https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 05:47:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-jealousy#post-469710 Sat, 29 Dec 2012 09:32:50 +0000 lomom 469710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whew, I'm glad to hear its normal! I was feeling so horrible, like a baby-grinch or something! </p> <p>I'm totally ecstatic that she has a healthy, beautiful baby and that she is recovering very quickly and that everyone is healthy but it's so hard to be not-jealous!</p> <p>I'm a little nervous too, especially when people start throwing out advice, that when my LO arrives, I'm going to get bombarded with "well SIL didn't do that" or "SIL's baby didn't *cry, spit up, whatever* that much" and stuff like that. I want to be a crazy first time mom and experience trial and error and learning with my baby and getting to know my baby, because they'll be different, all babies are different! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-jealousy#post-469549 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 23:12:01 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 469549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>HECK YEAH! Totally been there. My baby is only 10w old and when one of my husband's friends had their baby I got jealous :p She's so tiny and cute!....I miss when my baby was that small:)<br /> What bugs me THE MOST is that her mom copies everything I do. She asked me for recommendations for swings, car seats, bottles, pumps, strollers, and carriers and then LITERALLY got every.single.thing. I got. Everything. Every brand, every model, every size, just in pink. So, I am highly irritated that she basically copied everything of ours because our husbands are close and chances are, our kids will be together a lot.<br /> I'm usually not jealous but hey, parental rivalry starts early! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-jealousy#post-469486 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 22:21:39 +0000 cyndistar3 469486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yea totally normal! One of my friends had baby exactly a month before me and I've been jealous basically the whole time and was especially bad when she had the baby and I was still preggers. It totally seemed like I didn't exist anymore :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-jealousy#post-469478 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 22:11:31 +0000 MamaMoose 469478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my BFFs has a daughter who is 4 months older than my daughter and I've been jealous of her basically since he told me she was preggers. First I was jealous she was pregnant and I wasn't. Then I got pregnant right away... And then lost the baby so I had a lot of anger. Then I got pregnant right away again and was always jealous that she was in a "safer" zone than me (2nd tri, viability, 3rd tri etc). Then I was jealous that her LO was here and I was still preggers. Now I'm jealous that her LO sleeps through the night and is basically a perfect baby. I think it's only natural to compare with those closest to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-jealousy#post-469461 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 21:49:13 +0000 Cupcake 469461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sil is 12 weeks behind me! I can absolutely relate to how difficult it is. It's not that I'm jealous but now it's become a competition. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-jealousy#post-469460 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 21:48:23 +0000 heffalump 469460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get jealous too. I have a toddler but my sil just had a baby so I'm insanely jealous that she gets to have a newborn. I also have a good friend with a newborn and a 3 year old and I'm extra jealous of her because I want lots of babies and I want them NOW! </p> <p>I do love snuggling with their babies though. It does make me more jealous, but getting baby snuggles is worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-jealousy#post-469457 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 21:42:12 +0000 singingbee 469457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's normal. I've had problems with anger and jealousy because I had all my pregnant friends have great deliveries and have their babies. Why did mine be the one that was not full term? Why don't I get to have my baby? </p> <p>There are a lot of hormones involved and you get sick of the "advice" from everyone. I'm sorry people can't keep their mouths shut. </p> <p>Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-jealousy#post-469387 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 20:54:25 +0000 T.H.O.U. 469387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww Hun I think that sounds normal. Pregnancy is tough for even the best situations. Looking back I see how out of whack my hormones were. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-jealousy#post-468778 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 13:09:24 +0000 lomom 468778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't said anything about this to anyone because it really makes me feel like a bad person...</p> <p>My SIL just had a baby a few weeks ago and I'm bitterly jealous. I'm due in a few months and everyone keeps making comments about how I'm next and giving me extra (unsolicited) advice. </p> <p>I haven't talked to SIL much, except to congratulate her and comment on a few pictures. I'm very happy for her and for our family, every child is a blessing!</p> <p>But I'm so so jealous. I want my baby to be here. I want to hold him and snuggle him and see my husband be a daddy and all of that. I know it's just around the corner and I'm trying to keep my head on straight but it's hard!</p> <p>Can anyone relate? I just feel so awful for being so insanely jealous! </p>