https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 02:31:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2278820 Tue, 01 Sep 2015 09:19:24 +0000 Mrs. Blush 2278820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi Bees,</p> <p>Just wanted to let you all know how much your advice and experiences meant to me! For the the first time in a while I felt so much better! Over the past two weeks my fiance and I took a romantic B&amp;B weekend trip and worked on a lot of fun wedding stuff -I'm doing well :)</p> <p>Thanks! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267612 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 21:20:14 +0000 gingerbebe 2267612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blush: We decided to TTC because we were 30 and I had just taken the Bar Exam so that was out of the way. I guess we just felt like it was the right time to start trying. (DH and I had been friends for about 4 years before we even started dating so I guess we were on quicker about TTC). But I never really felt like there was this time before TTC and after TTC. It was more like pre-baby and post-baby. </p> <p>There was a point where we weren't sure if we could have a baby and I remember DH telling me "You know, even if we never had a kid, I'd still be perfectly happy. I love our life now - I don't feel like this is some lesser version." I loved that he said that and it really made me feel like we were right for each other and living a fulfilling life anyway. </p> <p>Before our son arrived we went to Hawaii twice, did several weekends in Napa Valley, and just went out on a lot of dates. There was about a year of recovery from my surgery during which we just hung out at home a lot and had a lot of homemade dates. Oyster platters and champagne on a weeknight, eating warm cookies and watching hockey games, going on long drives, etc. We just liked (and still like) hanging out with each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267533 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 19:52:23 +0000 Mrs. Peanut 2267533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blush: Welcome! I totally understand where you are coming from! I have the fever too. DH just "isn't ready" which makes it so hard! Everything else is lined up. I have no time table either! Argh! I totally wish for accidents too. :wink: </p> <p>What helps me is working out. I've started a get-my-body-ready-for-baby fitness routine. It includes just eating healthier in general, exercising (getting those abs strong to push!), and taking vitamins. Also I am trying to focus on hobbies that I won't be able to explore much when we have LOs. That helps a little, but nothing really makes it go away, unfortunately. I definitely want to set up a babymoon too!</p> <p>For your situation, since you're getting married, I would focus on the dress! You want to look awesome and not rocking a baby bump when you say your vows (or at least that's how I would feel). Plus you probably want to spend some married time together before LOs. We'll all get through it one way or another! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267428 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 17:56:42 +0000 Synchronicity 2267428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blush: Oh, I feel ya! When I was in the throes of the fever, time felt like it was passing soooo slowly. I'm going to wall you :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267292 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 15:07:43 +0000 Umbreon 2267292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know how you feel. I've been reading birth stories for over a year, I have read about pregnancy, looked into doula services in my city as well as med-free birth classes. I have a list of books to read once I do get pregnant (I didn't want to jinx it by getting to ahead of myself).... Saying I have baby fever is putting it mildly. </p> <p>To help get me through the wait, I made a list of things I wanted to finish before baby. Our main reason was because we had a lot of house projects to do. So last year, I made a list by month, listing what we would do each month in order to finish ASAP. I also have a personal list of things to finish but it's less important (scrapbooks mostly). Keeping busy helped me a lot though.</p> <p>I am now one month away from TTC. The night my husband told me we should start trying next month I barely slept from excitement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267272 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 14:47:34 +0000 Chillybear 2267272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blush: Welcome! and to answer your question we waited 2 years before TTC. I just tried to keep busy and have something to look forward to each month even if it was just a really good movie coming to theaters. It helped the time pass faster. The other thing I really enjoyed doing before TTC was renovating our home. Mostly minor stuff - Painting rooms, putting in new tile floors, etc. Once your pregnant everyone tells you "you cant do that, your pregnant" ("that" being climb ladders, put together Ikea furniture, painting, etc) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267269 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 14:45:36 +0000 Mrs. Blush 2267269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Synchronicity: Trying not to wish the time away is so hard! Thanks for your encouragement :) Do you think something specific caused you to shift your position on TTC? Or just now that it's here it feels differently to you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267191 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 13:53:54 +0000 Mrs. Blush 2267191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Alivoo01: A weekly date like bowling sounds awesome - I may actually look into bowling since we both like it too. Great idea, thanks!</p> <p>@JH524: hahaha thank you!!! I feel ready! As for exercise, my fiance and I are racing to see who can log 100 miles first, hoping that will whip me into good shape!</p> <p>@Gingerbebe: Wow - thanks so much for your story. It's really comforting to know that even though I'm not getting what I want right this minute, I'm going to be grateful for this time. You have an amazing attitude and it sounds like you've been on quite a journey. Did you and your husband talk about TTC before/right after you got married? What was your favorite thing you did in those 6 months between marriage and TTC?</p> <p>Actually that's a good question for anyone reading this: what's your favorite thing you did with your SO before TTC? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267190 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 13:52:42 +0000 Synchronicity 2267190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome to HB! I feel like your intro post was me when I first got here... wedding planning, but really just baby planning :P I've had the fever on and off for a whiiiile now, but at the moment I've really cooled off (and poor DH is ready and willing). The reality for us is that we are in a good spot to TTC at any time, and I just can't bite the bullet! Hard to believe since I've had the baby rabies for a couple of years now. </p> <p>Anyway, the whole waiting thing can really suck, but do your best to have a blast with your fiance, enjoy wedding planning, and try not to wish the time away! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267128 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 13:17:11 +0000 gingerbebe 2267128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, I would just say enjoy the present and the season of life you are in and not let your vision for the future be what you're focus is on. That time you have has husband and wife without kids is precious - like it wont come back around for a really long time! So I would really soak it up, kinda like how people tell you to soak up that first year with your baby. It goes so fast and its so fun.</p> <p>My husband and I started TTC 6 months after we got married and with a bunch of health issues, it took us 3 years to have our son. Looking back, we are so grateful for those 3 years we had before our son was born. I just have this huge sense of gratitude for the years we could just be best friends living out our random adventures. We were trying for most of that time, minus the months I was recovering from MCs or brain surgery, but we also just kept working on our relationship and bonding and spending time with each other as much as we could because we knew that had to be rock solid for a family to work. </p> <p>Having a baby is totally consuming. Unless you have childcare, its hard to get out on regular dates and some days you can barely get a chance to talk to each other before falling asleep to a dirty house and an exhausted mess. Is it worth it? Of course. And our son, despite being a terrorist infant for the first 4 months of his life, is still our favorite little guy. But there are some days when I just miss being able to take spontaneous trips or doing dumb stuff together. We agree that season is over (at least until the kids are out of the house), but we also don't feel like we missed out on anything of being just the 2 of us. </p> <p>So I say be excited for your baby and have fun TTC but also really love on your husband and enjoy wedding planning and just all of THIS that you have right in front of you because you'll never have this time again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267126 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 13:11:23 +0000 jh524 2267126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just saw your above response. Just enjoy your wedding planning, have fun with it and go on lots of dates and movies while you can! Exercise and focus on your fitness for wedding and so your in great shape, healthy &amp; fit, prior to baby. !! Good luck </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267125 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 13:08:44 +0000 jh524 2267125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blush: welcome to HB ! I think you should get on that baby making business sooner !! Sounds like your ready!!! Lol :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267121 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 13:05:47 +0000 Alivoo01 2267121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome and congrats on the upcoming nuptials!! </p> <p>I hate waiting, but found stuff to do with DH to help fill in the time. Like we picked up weekly bowling since we both enjoy it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267114 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 13:01:27 +0000 Mrs. Blush 2267114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snoejewelz: totally! All the ladies in my office had babies last year, and that was rough. Maybe I should write down my 'logical reasons,' as I have to remind myself of those too!</p> <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: thanks SO much. OMG I have been craving this kind of support, so happy to be here :)</p> <p>Yes! Wedding planning is well underway, and an excellent way to get my mind off of baby fever :) It's a very productive way to channel all of my excitement. Our date is set for next June, and we've agreed TTC can begin afterward - so doubling an exciting time for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267083 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 12:24:55 +0000 snowjewelz 2267083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blush: Is there a wedding here somewhere since you refer to SO as fiance? If so, hopefully wedding planning will keep you busy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267082 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 12:24:53 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2267082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome! Cute screen name too!</p> <p>You can do both- live your life and have baby fever. There's nothing wrong with doing a little TTC prep, I wish I had, meaning taking prenatals and being healthy overall. Outside of that you're still you and your relationship still has to be nurtured. Besides, you can only get pregnant a few days each cycle although the 2WW can be a bitch! </p> <p>Last year I had a MC and we took a couple months off before TTC again. We made spending FUN time together outside of the house a major priority. I'd see babies at the festivals and outings we'd go together and instead of aching for one of my own I was actually excited I didn't have to pack up baby, diaper bag, stroller/ carrier just to attend! I guess being happy and finding the positive with where you are at the moment no matter what is how we got through the past year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267079 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 12:23:56 +0000 snowjewelz 2267079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Welcome!</p> <p>Strangely I didn't have baby fever even when we were TTC; but I def get the obsession part! </p> <p>Now I totally have baby fever for #2 (and #1 is barely 9 mo), so I always have to remind myself of all the logical reasons why we'll be waiting a while for #2. It's hard, esp when you're around babies/pregnant women IRL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267066 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 12:17:11 +0000 Mrs. Blush 2267066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cherrybee @banddmommy Thanks ladies! It is so nice just to get some love on this topic! So happy to be here at HB! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267061 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 12:15:02 +0000 BandDmommy 2267061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blush: Welcome! No advice because I never had baby fever. But wanted to welcome you to HB. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267058 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 12:13:09 +0000 Cherrybee 2267058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hello and welcome! </p> <p>I've only got hugs to give you I'm afraid because I SUCK at waiting! :heart: Baby fever is REAL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-fever-2#post-2267054 Wed, 19 Aug 2015 12:10:48 +0000 Mrs. Blush 2267054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi bees,</p> <p>I've been reading your posts for a long time now, and finally have joined! My fiance and I are one year away from TTC. This is my first post, but I've been following the community for so long now I already feel at home!</p> <p>So here's my question for you: how did you find happiness/contentment in the last year leading up to TTC when you had baby fever? I don't think I'm alone when I say it's really hard! I'm so excited, have read so much about TTC, and even obsess every month that maybe a 'happy accident' will have come my way - I will be the first to admit it comes close to an unhealthy obsession.</p> <p>I've read the standard advice: travel! enjoy your time with your SO! sleep in!</p> <p>But what about dealing with the reality of having a baby fever that doesn't really go away? I would love your insight, or even just a hug! </p>