https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 23:49:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464789 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 19:00:30 +0000 Glitter 1464789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think people are generally too intolerant of infants/children. If you want a child-free vacation, ensure you have child-free accommodation. The smartest move in this already unfortunate situation would have been to seek an alternative from hotel staff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464770 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 18:47:22 +0000 pinkb 1464770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its totally unacceptable to write a letter to a guest in the next room. Contact the front desk or manager most places have people on staff to handle issues 24 hours. The letter does nothing to solve the problem. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464755 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 18:37:40 +0000 .twist. 1464755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: LOL. I agree. "OH, you're annoyed with us?? Would have never guessed since I'm totally having a BLAST over here with this fussy, screamy, sad baby". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464731 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 18:22:11 +0000 pinkcupcake 1464731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both letters are annoying. I find the SIL's letter annoying for the same reasons that @HabesBabe: listed. </p> <p>And the passive-aggressive letter writer sucks. She should have talked to the front desk and asked for a different room after the first night. And we're those parents that take our kid with us everywhere (unless it's clearly labeled as kid-free, in which case then we don't go). Yeah, my baby can't ski but I'm not having someone else watch her. She goes everywhere with me. </p> <p>Just annoying all around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464715 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 18:14:31 +0000 jedeve 1464715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Yeah I agree. Skiing to me is super family friendly. And I don't like the idea of hiding kids away. How will they learn to interact with the world?</p> <p>I definitely feel like it sucks worse to be in that room than beside it! I had a terrible cough once when I came home for winter vacation. My sister kept complaining I kept her up all night. Yeah, and I was getting great sleep!</p> <p>REALLY, it probably sucked most to be the baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464687 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 17:54:22 +0000 Mae 1464687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: lol I agree. the whole "well he's a BRAIN SURGEON" and she "cares enough to give up being a lawyer to stay at home" thing was super obnoxious. Especially bc I am a lawyer and I know it sucks-- giving that up was no great sacrifice ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464670 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 17:48:42 +0000 HabesBabe 1464670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that the note writer had a right to be annoyed, the parents had a right to bring their baby, and that the letter shouldn't have been written-- I would have called the front desk myself, TBH, for a room move, or if that wasn't possible, for some sort of compensation (sounds ridiculous, but I worked in hotels for 5+ years and we would comp things beyond our control sometimes).</p> <p>I think the rebuttal by HuffPoParents was just as annoying as the letter itself-- who cares that the mom has a law degree and the dad is a surgeon? In this case, all that matters is that there was a crying baby and (hopefully) caregivers who were trying to calm the baby down. Am I supposed to feel worse for them that they are educated and rich? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464653 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 17:43:25 +0000 luckypenny 1464653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think they had any "right" to write that note. Book a "kid-free" resort if its that important to you. Wether my kid sleeps through the night or not, I'm not going to not go on vacation to accommodate some stranger. </p> <p>That being said, DH &amp; I booked a resort vacation in Palm Springs at a very nice hotel for his birthday, expecting a nice relaxing long weekend away from DD. However, there were three weddings going on and that meant loud drunk people wandering the halls all night long. I was annoyed but, I didn't write any notes. I put on some white noise and eventually fell asleep. Thats what happens when you stay at a hotel unless it specifies "relaxing, adults only, spa retreat, etc..." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464601 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 17:25:10 +0000 Foodnerd81 1464601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: agree- skiing IS a family friendly vacation. No babies can't ski but toddlers do and they have fits too. And babies will never get used to new things if their parents are afraid to bring them anywhere! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464594 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 17:22:36 +0000 Foodnerd81 1464594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: totally agree. I'd have been annoyed but come on. It's a baby. I've had worse neighbors (drunk girls, ppl who leave their tv blasting and go out or pass out) who can control their volume. It's why I have a white noise app on my phone. And I just got back from a weekend ski trip with friends where C did have a brief screaming fit over teething. (In a cabin so luckily we only disturbed our friends, who were as loud as her anyway). </p> <p>It sucks all around, and both the letter writer and blogger came off pretty jerky. But I don't think the parents were wrong to bring their baby to a ski resort. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464581 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 17:15:20 +0000 Freckles 1464581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you want to be guaranteed a kid-free weekend, go to a kid-only resort/hotel. </p> <p>I thought the woman who left the note was an asshole. If it's annoying you, ask the hotel if you could be moved to another room or something. Like other posters have mentioned, the baby can't help it and if the parent is doing whatever they can, then show some compassion, especially if you are a parent.</p> <p>Just because a kid doesn't ski doesn't mean you can't bring them to a resort. Sorry, that letter made me really ragey. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464574 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 17:12:25 +0000 mrs. 64 1464574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everyone gets upset when their sleep is interrupted, but I don't think the note was necessary. If anything perhaps they could have talked to the front desk, especially if they were staying several nights so they could move rooms if possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464568 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 17:10:52 +0000 birdofafeather 1464568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>the note writer has a right to be annoyed, but that is no excuse for a rude note and the parents have EVERY right to bring their kid. i don't think that means you have to stay in a cabin, exile yourself. i bring earplugs on trips because i am a light sleeper. i think it's one thing when people are partying at all hours of the night, in which case, i would definitely call the front desk and complain. it's another in which a baby is crying.</p> <p>i see both sides, but i don't see writing a note about it shaming the parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464566 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 17:10:08 +0000 Torchwood 1464566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: I agree that no-kid hotels are good, as long as there are plenty of kid friendly options nearby too! We're going on my husband's annual company trip next week, and I really like that his company has started booking two hotels, one for families with kids and one without. This time and the last, they booked a disney resort for the families, so it definitely wasn't like they got anything less expensive, and it let those of us without kids not have to worry about them running around and being loud or whatever. And the families probably appreciate it because his company is full of heavy drinkers, mostly the non-parents, so it keeps them away from all the drunks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464555 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 17:05:38 +0000 pui 1464555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: I've been to lots of hotels that are childfree or have separate floors/sections for children. It's definitely nice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464540 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 17:02:16 +0000 Mae 1464540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: Good point about hotels not having rules. I actually didn't realize that hotels (other than like, beach resorts sometimes) ever were kid-free until I heard that the hotel my cousin blocked for her wedding this summer doesn't allow kids. At first I was sort of surprised but then I realized it is sort of a great idea. You get to maintain the level of atmosphere you want for your guests without any bad situations like this! And there are other local hotels that do allow kids that ppl can stay at if they have them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464534 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 16:59:55 +0000 Mae 1464534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: I don't! I've never worn earplugs in my life. And also never needed them actually. For as many hotels as I've stayed in, things like elevator or ice machine or whatever never bug me, that is sort of like white noise IMO. I've had the loud random couple having sex, but that never seems to last more than 10 min. Never been next to a screaming kid, lucky for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464529 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 16:58:44 +0000 pui 1464529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd probably complain to the hotel. I'd just request to be moved to another room for the next night.</p> <p>DH and I just got back from a weekend vacation to Niagara Falls. The second night we were drawing a bath in our room at around 10pm when the people in the room next to us started screaming and singing at the top of their lungs. We called the lobby and shortly after the noise was gone. </p> <p>Obviously, the same can't be done with a baby, but I still think being upset about noise is reasonable (even if you are not sleeping. Makes the stay in your nice room much less nice if you're having to hear the obnoxious people next door). I would have been more understanding if it was a baby, but would I have been less annoyed? No... still would have bothered us and would have put a damper on our romantic trip.</p> <p>I do think there are some places babies/young kids do not belong in, like fancy $100 a plate restaurants, but if the establishment doesn't have any rules about kids, it's not the parents' fault kids are there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464518 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 16:54:59 +0000 jedeve 1464518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Who doesn't pack ear plugs at a hotel? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464513 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 16:51:27 +0000 LBee 1464513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a hard line... I think the note writer has the right to be annoyed, but did not express it in a way that was very nice (or proactive... leaving a note at the end of your trip? why didn't you deal with it on night 1?). I've been called by the hotel front desk when I was in college on spring break to be informed that our room was being too loud - I think this is much easier to stomach. To be honest, I bet the parents were bracing themselves waiting for the hotel to call and when they didn't, thought that maybe the walls were well insulated. </p> <p>I do think that upon reading the explanation, I understand why the child was there - if my husband was going to a conference to a nice locale, I would definitely try to go. It's just an all around crappy situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464495 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 16:45:50 +0000 Pepper 1464495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They have a right to be annoyed. It IS annoying to hear a baby cry all night, I get it! But, that's life. If someone in the adjoining room is keeping you up, you call downstairs to the front desk and ask to switch rooms. It seems pointless to spend two nights stewing about the noise, then writing an anonymous passive aggressive note when you're checking out. Unless of course, the hotel was booked solid and they couldn't accommodate a room change. But in that case, that's a hotel issue. Thin walls and overbooked. </p> <p>I'd rather hear a baby crying than listen to drunk people rage, couples arguing loudly, or doors opening and slamming shut all night (all things I've heard in various hotel stays). At least the baby can't help it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464494 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 16:45:36 +0000 blackbird 1464494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have been upset, but I don't do passive aggressive notes. I would certainly have not listened to it a second night. And I may have brought those parents some tylenol, lol. </p> <p>This whole situation is nasty. The note was rude and passive aggressive, but the response is basically, "i feel sorry for you and your kids. You're a piece of shit parent for lacking any consideration, meanwhile my BIL is an awesome brain surgeon. What do YOU do?" </p> <p>Everyone was being an asshole, IMO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464489 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 16:42:16 +0000 Grace 1464489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have been annoyed, but sometimes you get the crappy room in the hotel. If it wasn't the baby, it could have been the elevator or the laundry room or the bar. I would have just called the front desk to change rooms and been irritated at my dumb luck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464465 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 16:32:11 +0000 loveisstrange 1464465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have been super pissed... but never have written that note. I would have called the hotel desk, to be honest.</p> <p>I have to say, I probably would have found a way to leave the kid at home though. For my own enjoyment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464438 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 16:20:57 +0000 Torchwood 1464438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say the note writer had a right to be annoyed. But there's a HUGE gap between being annoyed, and even complaining to friends later, and being a huge a** like this person. Especially if they were actually a parent as well! There is no justification for a note like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464436 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 16:20:50 +0000 hilsy85 1464436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that yes, the note writer had the right to be super annoyed--I'm sure the parents were not happy either! That being said, that is life, when you stay somewhere where you are sharing walls with other people, whether that's a hotel, a condo, etc. I live in an apartment building and I have done CIO with my LO--I'm sure my neighbors heard him but that's what you get when you live in close proximity to others. </p> <p>That being said, I'm sure these parents were not intentionally letting their kid cry, no more than I have while on vacation. I'm very conscious that people on vacation are there to relax, and so I personally always try really hard to keep LO from crying out as much as possible. </p> <p>And I have taken him on ski vacations before! No way I was leaving my 4 month old behind, but I didn't want to miss out on skiing either! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464434 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 16:20:08 +0000 looch 1464434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't even know how to vote so it expresses my opinion, but it is basically this: when I am thinking about a family vacation, I choose destinations that cater to what we can do as a family. We only have one child, but life doesn't stop for older siblings, so babies, to me, belong everywhere.</p> <p>The conflict I have is that sometimes I want adult time, separate from me being a parent, and in those times, I would be miffed if I was in a hotel room next to a screaming child of any age. But I wouldn't write a note or confront the parents, because we've all been there, done that, with a screaming child in a silent place! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-crying-in-hotel#post-1464423 Mon, 03 Mar 2014 16:14:41 +0000 Mae 1464423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Curious on people's view of this article: <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dad-on-the-run/to-the-person-who-left-my-sister-this-judgmental-letter_b_4890969.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dad-on-the-run/to-the-person-who-left-my-sister-this-judgmental-letter_b_4890969.html</a></p> <p>What's interesting I think is that the comments on huffpo are largely supportive of the parents, whereas if you follow the link to the original blog post they are largely supportive of the original note-writer. </p> <p>Honestly I can sort of see both sides here. If I was at a ski resort (aka vacation destination where I wouldn't expect there to be much to do with a baby) as opposed to a beach resort or some hotel along the highway where people would stop while traveling-- I'd be pretty surprised by a screaming kid in the middle of the night. And considering that ski trips are pretty expensive (I think? Never been on one) I'd probably be annoyed that I'm being kept up all night because of a screaming child that wasn't mine. I'm curious if the note-writer asked the hotel to switch rooms-- which would've been my first move! </p> <p>At the same time once you hear the explanation that the parents were there for a conference (not a vacation) it makes a little more sense that the baby is there, particularly if she is normally a good sleeper. So it's hard for me to say it was irresponsible of them to take her. Although it does seem like in retrospect getting a cabin so they'd not be surrounded with people might've been the better call. </p> <p>Over all it seems like sort of a really bad no-win situation. Definitely sucks for the note-writers and they have a right to be upset, but it doesn't seem like the parents were terribly inconsiderate either, just bad luck for unexpected teething I guess. </p> <p>Thoughts? </p> <p>(Making the poll so you can vote more than one option because I don't think they are mutually exclusive) </p>