absolutely gets better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887443 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 11:24:03 +0000 Autumnmama79 2887443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paigeface: good job mama!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887440 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 11:03:18 +0000 paigeface 2887440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@annem1990: THANK YOU! :heart: :heart: :heart: Booked my appointment for Wednesday. Hoping it helps! :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887438 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 11:02:29 +0000 paigeface 2887438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Autumnmama79: Thanks mama! Hope you find the courage too. I booked an appointment Wednesday so I am hoping it helps! My Dr. had no availability but fit me in anyway after hearing my symptoms :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887436 Mon, 10 Jun 2019 11:00:32 +0000 paigeface 2887436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: Thank you so much for your post! I need a hug right now! I think you put it perfectly about feeling hijacked because that's how I am feeling. I don't feel like myself at all and its the worst feeling. I scheduled an appointment with my OBGYN for Wednesday so I am hoping it will help. He is a really kind and easy going Dr. Super easy to talk to so even though I am a bit embarrassed talking about it I think it will be helpful. I wish I could go part-time but unfortunately not in the best financial situation to do so. The only saving grace is that it's my families run small business so it's more of a relaxed environment for me. I have my own office where I bring DD so that helps a bit. Sitting at home was making the depression worse anyway! I definitely need to take better care of myself though and make sure I am eating and drinking properly because sometimes I will totally forget especially between a newborn and a toddler. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887200 Fri, 07 Jun 2019 13:20:52 +0000 pachamama 2887200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paigeface: omg girl. I want to hug you. I have BEEN THERE. and I remember both times 3 weeks being BAD- adrenaline is finally not keeping you alive, sleeping is a shitshow, and the hormones are raging. I don't have great advice for you because unfortunately these feelings can linger around for a while. But I absolutely know it gets better! I might be a few weeks it might be a few months. But you need to take care of yourself! What you're feeling is absolutely normal I only said how I felt with PPD was like being hijacked-- I was not myself at all. Resentful of everything couldn't enjoy anything, he did being home all day. It was terrible.</p> <p>I didn't find my OB to helpful at all but maybe they can point you to a good psychiatrist. I love my therapist and she has helped me immensely.</p> <p>I can't believe you're back to work. Is there any way at all you can go part time???? That's inhumane to expect you to work. Please take some time to let yourself heal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887196 Fri, 07 Jun 2019 13:09:35 +0000 Autumnmama79 2887196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paigeface: Aw, I feel those kind of nerves at the dr too. My last couple pre-natal appointments I've been wanting to bring some stuff up with my OB but haven't had the courage :bummed: </p> <p>I hope you can be more brave than I! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887193 Fri, 07 Jun 2019 12:53:48 +0000 annem1990 2887193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don’t think anyone can diagnose PPD vs baby blues over the internet, but speaking as a woman who has had significant depression/anxiety in the past, you should schedule an appointment with a psychiatrist ASAP. They often have long wait times and it’d be better to just get it on the calendar if you do need it. In the meantime speak to your OB and a therapist. If you do decide to go the med route, an OB will typically only know about and prescribe a couple of anti-depressants. A psychiatrist knows the plethora of anti depressants and can probably better tailor a plan for you. My “saving grace” anti depressant is rarely prescribed anymore but was the perfect fit for me and my symptoms (loss of appetite and lack of sleep). I was also on a couple of SSRI’s until I found one that didn’t cause side effects. </p> <p>Don't let fear stop you from trying meds (if the Dr thinks that’s a good option). It may take some time but I’m finding the right combo was life changing for myself as well as friends who’ve dealt with mental illness. After only a few weeks I actually felt like MYSELF which I hadn’t felt in years. It was amazing. I’ve been off the SSRI for over a year and feel great too. You don’t need to stay on it forever but it might be the thing you need to get through a dark period. And above all else - YOU ARE NOT ALONE ❤️❤️❤️❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887191 Fri, 07 Jun 2019 12:47:27 +0000 paigeface 2887191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KT326: She is super kind and sweet and I have a very easy time talking to her. She was great to talk to when I made the choice to go all formula and was feeling guilty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887190 Fri, 07 Jun 2019 12:38:19 +0000 KT326 2887190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paigeface: Would it be easier to talk to your pediatrician? My ped was way more proactive with how I was doing than my OB was. She has a ton of resources for moms with PPD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887189 Fri, 07 Jun 2019 12:36:08 +0000 paigeface 2887189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Autumnmama79: Very nervous. I almost feel embarrassed even though I know I shouldn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887184 Fri, 07 Jun 2019 12:24:52 +0000 Autumnmama79 2887184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@paigeface: Having support (hands on help) does make a huge difference. I would say that having an appointment with your Dr certainly couldn't hurt. Sometimes its hard to talk about that stuff with Dr's, are your nervous about that? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887182 Fri, 07 Jun 2019 12:20:16 +0000 paigeface 2887182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Autumnmama79: Unfortunately the first time around I didn't realize I had PPD so I let it just work itself out for months. I had a lot of help at that time as we lived in my parents guest house next door so that may have helped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887178 Fri, 07 Jun 2019 12:06:06 +0000 Autumnmama79 2887178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just want to say I'm sorry. It sounds like there are multiple hard things happening at once (new baby, work unhappiness for DH, trying to adjust toddler, your own work, etc, etc, etc).</p> <p>I think that since you're able to identify whats happening as possible PPD then an appt with OB is probably a good idea. How was your PPD handled the first time around? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-blues-or-ppd#post-2887176 Fri, 07 Jun 2019 11:58:55 +0000 paigeface 2887176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have struggled to write this post for a little over a week now because I couldn't tell if it was just the baby blues or if it was PPD (I have had PPD in the past with my first so I knew there was a chance I would get it again, especially with another C-section.) I also wanted to give myself a little more time before automatically assuming it was PPD since we have a lot of stress already in our lives. </p> <p>I had DD 25 days ago I am on week 3 without the baby blues feelings going away. I am extremely weepy most of the time and feel like a failure when something doesn’t go right and right now in our lives a lot of things are not going right. DH is not happy at his job with a lot of stress and I am back at work already with DD in my private office. It's a small business and very short staffed. I only took 3 weeks off which I now feel like was not enough. I don’t get any night help with the new baby and that’s ok except for I am getting very little sleep and I don’t think I’ve been taking care of myself very well and often times having to skip meals. My mom did stay with us for 3 weeks and continually watches our toddler during the week since he is not in school yet. On top of those things, our toddler is really acting out which is to be expected with the new baby since his whole world has been turned upside down but at times he can be such a nightmare. After him misbehaving all day yesterday I finally snapped and yelled at him loudly which resulted in both of us crying and me again feeling like a bad mom. Sigh. I feel like I am not even living life right now and living in a fog of my former self. I am thinking a call to my OBGYN would be helpful? Any advice or even similar situations? </p>