https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 20:15:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-dislikes-laying-flat-on-backbeing-put-down#post-2914704 Wed, 29 Apr 2020 11:54:59 +0000 sweet_p 2914704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Clementine12: Thank you, I’m hoping it gets easier soon. </p> <p>@Shantuck: I’m glad the Snoo is working for you overnight. I would love to hear any tips. The most we’ve gotten her to sleep in there is a 2 hour stretch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-dislikes-laying-flat-on-backbeing-put-down#post-2914684 Wed, 29 Apr 2020 03:42:31 +0000 Shantuck 2914684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also have a seven week old who will sleep for hours if held but only 20 minutes when put down. We’re using the snoo for sleep and are getting good night sleep in the snoo but the daytime napping is tough and I have two other kids at home (including a 2nd grader with elearning). He’s also not happy when put down during the day at all. I ordered a baby bjorn bouncer the other day out of desperation (still waiting on it to arrive). My first was also like this but my second was so easy in comparison. I plan to keep trying for naps in the snoo in the baby’s dark room. If that doesn’t happen, then I just baby carry for that nap and try again for the next nap. Good luck.</p> <p>ETA: If you still have your snoo, happy to share tips on what’s been working best for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-dislikes-laying-flat-on-backbeing-put-down#post-2914683 Tue, 28 Apr 2020 23:55:54 +0000 Clementine12 2914683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweet_p: my DD slept best on my chest (on her belly) for weeks. Eventually changed swaddles.to a flying squirrel type and had her in a dockatot which i think tilts babies a bit? Kept us sane. Eventually dirched the dockatot and switched to a halo swaddle (and now she's trying to roll over).</p> <p>I second the swing suggestion for naps! Good luck - baby will figure it all out soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-dislikes-laying-flat-on-backbeing-put-down#post-2914682 Tue, 28 Apr 2020 22:14:04 +0000 sweet_p 2914682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonJack: She used to nap well in the mamaroo but won’t anymore. I’ll put her down in a deep sleep and will maybe get 10 minutes before she wakes up. We’re essentially doing a form of co-sleeping now. My husband has been sleeping on the couch holding her upright and will bring her to me to feed. It’s been working okay so far but it’s not a long term solution. </p> <p>@muffinsmuffins: We also hold her upright for at least 30-45 minutes after feeding. We always lay her down once she’s already asleep. Either she will wake up within 10-20 minutes of being put down or she will be half asleep, but constantly grunting. It’s impossible for me to sleep near her with all that noise. We have her 2 month check up next week and I’ll ask about reflux. She doesn’t have any of the other symptoms but I’ll see what the doctor says. </p> <p>@mrswin: I have a feeling mine will be a stomach sleeper too once she can roll. My first one was an awful sleeper too so this just brings back a lot of bad memories of me struggling to get her to sleep as well. </p> <p>@bhbee: I thought she might have a sensitivity to something in my diet, but she’s hated being on her back from the day she was born. Even in the hospital she seemed so uncomfortable and was constantly grunting while sleeping. I wouldn’t mind holding her while she sleeps but half the time I’m having to readjust positions, pat/rock her back to sleep so it ends up being even more difficult. Like if I’m going to hold you, at least get a good 2 hour nap in?! </p> <p>@winter_wonder: I’m wondering if and when this will ever get better. I feel like I’m kind of at my breaking point because everyday just seems so overwhelming. </p> <p>Thank you for your responses, mamas. I had a really tough day today and I appreciate your advice and commiseration. Really hoping things improve soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-dislikes-laying-flat-on-backbeing-put-down#post-2914679 Tue, 28 Apr 2020 21:36:10 +0000 winter_wonder 2914679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD was like this. I slept in a recliner the first 3 months of her life. It's so hard, I'm sorry. For me, any amount of sleep was what I prioritized no matter what method I had to use. Hugs!</p> <p>She did well in her crib from about 4-9 months, but ended up co-sleeping due to lots of ear infections causing issues when she slept alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-dislikes-laying-flat-on-backbeing-put-down#post-2914677 Tue, 28 Apr 2020 18:57:48 +0000 bhbee 2914677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh she also really liked this - I was lucky to get it from my SIL - we would put her in swaddled and I think she loved how cozy it was. It is daytime only obviously and you have to watch other kids around it but it helped us for sure. Gives a really snug feel plus has the incline. </p> <p>[attach=4253/20/q9ivwc.337x600.E9056AD6-90A7-4473-B2AE-918A56C64516.png] </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-dislikes-laying-flat-on-backbeing-put-down#post-2914676 Tue, 28 Apr 2020 18:54:09 +0000 bhbee 2914676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn’t worry too much about the habits yet - more as you get past 3 months. But my third was a big spitter-upper and also like this (in retrospect it was probably her milk/egg allergy as she was exposed through nursing, but we found that out much later). She realllllllly wanted to sleep next to me so we did carrier, co-sleeping at least part of every night, etc. One thing she really liked was after nursing she loved to sleep next to my leg. Like I could sit up in bed and work on something on the laptop and she would cuddle in next to me on her side. Maybe a way to get her to sleep while you help your other child? Just throwing out ideas! It’s so stressful when you never get a physical break. Hang in there and definitely don’t be afraid to ask about reflux meds. We never did because she was ok if we held her all the time, we figured meds were for kids who screamed endlessly no matter what. And I kind of regret that. Maybe it wouldn’t have helped given the allergy issue but we should have tried at least! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-dislikes-laying-flat-on-backbeing-put-down#post-2914675 Tue, 28 Apr 2020 18:32:15 +0000 mrswin 2914675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweet_p: I so sorry. I know how tough this is.. my DD was exactly like this. She had silent reflux and was miserable and couldn’t be put down. I had major PPD and anxiety and this really pushed my mental state.<br /> Not a conventional choice and something that you have to decide but during the day I would put her to sleep in the bassinet on her stomach. I watched her like a hawk but at least I wasn’t having to hold her. The rest of the time I wore her in a carrier because being upright was the only way she would be calm and not screaming. At night I held her upright for 30 minutes after I nursed her and we used a wedge in her bassinet at the suggestion of her doctor. She never took to a swing or other baby holder so I invested in a good quality carrier and tried to make peace with the fact that she wasn’t getting put down. We had her on reflux meds which helped some too.<br /> I can honestly say that as soon as she could sit up that was her preference during the day and at night once she started rolling over on her on she was a 100% stomach sleeper </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-dislikes-laying-flat-on-backbeing-put-down#post-2914674 Tue, 28 Apr 2020 18:04:34 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2914674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds super hard and I’m sorry you’re going through this on top of everything else going on. My first thought was medication for reflux as my oldest had to be on Zantac or whatever it is and it made a big difference. Maybe check with your doc and see if they can do a virtual consult? </p> <p>We used the carrier a lot with him and held him upright for 30 mins before putting him in his crib so he wouldn’t spit up. Will your babe be able to be put down at all if they are already sleeping? We would feed and then put him up on our shoulder for 30 and he would fall asleep.</p> <p>With my Second he was so all over with feeding and sleep that we just ripped the band aid off and did no swaddle and into his crib at like 5 weeks old. We figured might as well suffer and get it done since we weren’t sleeping anyway and he did settle better and figured it out quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-dislikes-laying-flat-on-backbeing-put-down#post-2914673 Tue, 28 Apr 2020 18:04:09 +0000 LemonJack 2914673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m so sorry. My first was like this, and it was so hard. At night we ended up cosleeping. She would sleep longer stretches if she was snuggled up against me. I was adamantly opposed to cosleeping before she came along, but some babies just will not sleep well any other way. I moved my pillow behind me and kept a thin blanket at waist level. If you go that route, look up the safe 7 for sleeping.</p> <p>As for the day, does she sleep in a swing at all? That was our saving grace with our first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-dislikes-laying-flat-on-backbeing-put-down#post-2914668 Tue, 28 Apr 2020 16:19:25 +0000 sweet_p 2914668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My baby is 7 weeks old and has always disliked laying flat on her back. We’ve tried the Halo Bassinest, a co-sleeper in our bed and I even rented the Snoo for a month out of desperation. Nothing has worked. She tends to spit up laying on her back so we elevate everything we’ve tried but she still seems so uncomfortable in that position. She will grunt loudly and cry after awhile, so it’s harder on us and no one ends up sleeping. </p> <p>We resorted to holding her for naps and overnight because we were so sleep deprived. It’s not a long term solution but I’m not sure what else to do at this point. It’s the only way any of us can sleep and I would rather have her nap in my arms than not sleep and be fussy from being overtired. I have another child that needs help with remote learning and I always feel like I can never get anything done because I’m either holding a sleeping baby or trying to get her to sleep. Luckily my husband is working from home and here to help, but one of us is always stuck holding her. </p> <p>I feel like I’m developing anxiety over this because I can’t even get a small break while she’s sleeping because most of the time I’m in an uncomfortable position on the sofa holding her while she sleeps. In between laundry, cooking, cleaning and homeschooling the first one, I’m exhausted. We do wear her in a carrier but ideally I’d really like to just be able to put her down. I know you can’t spoil a newborn but I feel like she’s definitely getting used to being held all of the time and I’m worried we’re setting up poor sleeping habits. </p> <p>Tips? Advice from anyone in the same situation? Thanks for reading. </p>