https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 12:10:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2/page/2#post-2326546 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 22:15:47 +0000 dolphin 2326546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My close friends threw me a surprise sprinkle. I was really touched! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2/page/2#post-2326491 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 21:20:58 +0000 jh524 2326491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lots of great perspectives here! I know a lot of people who love giving gifts,myself included, but only when the budget allows otherwise it becomes a strain. Too bad we couldn't feel great celebrating each baby and just state gifts optional ;) lol. Or maybe making the party a gender reveal or diaper party or something. Many people want to share in the joy but I could see if a second mom had a huge gift registry and the whole nine how that could look gift grabby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2/page/2#post-2326457 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 20:40:21 +0000 MaisyMay 2326457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been at my company since just before LO1 turned 1. Now that LO2 is due in the spring, several people have asked if they can do a work shower. I mentioned it was really unnecessary, but even my boss is really excited, so I will be having a work shower.<br /> I am excited for a chance to have some social time worth my coworkers after the busy winter we are going to have, but will also mention that gifts are unnecessary. My coworkers want a chance to celebrate since many are either well done with having kids or have no plans soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2/page/2#post-2326444 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 20:32:25 +0000 Mamasig 2326444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to add that a lot of it may be cultural. My family is from Central America, and my mom thinks that every baby should get a shower. I told her it wasn't needed as my kids are both boys and only 20 months apart in age. </p> <p>I've been to sprinkles and am totally fine with that. It was mostly just personalized gifts anyway. </p> <p>I've also had to go to a SIL's shower (not sprinkle) for her 4th kid. She registered and everything. I felt that was pretty excessive. But once again, maybe cultural? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2/page/2#post-2326426 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 20:16:12 +0000 AggieDaze 2326426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime and @Mauxie: I guess what I meant earlier is that I think its kinda shitty that some people assume that someone who is having a party of some kind for their second LO is only out for presents (but no one specifically said that on this board though I have heard it before). But, I do agree that showers and sprinkles unfortunately tend to have that connotation. </p> <p>I'm probably a tad defensive about it as I didn't feel like I could say "no" to the person who asked to throw something, but also didn't want anyone to think it was in bad taste or because I wanted presents. </p> <p>Ultimately, I tried to avoid that connotation by asking the person throwing the "sprinkle" to add very clear language on the invitation. I also personally mentioned that I didn't want any gifts (the number of people invited was less than 8). There was no opening of gifts at my "sprinkle," no gift table, no gifts mentioned period. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2/page/2#post-2326077 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 15:58:23 +0000 mauxie 2326077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AggieDaze: I think any time the words "shower" or "sprinkle" are involved, people bring gifts. In my circle, even when you write "no gifts, please" people still bring gifts! It'd be different though if it was worded more as just a get-together before baby comes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2/page/2#post-2326059 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 15:42:04 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2326059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AggieDaze: hmm, I don't see how a shower or sprinkle is not a gift giving activity since a big component of a baby shower is showering the mom to be with gifts and 9/10 watching her open them. A sprinkle is a new/ more polite term for a second baby's shower- smaller scale in number of people and scope of gifts. But both events are focused on gifts/ prepping mom with stuff for the baby.</p> <p>I would need "no gifts" spelled out very clearly on a shower or sprinkle invite for me to understand a gift was not necessary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2/page/2#post-2326047 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 15:36:39 +0000 blackbird 2326047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did not, but E and T are 25 months apart. Some of my friends did take me to lunch and gifted me some boy things, though :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2/page/2#post-2326030 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 15:30:41 +0000 mauxie 2326030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a different gender 2nd and did not have a shower.</p> <p>A friend of mine brought it up and offered to put something together for me, but I just said "ohh I don't really need anything" and left it at that. I'm sure if I was more interested, she would've been happy to host. </p> <p>Personally I felt a shower wasn't needed since my two are relatively close in age and I already have all the gear. Plus, I figured people who were going to gift us diapers or clothes would do so regardless. So for those friends we had them come over to meet the baby and a quick dinner or dessert. It was nice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2/page/2#post-2326025 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 15:27:35 +0000 AggieDaze 2326025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its also weird that a lot of responses on this board equate a shower or sprinkle with gifts. </p> <p>I like the idea of a get together to celebrate subsequent children, but would want to ensure no one felt obligated to bring a gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2/page/2#post-2326022 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 15:24:13 +0000 AggieDaze 2326022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my best friends threw a sprinkle for our same sex LO2. She asked ahead of time, and I was fine with it as long as there was a note on the invitations that made it clear that I did not want presents. She put something like "Your company is present enough. No gifts please."</p> <p>Honestly, it was wonderful and I'm so glad that she did it. It was a smaller group than my first LO's showers and we were really able to just sit around and catch up (which is tough to do typically with a toddler). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2/page/2#post-2325998 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 15:10:46 +0000 LadyPantaloons 2325998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS (opposite sex from first) is due in Dec and I think my sister is planning a "sip and see" tea in January (very uncommon to have showers before the baby is born in my area). I imagine I and the baby will get some gifts. I'm hoping for diapers, wipes, and either meals or gift cards for curb-side pick-up meals. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2/page/2#post-2325410 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 09:23:07 +0000 erinbaderin 2325410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I I don't really get the "all babies should be celebrated" thing. I mean, I agree that all babies should be celebrated by their family. But I don't really see how a baby shower (or a sprinkle, or whatever) is celebrating the baby - it seems like it's celebrating the mom. It's like throwing a birthday party for somebody who isn't there. I always bring a little gift when invited to go and meet a new baby, regardless of how many other babies there in the family, but I would definitely resent being invited to a second-baby shower. Lucky for me, it's not a thing in my group of friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2/page/2#post-2325319 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 08:27:27 +0000 meredithNYC 2325319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Ohhhhh... then yeah, I wouldn't refuse. BUT, I am the type who would bitch about it to my husband and also kind of resent going - which might be worse! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2325293 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 08:14:06 +0000 NavyRN2012 2325293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did, only because #2 was a different sex and 7 years after #1, so it was like starting all over again.<br /> I would not have had a full blown shower had it been otherwise, but I believe a small sprinkle or sip n see after the baby is born is okay. All babies should be celebrated! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2325291 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 08:12:26 +0000 looch 2325291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: I meant that you, as a guest, refused to attend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2325287 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 08:10:54 +0000 meredithNYC 2325287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I did! A friend wanted to throw a shower for my second but I don't think it's good etiquette. I am also at a stage in my life where friends have celebrated my wedding and first child while some of them are neither married nor have kids and it makes me uncomfortable to have them always gifting me things. But then, I'm also the type to request no gifts for baptisms/birthdays. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2325284 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 08:09:07 +0000 clover 2325284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Second showers have not been done in my circle and I'm not really a fan anyway. All babies can be celebrated without having an event where it is expected to bring a gift. I love baby clothes so I always give a few outfits and a pack of diapers no matter what number child or sex someone is having but I don't like the obligatory gift giving of a shower. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2325278 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 08:06:49 +0000 Alivoo01 2325278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm having a different sex and a really close friend is offering to throw me a sprinkle, even though I said no. We're keeping it strictly to family vs a big ole party like we did for DS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2325269 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 08:01:17 +0000 Bao 2325269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No shower, close in age and same sex. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2325247 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 07:36:22 +0000 LulaBee 2325247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friends threw me a shower for my second this past weekend. We were TG with both, but they are different seasons. I had a stillbirth in between these 2 pregnancies, so I think it was as much to celebrate and get excited about this baby as to give gifts. Either way, it was very special and I appreciated it so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2325238 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 07:21:09 +0000 ladybee 2325238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My plan was nothing for this baby if it was another boy (which it is). For a girl we were going to have a sprinkle. </p> <p>My husbands family is extremely generous and they love to spoil kids (and the nieces and nephews that are adults). I'm sure we will still receive diapers and some things as they are asking to do a diaper party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2325214 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 06:24:24 +0000 looch 2325214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will be honest, I really think you can go either way these days. There are so many people who are all "no showers past the first child, no matter what, it is gift grabby" and then eventually, they stop caring about what everyone else is doing. </p> <p>I personally don't know anyone that has flat out refused to go to a second shower on the grounds of etiquette, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2325213 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 06:22:04 +0000 yellowbird 2325213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a little sprinkle at work and a family get together/sprinkle it was very casual! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2325188 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 01:41:01 +0000 HabesBabe 2325188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Different sex, no shower or sprinkle. I'm kinda anti-2nd showers and didn't want one (we were team green for both pregnancies, so we didn't know the sex). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2325180 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 00:20:55 +0000 littleblessings 2325180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a shower for LO2 but it was a boy and LO1 was a girl. I also never had a shower for LO1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2325175 Mon, 19 Oct 2015 00:06:34 +0000 sometimesshesings 2325175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My work friends are throwing me a shower for baby #2, too! We're team green for the second time, so we have most of what we need. I'm sort of embarrassed about the shower and I tried to decline it, but I also feel touched that they insisted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2325085 Sun, 18 Oct 2015 20:12:49 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2325085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No shower, different gender. We are getting gifts in the mail now that he is here though! But no registry or anything like that, just outfits and stuff for big sister. I have nothing against anyone who has a shower for #2+ but I do see showers as sort of a first baby thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2324968 Sun, 18 Oct 2015 17:57:45 +0000 mrsjyw 2324968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My coworkers threw a baby shower with cake and a diaper cake and a generous gift card saying that every baby should be celebrated! This is the same team that already threw me a shower for ds1! I was so truly touched as we were also having our second boy. </p> <p>No personal shower or sprinkle but we were overwhelmed with the gifts sent from friends and family near and far for ds2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/baby-shower-for-baby-2#post-2324932 Sun, 18 Oct 2015 16:29:38 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2324932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In my circle second showers are common even when close in age and same gender. I use "circle" loosely...this is my obligatory circle. </p>